fred123 Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 Dating is so hard! Im a guy and have found it very hard trying to get a date with a girl and then keeping them. Women i know have used and manipulated me and guys and im questioning where are all the good women?! Self esteem and mental health has been low for years after some poor experiences with the other sex. I look at all my friends and the girls they see treat them so nice and proper.
CaliforniaGirl Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 Okay. So let's start out with the most basic questions. How old are you? How long have you been dating/have you had successful relationships? Where are you finding your dates? You say you have mental health issues. I am sorry. Have you sought help? 2
Author fred123 Posted October 23, 2020 Author Posted October 23, 2020 11 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Okay. So let's start out with the most basic questions. How old are you? How long have you been dating/have you had successful relationships? Where are you finding your dates? You say you have mental health issues. I am sorry. Have you sought help? Its my self esteem. No successful realtionships. I feel like a lot of women dont see me in a sexual or partner way. And when they do its just sex. I feel like some women disrespect me and dont treat me well when I compare stories of my friends. Iv given up.on dating and feel more happier
CaliforniaGirl Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 (edited) 5 minutes ago, fred123 said: Its my self esteem. No successful realtionships. I feel like a lot of women dont see me in a sexual or partner way. And when they do its just sex. I feel like some women disrespect me and dont treat me well when I compare stories of my friends. Iv given up.on dating and feel more happier I wish you wouldn't give up. Not to play shrink, but if you were happier this way, would you be posting about it here? You just asked where all the good women are. Obviously, you haven't given up. Where did your friends with their successful relationships find their girlfriends? Where do you look for girlfriends? Are you seeking help for your issues? You're attracting women, at least sexually. You have low self-esteem, and I know that overrides platitudes, but have you taken into consideration that with this interest being shown, you may be more attractive than you think? Edited October 23, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl
carhill Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 Dating is hard until it's not. Try viewing women as interchangeable until one is not. That's not rude nor dismissive, rather reflective of the reality that there are billions around. If one intrudes on your boundaries, which you've alluded to here in part with the words 'used' and 'manipulated', simply eject them and place them back into the billions you'll likely never know nor care about in any demonstrative way. Tear down those pedestals; you have the power to do that and no one can take it away from you. Practice it today! 3 1
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 Fred123: I'm sorry you're feeling down. What I have noticed is that you let these women use and manipulate you when you know very well they're not treating you right. In one case that I followed on here you let it go for months and months while we all told you she wasn't treating you right. When you don't have boundaries and you let people walk all over you that's how you grow bitter, defeated and lose hope. When a woman doesn't treat you right you drop her fast. You don't let it destroy you before quitting. Good women are everywhere, you need to check your women picker. Sounds like you have a thing for bad girls. 1 1
Wiseman2 Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 The best thing you can do is be more realistic and screen better. That means people who are in your age group, local and who you have more in common with. 1
Trail Blazer Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 It sounds like you've had a bit of bad luck, pal. There are good women out there, I can assure you. I found one when I wasn't looking for one. I did get pretty lucky, though. There's plenty of women on here who complain a lot about how they get used for sex or just generally treated poorly. Perhaps one day you'll come across someone who feels aggrieved from the female perspective of things and you guys are looking for the same. Keep your head held high and try not to take rejection to heart. Easier said than done, I know. But, not getting bogged down and negative due to a lack of success is key.
smackie9 Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 It's all about attitude and self worth. If you don't have that confidence/edginess you will be treated like crap....stop being too eager, people pleasing doormat. 1
MrPlop Posted October 25, 2020 Posted October 25, 2020 Work on yourself buddy, the only one who can make you happy is you. 1
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Wiseman2 Posted October 25, 2020 Posted October 25, 2020 On 10/23/2020 at 6:46 PM, fred123 said: Im curious about a situation before I get involved. About 6 months ago I was in a school teaching for a month then I left. Last week I was in touch with a former pupil who is 17 now and she is off to another college. Is it legal to get involved or not? I am from the UK Well, a 30 y/o man going after this type of thing is bound to be a no win situation. You need to get on some quality (paid) dating apps with a good profile and pics and start messaging and meeting local women in your own age group. You also need to screen better with regard to other values and demographics.
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