Author Bgal Posted October 22, 2020 Author Posted October 22, 2020 4 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: I would find this quite concerning. Not necessarily the liking of her profile picture, but the lack of liking yours. I wouldn't go so far as to suggest you dump him, but I'd be paying extra attention to things from here. I would not be feeling very secure if I were in your shoes. He’s liked pics of mine (of me and my daughter) and I don’t post that much so there’s not that many to like. However he’s not liked my profile my pic which I’ve changed twice since we got together. I’d say once it could’ve been an oversight but not twice and he knew I had a new profile pic up.
Be Cool Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, Bgal said: Please re-read my original posts, seems you missed a few things before you hurled your accusations at me. I read everything you wrote here, and I still retain my original opinions on you. And no, please don't accuse me of accusing you just because I pointed out the fact that your action (being over-concerned and over-analysed his and his ex-gf's online activities on social media, including the fact he did not bestow upon you some "likes") were not aligned with your words. If you really truly "paid it no mind", you would not have posted this thread here asking whether you should be worried or not, in the 1st place. Edited October 22, 2020 by Be Cool
ExpatInItaly Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 3 hours ago, Be Cool said: If you really truly "paid it no mind", you would not have posted this thread here asking whether you should be worried or not, in the 1st place. I think OP meant she paid it no mind at first, but her feelings have changed. I don't see her saying it doesn't bother her now. 1
Wiseman2 Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 You're right. It has nothing to do with social media likes. It has to do with him staying on her radar. With that knowledge, you can decide if this relatively new situation is worth your while.
Author Bgal Posted November 9, 2020 Author Posted November 9, 2020 Update: So I decided to give it a chance and see what happens, since other than the likes I really didn’t have any evidence of anything. Well unfortunately this past weekend, I saw all I needed to see. I saw him yesterday evening, we were at his place. He went outside for a cigarette and accidentally left his phone on the coffee table ( he typically takes it with him), now I know what I did was wrong and I’ve never done this before but I feel like it was just staring me in the face and with all my suspicions I gave in and looked at his phone. Low and behold I had seen there was a text conversation between them that he initiated Saturday night, the last thing he said to her was that he “misses talking to her”, meanwhile this whole time he has still been liking all her posts on social media. Granted, it seemed like a catch up conversation and doesn’t seem like they’ve met up or anything and there was no mention of seeing her, but still it’s not a good sign. I didn’t tell him what I saw, shortly after he got back I left because I just felt hurt. I haven’t spoken to him today and I know I have to break it off with him now, I just don’t know how and what to say. Do I just tell him it’s over with no explanation, or do I tell him I feel he’s not over his ex?
Calmandfocused Posted November 9, 2020 Posted November 9, 2020 I’m sorry to hear this. Intuition is a powerful thing and it sounds like yours was bang on the money. Remember two things clearly; his behaviour with his ex is disrespectful to the relationship he has with you. Secondly he remains attached to her in some way. To conclude, all this means that he is emotionally unavailable to be in a relationship with you. It doesn’t matter if he’s not meeting up with her. He’s breached boundaries big time. You will need to have a conversation with him. Tell him you’re ending the relationship. That you’ve reason to believe that he’s still into his ex and that you want someone whose emotionally available to date you. Make it clear you don’t trust him so there’s no point in continuing. 1
SSM3 Posted November 9, 2020 Posted November 9, 2020 On 10/20/2020 at 4:48 PM, Shortskirtslonglashes said: I’d be a bit concerned tbh Me too. I would approach the subject and ask him.
Miss Spider Posted November 9, 2020 Posted November 9, 2020 On 10/20/2020 at 12:55 PM, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Could be a zillion reasons...maybe his pride, maybe he read some advice on here that ‘NC’ (No contact) could help him win her back. The reluctance to talk about it is also suspicious when you look at this all as a whole( along side of him liking her thirst traps etc) Think Your intuition is telling you something Yes, this is a sad conclusion, but a powerful lesson. Trust your gut.
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