Ollie180 Posted October 19, 2020 Posted October 19, 2020 1 hour ago, IsntItDarling said: He replied after like 15 mins, replying to absolutely nothing I said, and just wrote: Don’t write, call me [phone number] x Literallyyyyyy who does that!!? Now I have to call him, and I can’t plan what I’m going to say I think that’s quite a good thing OP. You referenced ‘going through the motions’ in your first post - well this guy isn’t simply going through the motions of messaging you back. Romantic or not, at least you know he cares enough about you as a person to want to take the opportunity handed to him to reconnect properly! 4
Giovane Posted October 19, 2020 Posted October 19, 2020 2 hours ago, IsntItDarling said: Literallyyyyyy who does that!!? Now I have to call him, and I can’t plan what I’m going to say Who does that? Phoning people used to be common practice well into the George W. Bush presidency, methinks. If you don't know what to say, have DJ do some of the talking! 1
Miss Spider Posted October 20, 2020 Posted October 20, 2020 I say ‘why the hell not’’, but I’ve got myself into a lot of mess that way 1
smackie9 Posted October 20, 2020 Posted October 20, 2020 Hope your experience is pleasant and a happy one...even if it's just friendship. I wasn't so lucky. I got in touch with a high school friend 25 years+ later on Classmates (lol that's old school). He turned into a stalker...not so kool. 2
Wiseman2 Posted October 20, 2020 Posted October 20, 2020 18 hours ago, IsntItDarling said: When we were like 16/17 and it was lambing time, he used to do ‘date nights’ where he’d use an old projector to play films in the lambing barn.. he’d put up blankets and that and we’d watch movies......but it would take like 4 hours to get though a 2 hour film because he’d be up checking ewes every two seconds!
Author IsntItDarling Posted October 21, 2020 Author Posted October 21, 2020 On 10/19/2020 at 11:43 PM, Giovane said: Who does that? Phoning people used to be common practice well into the George W. Bush presidency, methinks. If you don't know what to say, have DJ do some of the talking! Hahah! I think the only people who still phone me on the regular is my best friend and my uncle! I prefer FaceTime to phone calls really. Hahah the problem tends not to be having nothing to say or more like saying something I shouldn’t On 10/20/2020 at 3:19 PM, smackie9 said: Hope your experience is pleasant and a happy one...even if it's just friendship. I wasn't so lucky. I got in touch with a high school friend 25 years+ later on Classmates (lol that's old school). He turned into a stalker...not so kool. No way!!? How scary! Especially when you think your fine because it’s someone you kind of know already! My guy would make a god awful stalker though.. he was always like 20mins late when you were MEANT to be meeting him somewhere, he’d never have a hope in hell of keeping up if you weren’t!
Author IsntItDarling Posted October 21, 2020 Author Posted October 21, 2020 @Wiseman2 Jesus... this is a video representing the potential man of my dreams I’m really thinking hard on my life choices that ended me up here.. 1
Author IsntItDarling Posted October 21, 2020 Author Posted October 21, 2020 So I did actually call him. Ended up talking ok the phone to him for an hour and a quarter, Which was way longer than I was expecting! Only really finished up because I honestly needed to go to bed!! It was nice. It was weird because obviously in 9’years he’s grown up a lot, he’s changed from essentially a teenager into a proper adult man - but on the phone You can’t see him, and his voice really hasn’t changed so it kind of felt like no time had past at all! We talked about our lives, his family and mine, he asked me about relationships too, so i ended up telling him about having broken up with my ex etc. (Note: I don’t normally have such terrible game that I tell guys I’m interested in about guys I’ve just broken up with / my failed relationships it’s just hard with him because it feels so natural) He said that at his longest relationship was still ours by far. Nothing else has listed anywhere close he said (so at least he’s still talking about us as having been an item). I was saying to him though, about what my ex had said, and that I’m not fab at vocalising my feelings in a relationship, that I was only ever any good at that with him. He was really laughing, said he “doesn’t know what relationship I’m remembering”, he was like “you know In primary when a girl throws stones at a lad because she fancies him, that is literally you - not even just metaphorical stones I think you’d throw literal stones at me too....big ones” I told him that that’s bloody brilliant, my most recent ex lays into me after we break up and then I phone my old ex and he starts criticising me and all, absolutely fantastic that, what more could a girl want He said “haha don’t even try me girl, you know I’m teasing - you love it” (...I do love it ) He didn’t make any signs towards hanging up but in the end I needed to go to bed so I ended it! But I didn’t ask him to meet or anything because I was waiting to see if he would.....which he didn’t! He has text me a bit throughout today though (including some pictures of sheep - excuse me while I swoon ) but he still hasn’t suggested meeting up!
Trail Blazer Posted October 21, 2020 Posted October 21, 2020 With the "mate" term, I guess that could mean different things depending on where you live. Everyone calls everyone mate in Australia. It's common in Britain also, but in the States a mate is someone you copulate for purposes of reproduction. In any case, all the best. Have fun, take it slow and keep your expectations low. If nothing amounts from it you haven't lost anything and if something flourishes, it's a bonus. 1
Wiseman2 Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 (edited) 13 hours ago, IsntItDarling said: He has text me a bit throughout today though (including some pictures of sheep - excuse me while I swoon ) but he still hasn’t suggested meeting up! sounds good so far. It's love . You need to invite him for coffee. Tell him you like lamb chops and wool sweaters. Edited October 22, 2020 by Wiseman2 3
Chilli Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 (edited) l got sucked into reading it all just waiting to find out what a pet bloody parrot and cat had to do with things,. You really like talking about yourself don't ya and this reminds me of what we may think we've been or are , as a partner , doesn't mean we were. On the old flame , if it gets that far sure spend some time with him see where it goes if your game but they do say ex's are ex's for a reason , still , sometimes people do reconnect and it works, up to you. Edited October 22, 2020 by Chilli
smackie9 Posted October 22, 2020 Posted October 22, 2020 You need to relax.....you are just getting reacquainted. Meeting up will come in time. 1
Author IsntItDarling Posted October 22, 2020 Author Posted October 22, 2020 22 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: With the "mate" term, I guess that could mean different things depending on where you live. Everyone calls everyone mate in Australia. It's common in Britain also He’s from England. So it’s a standard term (more something you call the lads than your gf though, which is why originally I didn’t used to like it). His mum is from Aus though so I think that’s why he says it a lot! 22 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: but in the States a mate is someone you copulate for purposes of reproduction. That would be moving a bit fast wouldn’t it!!! 22 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: In any case, all the best. Have fun, take it slow and keep your expectations low. If nothing amounts from it you haven't lost anything and if something flourishes, it's a bonus. Thank you!! I know what you’re saying (and @smackie9 ) I am making an effort to try not to get too swept up. Treat it like he’s just some new guy rather than put all the expectations of so much shared history onto it. I haven’t told anyone (friends) that I’ve even spoken to him yet. As much as I love my friends to death, they’ll get hyped up and tease me and it’ll just make me overthink.. which I don’t want to do
Author IsntItDarling Posted October 22, 2020 Author Posted October 22, 2020 9 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: sounds good so far. It's love . You need to invite him for coffee. Tell him you like lamb chops and wool sweaters. Nooo, tbh I try to steer the conversation away from sheep ....I don’t even want to try and compete with his other girls! (I know my place ) 1
Author IsntItDarling Posted October 22, 2020 Author Posted October 22, 2020 8 hours ago, Chilli said: l got sucked into reading it all just waiting to find out what a pet bloody parrot and cat had to do with things,. You really like talking about yourself don't ya Alrighttttt hun, sorry to waste you’re time then! 8 hours ago, Chilli said: they do say ex's are ex's for a reason Wellll, he broke up with me so I guess the truth of that’s for him to decide
Ollie180 Posted October 24, 2020 Posted October 24, 2020 On 10/22/2020 at 9:48 PM, IsntItDarling said: Wellll, he broke up with me so I guess the truth of that’s for him to decide Why did you/he?
Author IsntItDarling Posted October 25, 2020 Author Posted October 25, 2020 On 10/24/2020 at 8:45 PM, Ollie180 said: Why did you/he? Break up? He went abroad to Canada, it was only meant to be a few months so we did long distance for a bit and then he got offered the chance to stay for longer... he told me he didn’t think long distance was working and it wasn’t fair to ask me to keep waiting for him. I told him I agreed (I didn’t), that we’d stay mates (we didn’t) and then I went to cry to my pillow
Author IsntItDarling Posted October 25, 2020 Author Posted October 25, 2020 I spoke to him on the phone today thou.. he told me that he’s missed talking to me, and he said we should “catch up properly” told me “why don’t you come over for dinner next week”. If it was any other guy I wouldn’t go to his house on a first date (is this even a date?) but I figure it’s fine because he’s hardly a stranger is he 2
Wiseman2 Posted October 25, 2020 Posted October 25, 2020 11 minutes ago, IsntItDarling said: I spoke to him on the phone today thou.. he told me that he’s missed talking to me, and he said we should “catch up properly” told me “why don’t you come over for dinner next week”. Excellent. As long as he doesn't take you to his ewes for an orgy. Enjoy the date! 1
Miss Spider Posted October 29, 2020 Posted October 29, 2020 Yay. I hope it goes well for you. Happy story
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