Alwayscats Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 (edited) I have a new boyfriend and we have been seeing each other for 2 weeks and we have only had sex twice is this normal. He rejects my advances and tells me he isn’t in the mood? I’m confused I feel like I’ve done something wrong or maybe it’s because of my weight. When I touch him down there he slaps my hand away and tells me to stop Is this normal after two weeks to not want sex? Edited October 21, 2020 by Alwayscats Was not finished
Fletch Lives Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 That's really bad that he rejects your advances. Huge turnoff. I don't suspect you'll be with him long. Definitely a deal breaker. 1
Author Alwayscats Posted October 21, 2020 Author Posted October 21, 2020 (edited) I agree it’s really off putting. He’s only 25 as well and I’m nearly 30 Edited October 21, 2020 by Alwayscats
Fletch Lives Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 The age difference is up to you. But the pulling back when you reach for him is bad news, it's rejection. Eventually it will turn you off so much you'll leave him. Never refuse your partner sex and affection. That should be a relationship rule. It's not like it's a terrible burden!
Author Alwayscats Posted October 21, 2020 Author Posted October 21, 2020 2 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: The age difference is up to you. But the pulling back when you reach for him is bad news, it's rejection. Eventually it will turn you off so much you'll leave him. Never refuse your partner sex and affection. That should be a relationship rule. It's not like it's a terrible burden! I know what ya mean hun but I’ve always known I had a high sex drive but obviously we have only been together 2 weeks and only done it twice. It’s not the be all and end all but I would like it lol. I wanna feel loved and I wanna feel like somebody is attracted to me that’s all... 1
carhill Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 Did he strongly pursue you sexually early? Did you know each other before the past two weeks?
d0nnivain Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 yes, this is bad. IMO only knowing him for 2 weeks is too fast to be having sex but since you started * he's already not interested you two have mismatched sex drives. I wouldn't bother pursuing this. Go find someone whose drive matches yours. 4
Wiseman2 Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, Alwayscats said: I have a new boyfriend and we have been seeing each other for 2 weeks and we have only had sex twice is this normal. He rejects my advances and tells me he isn’t in the mood? It's unclear why you are rushing things like this. 14 days and he's your BF? Don't seek validation through sex. It seems like you are wasting your time on this guy. Edited October 21, 2020 by Wiseman2 1
notbroken Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 Next him. Life is short. Don't spend it with someone that doesn't want you. 3
Mystery4u Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 This is very bad. He won't change in the future, it's how he is. End this 2 week fling and find a real man who matches your drive. 1
Author Alwayscats Posted October 21, 2020 Author Posted October 21, 2020 5 hours ago, carhill said: Did he strongly pursue you sexually early? Did you know each other before the past two weeks? Yes we did know each other for a while before we got together. No we had a few dates before we had sex.
mark clemson Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 Perhaps something is a bit off "down there"? For example he has ED and hasn't taken his meds, didn't wash recently, masturbated earlier that day and might not be up for actual sex are all possibilities. That said, I think this is off and definitely an issue. You could try that amazingly difficult feat of open discussion and explain that you're surprised at his lack of interest and ask him exactly why he isn't interested. I actually doubt he'll be honest with you, but it's worth a shot. If this continues without good reason (and some resolution), then I'd say yeah, maintaining this relationship is probably a mistake and just throwing good money after bad. 1
Trail Blazer Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 Just ask him straight out what his deal is. It'll bring the issue to a head and it'll go one of two ways; he'll either get defensive and refuse to talk about it. Or, it will open up important dialog where the two of you can try to work things out. My guess is that he'll get defensive and not want to discuss it. In that case you must move on. You've been together for two weeks. If he's already unwilling to fulfill your needs, it doesn't bode well for the future. Nexting him should not be difficult to do.
Author Alwayscats Posted October 22, 2020 Author Posted October 22, 2020 9 hours ago, mark clemson said: Perhaps something is a bit off "down there"? For example he has ED and hasn't taken his meds, didn't wash recently, masturbated earlier that day and might not be up for actual sex are all possibilities. That said, I think this is off and definitely an issue. You could try that amazingly difficult feat of open discussion and explain that you're surprised at his lack of interest and ask him exactly why he isn't interested. I actually doubt he'll be honest with you, but it's worth a shot. If this continues without good reason (and some resolution), then I'd say yeah, maintaining this relationship is probably a mistake and just throwing good money after bad. Thank you. I will defiantly speak to him about it and see what comes of it. 1
SumGuy Posted October 28, 2020 Posted October 28, 2020 On 10/21/2020 at 9:04 AM, Alwayscats said: I have a new boyfriend and we have been seeing each other for 2 weeks and we have only had sex twice is this normal. He rejects my advances and tells me he isn’t in the mood? I’m confused I feel like I’ve done something wrong or maybe it’s because of my weight. When I touch him down there he slaps my hand away and tells me to stop Is this normal after two weeks to not want sex? I hate to get judgmental but it's not what I call a normal libido level at all. I'd say he has a very low libido and possibly issues (physical and/or mental) around sex. For me, at 25, 2 weeks into a relationship...when wasn't I in the mood? Recall back in those days we were so much in the mood we had to schedule time to do other things besides sex. You haven't done anything wrong and don't start finding flaws with yourself. If he wasn't good with your weight he shouldn't have agreed to be your boyfriend/date you.
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