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I would really just assume they were looking for something extremely casual and my answer didn't match up with theirs.

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On 10/11/2020 at 6:57 AM, mortensorchid said:

I swear, I will never understand some of these people who are on these dating websites / apps.  Some of them seem like they are just chatting and making small talk here and there and when they ask that big question "What are you looking for?" and you answer it, they suddenly ghost on you.  

Now, let's be honest, there are a few people out there who are looking for sex and if you are also looking for that, that's fine.  But when you answer it honestly or if you ask them that same question back, they clam up and don't answer it.  Two guys asked me what I was looking for in the recent past and I answered that honestly with "I am looking for The One", or "I am looking for a relationship".  Then they never speak a word to me again.  Another I answered "the same as you, I am guessing".  Never heard a word from him again either.  Or if you are vague and say "I'm not sure", they also vanish.  

Anyone else encounter this?  I can't be the only one. 

The ghosting goes both ways. Women do it to men just as frequently. I think the main reason it happens are they met someone else.or they identified a deal breaker with you. Rather then let you know, it's best to just move on.

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