genz44 Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 There's this friend I have. Ever since we met I've been getting signs that she's interested in me. She started sitting next to me in class, passing me notes, looking over at me from time to time, smiling a lot, and all those good signs. She doesn't seem to act like that with other people she knows. Then she asks me if I want to see a movie with her. She wrote it in one of those notes. I smiled and nodded but didn't have much time to discuss that day. The next day she asks me verbally and adds, "Don't worry, it's not a date. Just a couple of friends going out." Why would I worry? She also mentioned that her mother keeps trying to hook her up with guys. We go out and have a great time. She even wore some fancier clothes than at school. At the end of the night she started talking about how she had lots of friend who are guys but no boyfriend. She then added that she once asked a guy out but he just made fun of her. The next time I see her she apologized about telling me all of that stuff about men in her life. We agreed again to go out again. When I asked her if we should call it a date she basically said no. She said she wasn't ready for a boyfriend yet and that she only had bad experiences with boyfriends before. She said she didn't want to ruin what we have right now. She also threw in quite a few apologies about saying no. The next time I see her things are back to normal and we're planning our next day out. Did she mean that I should wait longer before asking her on a date? We have only known each other for about a month and have only gone somewhere out of school once. She's in her first year of college just out of high school. Can any girls out there give me some insight into my overall situation? Could it be like this situation? I'm pretty sure she's never had a boyfriend before and she does seem like the shy type. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t69447/ If anybody needs more info, jusk ask. Thanks!
magda Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Tell her you can date her without being her boyfriend. And that should be how you do it.. don't get sucked into the infamous friend zone. Stand firmly in your place and if she wants to come around she will. Unless you don't mind just being friends, that is.
Author genz44 Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 What would be the best way to bring it up? I don't want to come off as nagging or something?
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