What to accept and what not to accept

[Miss Spider]

The only way I would date a guy that didn’t smoke weed occasionally would be if he had to stop because of his job or health

[ZA Dater]

1 minute ago, Foxhall said:

this could be the lady might suit you, she will likely be a more relaxed character which could help you feel more comfortable.

Ghosted.

[ZA Dater]

14 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Oh za!!! , this is another one of your posts where a vent about how your options are so slim is thinly veiled by a hypothetical question. 

Not at all. I am just curious as to if people are ever motivated enough or have reason to re assess deal breakers based on their own situation at the time.  Though having said that would simply removing deal breakers just put one on a slippery slope to disaster?

[Miss Spider]

I see. Yea. think that depends on the person and what their preferences are/what they’re looking for . By definition they are things that break the “deal” or cause the person to not want to date that individual. I guess, hypothetically, a person with no options and desperate enough for a mate will accept anything 

Edited October 23, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[CaliforniaGirl]

Criminal past. OTOH I don't think I ever encountered that possibility while dating.

Never crazy about heavy alcohol use, either. It's sloppy, they can be loud, sometimes violent, sometimes a person who drinks heavily can think he's "fine to drive," people sometimes don't think they're acting drunk when they definitely are, alcoholics will think (or say) they're not actually alcoholics. I have some experience with this so that will always be a no with me. Too frustrating, no solution and they will never stop "for you," and it's very dangerous at times.

[Maldives]

If they smoke or do drugs or drink too much that would not interest me at all. And I kinda decided for me if they have kids I'm not interested either even if there older just don't wanna deal with someone else's baggage 

[CaliforniaGirl]

3 hours ago, ZA Dater said:

Not at all. I am just curious as to if people are ever motivated enough or have reason to re assess deal breakers based on their own situation at the time.  Though having said that would simply removing deal breakers just put one on a slippery slope to disaster?

Why, are you considering it?

If it's dangerous I wouldn't. If it were something like age or distance I probably would.

[Chilli]

You'll probably find all that's just automatic when the time comes op . With thee right person you can overlook things you wouldn't with someone else but there'll be things too that you just won't , with anyone.