Timshel Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 4 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Oh no, I am not hesitant, I told him in a nice way, and in an annoyed way, that I am tired of living in a mess. After reading here I am leaning toward giving him a deadline. On the other hand renovation slows down in December and he'll have more time on his hand but thinking I have to look at those messy walls for another 2 months makes me moody! Ok, if it were me, I wouldn't put any family in the path of an annoyance with my husband. I would tell him this Saturday I am painting the walls myself and it may not be as well as your job but that's the price of peace and I'm sure it won't be crap as I'm not half bad. As Ruby said, he may fix any mistakes. Maybe he'll suddenly have Sat. free. 1
Author Gaeta Posted October 23, 2020 Author Posted October 23, 2020 6 minutes ago, Timshel said: I wouldn't put any family in the path of an annoyance with my husband. My daughter already warned me her bf volunteers only if my bf approves...they don't want to offend my bf. 2
Happy Lemming Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: and winter is coming quickly... The time to sand drywall and paint is BEFORE it gets cold. I always like to do drywall repairs and painting during warmer times, so I can open the windows/doors and blow the drywall dust and paint fumes outside. 2
Calmandfocused Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 I would talk to him again and sell it in a way that benefits him and relieves his pressure. Say you can see how hard he’s working and how you don’t want to add to his work stressors. Say you want to hire someone to do the job so it helps him, and you’ll subsequently have more time together when he isn’t at work. Reinforce what an amazing job he’s done so far and how you love him for it. He sounds like a reasonable guy so he might appreciate it if you put it like that. 2
smackie9 Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: well...when I told him daughter's boyfriend offered his help my bf replied he won't do it as good as him. My daughter's bf painted their house and the painting looks nice to me. My bf works in renovation so he has a very critical eye. Ya but the house will be on the market soon and he won't have to look at it.
Author Gaeta Posted October 23, 2020 Author Posted October 23, 2020 3 minutes ago, smackie9 said: Ya but the house will be on the market soon and he won't have to look at it. THAT depends. It's a whole different chapter. He wants us to buy a house together, that's why he's been working like a crazy man and saving. He wants to buy a fixer upper. I will not move in a house to live with power tools, electrical wires and constant dust. If it's really his dream than he can buy the house and I will stay in my condo. 1 1
smackie9 Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 (edited) I can agree with that 100% Edited October 23, 2020 by smackie9
mark clemson Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 4 hours ago, Gaeta said: and winter is coming 1
Author Gaeta Posted October 23, 2020 Author Posted October 23, 2020 @Mark Clemson and to add to the matter, to prep the room for painting he disconnected the heating in living room and dinning area. We're suppose to go below 0 next week. Maybe that's what will give him a kick in the butt, he cannot endure the cold like I can. 1
smackie9 Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 If it were me I would do it myself, and tell him when he has time he can do his final touches on it in March.
mark clemson Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: and to add to the matter, to prep the room for painting he disconnected the heating in living room and dinning area. We're suppose to go below 0 next week. At least there's no zombie army coming. Yet...
Chilli Posted October 23, 2020 Posted October 23, 2020 (edited) lt's nothing to do with ego he probably just really wanted to do the work for you, and finish the job. l mean if you were making something for him , you wouldn't want someone else to finish it would you. How's that a bad thing wish someone was lining up to do my place. But eh , he has a lot on too. Only 2mths , not long considering how busy he is give him a bit more time he knows well and truly you want if finished. it's in the works. Edited October 23, 2020 by Chilli 1
Author Gaeta Posted October 23, 2020 Author Posted October 23, 2020 30 minutes ago, smackie9 said: If it were me I would do it myself, and tell him when he has time he can do his final touches on it in March. I've painted plenty of times but I've never done plaster. At this time there is 1 coat of plaster, I hear it needs 2-3 then sanding. Imagine if I paint over a bad sanding job, I'd have to live with it.
carhill Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 11 hours ago, Gaeta said: Patched holes in the walls that have not been sanded 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: At this time there is 1 coat of plaster, I hear it needs 2-3 then sanding How big were the holes? Generally, small ones, like for wall bracket bolts, can be done in one shot, bigger ones, like a hammer hole in the wall, may take a mud/sand/mud/sand, etc to blend it. Is the wall textured or smooth? I hate doing mud work but have done plenty of it over five decades and rentals and residences. It's pretty easy. Hardest part is giving the mud time to really set up before sanding. Most recently I did the ceiling in the shop office, new drywall, tape and texture and did a new roll-on texture, basically texture compound mixed to the consistency of thick paint and rolled on with a roller, then painted over that. No mess, no hopper gun splatter everywhere, simple. Anyway, unless I misunderstand the scope it shouldn't take more than a couple days to do and that's mostly drying. Does that wonderful stone fireplace work? IF yes, there's your heat. I use mine every day in the winter, heats the whole house. Good luck!
Author Gaeta Posted October 24, 2020 Author Posted October 24, 2020 @carhill He did some rewiring to hang tv on opposite wall so bigger holes and he did a big job around the bay-window (old water infiltration). That's what he says, it needs to dry through he can't rush it. He came in early tonight. He was in bed at 20h30. He said tomorrow he's working here Yes my fireplace is functional. I would miss living without one, that's the one thing that makes me enjoy winter.
carhill Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 Question, is this lath (wood/metal) and plaster, generally thick, like an inch or more, or is it drywall/gypsum board and compound, generally 1/2 to 3/4" thick? Each requires a different strategy. Generally I use 90 minute bag mud (not premix) on drywall and do it in thin coats, which set up much quicker, usually it's possible to do three or four coats a day with that. I use a pole sander but one can also do it with sandpaper tacked to a 2x4, anything flat to level and blend. Quartz work lights will make things easier to see and also put heat out to speed setting. Things will go faster in a warm dry room versus a cool, damp one. As example of a large job, the ceiling over where I'm posting this, 14x28', was popcorn (a spray accoustical product decades ago) and I steamed it off, floated the tape joints with 3 coats of mud and a 12" taping knife, sanding each, shot texture (hopper gun) and sealed/painted in four days, start to finish. When they do popcorn, they usually just slam some tape on the joints and do one coat of mud over the tape since the popcorn hides stuff, and I was going with orange peel texture and semi-gloss paint, so things needed to be smooth like you're doing. Back when married, my exW would help out with what she could, she was a better trim painter than I was, and she'd fix lunch and flirt a little, making the jobs more fun. Fun helps get it done.
Wiseman2 Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 18 hours ago, Gaeta said: My daughter already warned me her bf volunteers only if my bf approves...they don't want to offend my bf. Just hire someone to finish the work. That ends the dispute, frustration and nagging. 1
Author Gaeta Posted October 24, 2020 Author Posted October 24, 2020 @Carhill are you free for a plaster job this weekend? lol I am not sure what he's using. I see containers of premix and I also see powder to be mixed. In the worse spots he used mesh. He will do the walls and I'll do the baseboards and crown moldings. We got up to heavy rain, not the best for this job. I'll blow on the paint if I have to lol
smackie9 Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 I have an old crappy 1960's house that needs renoing, so I turned to youtube....Youtube has a lot of great videos on plastering and whatever else. I'm hoping Home Depot still has those free classes on how to do tiling, flooring, etc. It's looking like we are going to go ahead, put a small mortgage on the house and get on it. The housing market right now is insane. It would be cheaper for us to stay and reno rather than try and buy. I can't believe my house is around $900K with out a reno.
Author Gaeta Posted October 24, 2020 Author Posted October 24, 2020 I wonder if the house market craziness is only here in Canada. I could sell my condo for a little fortune but anything else I'd want to buy would be 3 times the real price too. Selling to re-buy isn't a good move right now. I had a budget to change my patio doors and windows and the real-estate that visited me said if I want to sell in the next 2 years to not even bother changing those. My kitchen, bathroom and floors are up to date.
d0nnivain Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 No the house market craziness is in every suburb. It's all the flight out of the densely packed cities since Covid began in March. It's also driven the AirBnB market crazy. Properties in seaside towns near me that were renting for $150 -- $200 per night last summer were over $350 per night this summer.
FMW Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 I live in a large city and real estate has been moving really quickly for months. I'm not sure why other than the really low interest rates right now. I'm planning to buy in my neighborhood (I'm currently just renting) but not until next year probably. I keep an eye on the listings and usually within a week or so they are marked as "pending". If it's still like this when I'm ready to buy I'm already prepared to have to have a realtor watching for new listings so I can jump on it if I'm interested.
Author Gaeta Posted October 24, 2020 Author Posted October 24, 2020 It's common here to have 4-5 buyers betting on same house. You put it up for sale at 300K and you'll sell it at 420K. I wonder why people are ready to pay 100K more for a house when it's well known it's a temporary bubble due to covid.
FMW Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 I bought at the top of a bubble back in 2006. I sold following my divorce a few years ago, and pretty much just broke even because at that point the market had never fully regained to the same level. My realtor and I joked I could go to McDonald's with the check I received at closing. It wasn't quite that bad, but it was disappointing. But then again, I would have been paying to live somewhere during those years, so I didn't feel that bad about it. I definitely hope to have better timing when I buy again.
Miss Spider Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 (edited) Lol @ withhold sex. I thought of something else. If/when you discuss having someone else do it if he cannot do it in a certain amount of time, be sweet about it and tell him how much better it would be if he got it done and how much you’d prefer him to do it. The male ego can’t be saved. Edited October 24, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes 2
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