mortensorchid Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 I hate to sound stiff and uptight, but... How do you react if this guy makes a connection to you on a dating app, moves it to texting directly on the phone. I asked him some basic factual information- what does he do for a living - he said he is a referee for many high school and college sports teams (a man who likes sports, original) and works for a company called Freshly Squeezed. I asked what is it that they squeeze (I mean, really what do they squeeze? Fruits and vegetables for juices?). And he said "your boobs jk". Would you want to meet someone who says something like that to a stranger like that?
Mystery4u Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 16 minutes ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said: Is this a serious question?? Thinking the same thing. Just wasted 30 seconds of my life reading this, thanks OP. Why even ask, instead of block/delete etc. 1 1
Author mortensorchid Posted October 7, 2020 Author Posted October 7, 2020 17 minutes ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said: Is this a serious question?? Not exactly. Part of me just wanted to share another war story. 2
basil67 Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 You asked a silly question and got a silly answer. 2
Alvi Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 How old is this guy anyway? He sounds very young. Sometimes people do really shoot themselves in the foot. Such as in this case. Anyway, next....
DarrenB Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 It's a sad, failed and most importantly immature attempt at humor. It seems to be a frequent thing where if people don't really have much to offer, they'll resort to being excessively corny from the get-go which is often a red flag in itself. It also reeks of desperation to try and get the other person to engage in sexual talk. You'd be best to ignore this one for sure @mortensorchid 2
ccas93 Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 3 hours ago, mortensorchid said: he said he is a referee for many high school and college sports teams (a man who likes sports, original) I mean jeez, he's actively going out and being involved with them. not just guzzling beer and cheering teams on from his couch. 1
Blind-Sided Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 As @alphamale said.... Loser. Mo.... this is the problem of OLD. There are too many people (not just guys) who are looking for the "Hook-up" and not really wanted a relationship. With a response like that... he's looking for one thing. Stop talking to him, and move on. 1
mark clemson Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 (edited) I wonder why he's single? Edited October 7, 2020 by mark clemson
elaine567 Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 OK, but I guess being employed by a company called Freshly Squeezed he is used to all the jokes and he probably thought she was setting him up for the "your boobs" joke. Yes it is "inappropriate" if we take it at face value but it kind of funny too... If he then went on to expand on how and when about squeezing her boobs, then all too much, but as a "witty" reply it is not that bad IMO. 4
ShyViolet Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 Eww, any guy who made that awful joke would not be receiving any more replies from me. That "joke" was so immature and dumb, just cringe-worthy. 1
Trail Blazer Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 A response like that meant that he found you boring. That's not to say thag that you are, but in his mind he was thinking "no loss" if you block/delete, but if you are receptive to his lame joke, he might become more interested.
boymommy Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 You will find those kind of guys on dating apps. He may have just been nervous and making a joke but it failed. Its kind of early to be making sex jokes IMO. I don't mind that in a guy but my rule of thumb is that it can come off kind of fast or "player like" if done too early or prior to the first date. Can make it look like all he wants is sex (which a lot of online dating app guys do!) I'd move on personally because I think those types of jokes have to be timed well and need to be done later on when a relationship have been established. Not right out of the gate.
TheCharm Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 (edited) This sounds like a stupid guy. If you are here asking this you already know that. Question: Are you able to meet new guys? So you don't have to settle with this kind of people lol Edited October 7, 2020 by TheCharm
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 4 hours ago, elaine567 said: If he then went on to expand on how and when about squeezing her boobs, then all too much, but as a "witty" reply it is not that bad IMO. ... and a fine selection of a word there, elaine... LOL 1
dangerous Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 tbh I think that's funny. But I agree, not appropriate for dating, so early in communication. And as you indicate OP, not a match for you
Lotsgoingon Posted October 7, 2020 Posted October 7, 2020 Sounds like someone teenage guys in puberty would say in the old days to a random operator they'd call from a pay phone. 2
smackie9 Posted October 8, 2020 Posted October 8, 2020 (edited) Well first impressions count don't they? Not appropriate, immature, thick headed, doesn't know how to be a gentleman. He probably lives in a po-dunk trailer park. Edited October 8, 2020 by smackie9
poppyfields Posted October 8, 2020 Posted October 8, 2020 On 10/6/2020 at 5:41 PM, mortensorchid said: I hate to sound stiff and uptight, but... How do you react if this guy makes a connection to you on a dating app, moves it to texting directly on the phone. I asked him some basic factual information- what does he do for a living - he said he is a referee for many high school and college sports teams (a man who likes sports, original) and works for a company called Freshly Squeezed. I asked what is it that they squeeze (I mean, really what do they squeeze? Fruits and vegetables for juices?). And he said "your boobs jk". Would you want to meet someone who says something like that to a stranger like that? It really depends on the connection we had made prior (your second sentence^), he may have been nervous. I've said some super dumb things when nervous! So I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt unless it was totally egregious like asking if I want to meet and f*ck or something, which I've had happen! How did you respond?
Alvi Posted October 8, 2020 Posted October 8, 2020 3 minutes ago, poppyfields said: It really depends on the connection we had made prior (your second sentence^), he may have been nervous. I've said some super dumb things when nervous! So I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt unless it was totally egregious like asking if I want to meet and f*ck or something, which I've had happen! How did you respond? It possible he just got nervous. People do say dumb things when they are nervous or intimidated for whatever reason. But the thing is, first impression counts. it's like you have a job interview and say something completely off the wall. Will you get a job? Unlikely in this day and age. You might be the best person for the job but they will probably pass on you. Sometimes you have to be on your best behavior, really. If I know a person, and he says something like that, I might laugh and say: "Ha, ha, ha, very funny." Would not get offended at all and still stay in touch. But with a complete stranger? Unlikely.
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