Arthur89 Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 Hi, would you ever contact a girl again if she didnt reply to your last date proposal but she replied to my very last text. I havent text her since and its been almost 11 days of no contact now. I think the most likely reason she didnt react is that she feels like i care about her more than she cares about me therefore she feels she got little bit of power over me. Thanks for replies.
ShyViolet Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 If you asked her out on a date and she didn't reply, that's pretty clear that she's not interested. Why would you follow her around and keep trying? Move on. 4
Author Arthur89 Posted October 23, 2020 Author Posted October 23, 2020 Yea but ive been on 2 dates with this girl already.
Mystery4u Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 1 minute ago, Arthur89 said: Yea but ive been on 2 dates with this girl already. Either way it doesn't change anything. You went on 2 dates, so what. You asked her out for a 3rd, she didnt reply. It's been 17 days and she hasn't contacted you.. She's not interested. Move on.
Miss Spider Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 (edited) Just ask her one more time and if she doesn’t respond with an affirmative delete her number. What do you have to lose? She is probably not that interested but you know you’ll wonder what if if you don’t. . I’ve seen other dudes on here be more persistent than asking once more they got the date. You’re not writing her a sonnet You are just saying hey want to go out next Friday? Just do it without a second thought Edited October 23, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Wiseman2 Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 21 minutes ago, Arthur89 said: Yea but ive been on 2 dates with this girl already. Unfortunately in the beginning people are still talking to and meeting others. The one or two and done phenomenon is common. She ghosted, but you could ask one more time, if it's anything but a 'yes' to a date, delete and block her. 1 1
Author Arthur89 Posted October 23, 2020 Author Posted October 23, 2020 8 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Just ask her one more time and if she doesn’t respond with an affirmative delete her number. What do you have to lose? She is probably not that interested but you know you’ll wonder what if if you don’t. . I’ve seen other dudes on here be more persistent than asking once more they got the date. You’re not writing her a sonnet You are just saying hey want to go out next Friday? Just do it without a second thought Yes i was thinking the same thing but im gonna give her at least 2 weeks before i ask her out again. Thing is we already had the date set and then she flaked on me few hour before the date and then i kinda screw up cuz i said: ok text me later, see ya. So she asked me if I was mad ?And then couple of hours later i sent her another text about rescheduling the date. I know it was a mistake
smackie9 Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 I know when I was interested, I wouldn't hesitate to see them again, and be in constant contact. So that being said, dude she's blowin ya off...stop wasting your time.
LuckyM Posted October 27, 2020 Posted October 27, 2020 Agreed. Trying again will disappoint you. I have been thru this many times. It is frustrating 1
Be Cool Posted October 28, 2020 Posted October 28, 2020 On 10/24/2020 at 12:17 AM, Arthur89 said: Hi, would you ever contact a girl again if she didnt reply to your last date proposal but she replied to my very last text. I havent text her since and its been almost 11 days of no contact now. I think the most likely reason she didnt react is that she feels like i care about her more than she cares about me therefore she feels she got little bit of power over me. Thanks for replies. You only give out a maximum of TWO invitations to a woman. If she declines for the second time, you stop contacting her and move on to other women.
Starry_eyed Posted October 28, 2020 Posted October 28, 2020 I get the perspective of 'nothing to lose' by texting her again but her actions (flaked on date, no contact from her for over 2 weeks and not responding to your 3rd date request) strongly suggest disinterest / unreliable / not taking this seriously. There is also a risk that if you ask her out on another date and she isn't interested, she might say yes anyway and waste your time a bit longer. Invest your time in getting to know other ladies who are giving you theirs and don't hold out on this girl.
Miss Spider Posted October 28, 2020 Posted October 28, 2020 (edited) ^ Good point and that happens a lot. Ideally, everyone dates people where there’s a mutual high level of interest from the start. People don’t do that, though. I’ve noticed a lot of relationships begin with less interest, particularly on the woman’s end. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people say that their wife rejected them at first when they first started dating. it’s only one quick follow-up text to see if she wants to go out again. It’s not like he’s hounding her. If his dignity is held on by a single text then he has bigger problems Edited October 28, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes
Fletch Lives Posted October 28, 2020 Posted October 28, 2020 Date two, date three, date four, date five, it does not matter.........that's not enough time to fall in love, and until they fall in love, you have no hook and they can bail at anytime. If you have trouble setting a date, they are not interested.
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2020 Posted October 28, 2020 (edited) On 10/23/2020 at 2:14 PM, Arthur89 said: Yes i was thinking the same thing but im gonna give her at least 2 weeks before i ask her out Thing is we already had the date set and then she flaked on me few hour before the date and then i kinda screw up cuz i said: ok text me later, see ya. So she asked me if I was mad ?And then couple of hours later i sent her another text about rescheduling the date. I know it was a mistake That was not a mistake. But now that 11 days have passed, the ship sailed. She's got to be thinking that you are a game player if you pop up almost 2 weeks later. But her behavior certainly doesn't indicate much interest on her part. If you insist on reaching out you will need to be clear which is hard because there is so much open ended here. She hasn't been forthcoming either. I'd say something along the lines of Hey. What's up? Long time no talk. Sorry about that but I'm not sure what you want. I'd like to take you out again but I'm not certain that is what you want. Let me know. Give that 2-3 days. If you hear nothing delete & move on. Edited October 28, 2020 by d0nnivain 1
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