SomeDude16 Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 Just curious how often others are texting/communicating with matches/dates/etc. and what they are doing to keep the interest going? Mid 20's college (m) that has been texting a woman similar in age. We are at the same school and share a class but in different locations due to it being in online format. Anyway, I already secured the date for when we are back in the same city, but God knows when that will be (hopefully one or two months) but maybe longer. I guess I'm not used to the whole "online" aspect of it, it feels weird to me. I'm just trying to strike a balance of keeping the interest up, but not being pen pals and coming off as clingy. All my texts are received well, (lots of 'hahahas' and emojis) and everything is reciprocated. Is it ok to let the conversation die on purpose and revive it a few days later? I just don't want to burn this out before our first date but I also want to keep her interested. Any and all input and advice appreciated! Thanks friends!
Wiseman2 Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 3 hours ago, SomeDude16 said: Mid 20's college (m) that has been texting a woman similar in age. We are at the same school and share a class but in different locations due to it being in online format. Anyway, I already secured the date for when we are back in the same city, but God knows when that will be (hopefully one or two months) but maybe longer. You're doing a lot of things right, especially have a date lined up. What about mixing it up? Sometimes, text, sometimes call, sometimes videochat, etc. Are you on each other's social media? 1
Author SomeDude16 Posted October 22, 2020 Author Posted October 22, 2020 10 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: You're doing a lot of things right, especially have a date lined up. What about mixing it up? Sometimes, text, sometimes call, sometimes videochat, etc. Are you on each other's social media? Yes we are, that's all well. She actually initiated that part so all good there. I really just know what frequency of communication we should be at. In person you can read body language/tone/etc. but through text its minimized down to emojis and lol's. In person you can also work in physical connections but now its obviously not feasible. Like how do you escalate things virtually? Do you escalate things before the first actual date? Is it moving too fast if you don't know when you will meet (hopefully soon but again, maybe months) and can you keep it up for that long? Should you keep it up that long, or is it wasted energy? Is it too risky to let conversations die? The virtual thing is all super new and super weird to me (if you couldn't already tell haha). Anyway, thanks for taking time to help me out, its appreciated!
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