OKCthunderONTOP Posted October 8, 2020 Posted October 8, 2020 I very recently relocated to a new city (Las Vegas), transferred to UNLV, and began perusing my career in my new city! This is all great news for me. I was so busy with everything that I just swore girls off all together, I figured I wouldn’t have the time and honestly didn’t need the trouble. I was not looking for this. But obviously, I met a lovely gal that I’m really starting to like. I’m a 23 year old male and she’s a 22 year old female. We’re both students and have complimentary personalities that vibe really well when we’re together. Heres the trouble, she’ll insist that we’re just friends whenever the subject of ‘us’ comes up. She somewhat recently got out of a long term relationship, as did I prior to moving. She will insist we’re just friends and that she’s not looking for a boyfriend at this time. But I’m confused, we’ve made out and done other things on many occasions. She usually texts me first. She’s stayed over at my apartment and we’ve slept together many times. Heck, we’ve even spent 6 hours on the phone just talking, vining. She has asked me to come visit her on her lunch break at work and just hang out with her. Every time we work together she gives me a ride home which usually will result in hours long conversations. Every time I do come visit her or we’re together we’re holding hands or I’m rubbing her legs or other very affectionate things. Now she’s told me that she’s only ever had 2 boyfriends and she likes taking things slow. Still, she will say we’re just friends. I go along with it but I’m honestly starting to develop feelings. I don’t know if she actually likes me and she’s just being extra careful or she really does just see me as a friend. I also have to consider that she may just be doing this for the attention. She could be going around with other guys doing the same thing with them, I assume she is, I wouldn’t be mad as I’m also spending time with other girls, but I would like to know because I am really starting to like her. Hopefully somebody can shed some light on this for me and let me know wether or not it sounds like she actually likes me and I should keep on playing the slow game or if she’s just playing around. I’m willing to take the slow route with her but I don’t want to invest in somebody that just looks at me as just a friend. Thanks in advance!
schlumpy Posted October 8, 2020 Posted October 8, 2020 I would take her at her word. Don't get out ahead of her unless you are willing to crash and burn. Back off the frequency of dating and the extra special nice intimate things you do for her hoping it will draw her closer to you. It's not working. Many times people will not discover their real feelings about someone until they are not around. In my opinion this is the approach you have to take. Let her initiate. Let her want to get together. If she won't pursue or accommodate then I would take that as an answer to if there can be an exclusive relationship. FWB forever.
Fletch Lives Posted October 8, 2020 Posted October 8, 2020 She's on the rebound and not ready for love with a new man yet. People can have affection and sex without being in love. 3
smackie9 Posted October 8, 2020 Posted October 8, 2020 (edited) You are being used...ditch her already. I know the story..."Oh I'm not ready for a BF/relationship" (maybe with someone else but not with you). Edited October 8, 2020 by smackie9 2
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