LNY Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 My girl broke up with me 5 months ago now, and I'm still having touble coping with it all, I took the breakup pretty damn hard. I dealt with depression, anxiety, and eating & sleeping disorders. I still do to some extent even now. There are still a few sleepless nights I have, and I think pretty much EVERY night I lay in bed thinking about her, no matter how much I try not to. We've been NC for about 3.5 months now, I said hello to her once and kept walking when I bumped into her at the shops. I used to drive by her house almost every night to see if she was home or who was there, I've since stopped that. I don't know what I'm trying to say really, I guess I'm just trying to vent, it woulda been our anniversary the other day, and I suppose thats why I've been down again the last few days. She started seeing this other guy fairly quickly after we broke up, which makes me think if anything was going on before we broke up, when I used to think about the way she acted. I just really miss her and her company I suppose, I don't even know what I'm trying to say anymore. I'd give anyting to have her back, and it's been so hard to NC, but I've stuck with it (not that it's given me any benefits), it probably made her run away further, thinking that I didn't care. I just feel that there will never be another girl in my life that compares to her. Be good to hear someone's thoughts. Thanks.
johan Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Do you hold yourself responsible for the breakup?
d.s. Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 I wuold suggest keeping urself busy so that she wont be on your mind 24/7. Try picking up a hobby, going to the gym, etc... I know you are not capable of sleeping, but if you slowly start getting her out of your mind you will notice that you don't really need her in your life. I know you think she is the "one"; but there are so many beautiful young women out there and you aren't even giving them a chance. Once you get out of your depression you will understand what I mean. I think the "no contact" is a good idea. If you start contact with her both of you may feel awkward. Imagine how hurt you are now; imagine if she starts talking about her new bf to you. You don't need this ****. You don't need to even thinking about whether she cheated on you or not. It is a waste of time and you will only hurt yourself. Once again, just keep yourself busy and eventually you will forget about her. Good Luck!
teressa0397 Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 I wuold suggest keeping urself busy so that she wont be on your mind 24/7. Try picking up a hobby, going to the gym, etc... I know you are not capable of sleeping, but if you slowly start getting her out of your mind you will notice that you don't really need her in your life. I know you think she is the "one"; but there are so many beautiful young women out there and you aren't even giving them a chance. Once you get out of your depression you will understand what I mean. I think the "no contact" is a good idea. If you start contact with her both of you may feel awkward. Imagine how hurt you are now; imagine if she starts talking about her new bf to you. You don't need this ****. You don't need to even thinking about whether she cheated on you or not. It is a waste of time and you will only hurt yourself. Once again, just keep yourself busy and eventually you will forget about her. Good Luck! listen no contact is best. if she wanted you she would try to contact you but sounds like she doesnt want too. there are more fisn an the sea. let her no you got some one else to love. you can say what goes around comes around. you even might like this other women just as much as you did her. [ Come on give your self a chance}
Author LNY Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 Johan, I'm not too sure really.. probably. I never did anyhing wrong by her, I was always there for her and did everything for her, as she was doing the same for me. I kinda always think to myself though, things like "what if i did this?" or "what if i didn't do this?", etc, etc. d.s, I've been at the gym for 4 years constant, so that doesn't really help me, I havn't stopped training because of her though. You are right, there ARE plenty of other beautiful girls out there, I just can't seem to get my head around the thought that they will ever compare to my ex, I don't know why. teressa, I know she will contact me if she wants me, but that's not the case.. what if you like someone, shouldn't you get in contact with them ? (In saying that I HAVE been NC for 3.5 months now). I don't have anyone else to love, or really want anyone else to. :S
johan Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I kinda always think to myself though, things like "what if i did this?" or "what if i didn't do this?", etc, etc. THOSE are the thoughts that kill me. When I think those thoughts is when I start losing sleep. If you can get rid of them, then you'll start feeling better. Not great, but better. It's the regret that tortures you.
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