Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Divulge STD info, easy for me to say because I've never had an STD. If the person is going to be a serious love interest, then they have a right to know. Generality is OK "about 2 dozen" instead of 30, still gives them the idea you're high miles.
HotCaliGirl Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I usually follow up my 3 with an explanation about how I don't like casual sex and have always felt that I only want to sleep with women I love. Seems to make it a little less scary of a number. Current girl I'm chasing thought it was sweet. She also asked why I haven't been in a relationship or had sex for the last 7 years. I explained that I'm kinda shy, and hadn't yet met the right girl. I of course added that I think she's the right girl . Are you referring to the girl who chose the other guy recently and so is she now still interested in you?
kitten chick Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I find the variety of responses on this thread very interesting. My take is that divulging information on STDs is an absolute must. There's just no excuse on lying about that. I don't think it should matter how many people you've been with unless you've hit porn star status.
Lucinda Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Well, I don't think it's right to lie and toss any old number out there to hide the truth. Yes, honesty is important so saying "I have had other partners which is my past and my business" is not lieing. But telling a specific number and her/him possibly finding out differant down the road is only going to cause trouble. I've heard stories of that happening before. If a partner was worried about STD's it's as simple as saying "I'll go get tested or we'll go get tested together to ease your/our minds". I also think the same applies for people who haven't had a lot of partners (funny how we pretty much assumed this had to do with having a lot of partners and not the opposite). I think lieing and tossing and old number out there to make someone believe you are something you are not is wrong. But saying "I have had some partners in the past so if you want I/we can go get tested".
Woggle Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I could care less how many men my girlfriend has been with and I don't lie about my past. If I love somebody I tell them every juicy detail.
BigB Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Are you referring to the girl who chose the other guy recently and so is she now still interested in you? Yup:o , that's her. I went to visit her(at her request) and she said that she's developed very strong feelings for me, she misses me, etc. She is still a little confused about what she wants though. I made it very clear that I'd still like to try a relationship with her, and asked her to please figure out what she wants soon. I can't wait around for her, and I told her that I will not wait around for her. She's going to visit the other guy in about a month(He's long distance, I live a lot closer) and I guess that's when she's going to try and figure out what she wants. She's asked me to come visit her again this weekend, last week she couldn't keep her hands(and lips ) off me, but I told her I won't let her cheat (which was hard, I've been alone for 7 years), I said that if she wants to be with me she's needs to ditch the other guy and be with me 100% or I'm going to walk.
HotCaliGirl Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Yup:o , that's her. I went to visit her(at her request) and she said that she's developed very strong feelings for me, she misses me, etc. She is still a little confused about what she wants though. I made it very clear that I'd still like to try a relationship with her, and asked her to please figure out what she wants soon. I can't wait around for her, and I told her that I will not wait around for her. She's going to visit the other guy in about a month(He's long distance, I live a lot closer) and I guess that's when she's going to try and figure out what she wants. She's asked me to come visit her again this weekend, last week she couldn't keep her hands(and lips ) off me, but I told her I won't let her cheat (which was hard, I've been alone for 7 years), I said that if she wants to be with me she's needs to ditch the other guy and be with me 100% or I'm going to walk. Well, tha's great! Not a lot of guys like you around, doing things the long but right way, which I think she is approving of and is outweighting the other guys qualities...
shamen Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I tell men when asked that it's a private matter. As far as I'm concerned, it's none of their business... But the STD discussion does indeed need to happen. Get tested if we need to, that's about it! I don't want to know about them, and they don't need to know about me.
eff Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 To all of you guys out there who think you want to know. You don't I never went around the block much. 10 or so women thats about it. I knew she had been with quite a lot. and actually expected a bigger number. But one day going through her stuff with here I accidently stumbled upon a notebook with a list. Something about actually seeing it written out makes it worse. She's got me beat about 4 times over. Took me a while to shake that out of my head.
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