jomaxfury Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Hello everyone, First of all, just wanted to say, I am glad that you guys are here on LS and willing to give advice to people who are in need. It shows that this world still has people with compassion and heart to help a stranger. For me It's been 2 1/2 months since the break up and total NC from the start. Eventhough I have a lot friends at my University, they are probably getting bored of me talking about the ex. I don't do it as often anymore thats why I come to you guys because I know you guys are here for anyone in pain. The reason I come once again is that, today I think reality slapped me in the face. Realizing that the girl I really loved. Never did loved me. WOW! just hearing that and realizing that. Has giving me this numb feeling throughtout my body. I no longer check my phone, emails, but realizing she is at the other building at my school so close but she no longer feels the same way, sucks. At times I feel very lonely, while she is having fun going to clubs and partying with her new mate. Having the time of her life, and I am here talking about her and feeling all numb. Shows the kind of person she really is. Is this normal to feel lonely and numb after 2 1/2 months? I mean I really don't think about her that much, but not having somone there has really made me feel lonely inside. Please help, thanks.
HotCaliGirl Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 If it makes you feel any better, you're not alone...you'll have your up days and down days and it could take a long time, but you too should to out. Meeting new girls will be the fastest way to feel better and to get over your ex-gf who from your last post, were dating for 2 years... My would've-been anniversary with my ex recently past, and even though I was starting to do well, it feels terrible all over again and I'm back on LS like I would be back then during the break up - I meet and go out with great guys, but have zero interest in them, so just ride it out. 2 1/2 months is still in the early stages when it's most hard. Also, don't think of it that she never loved you. At the end that's how she may have felt, but I'm sure that the majority of the time she did love you. It doesn't mean she could ever have fallen out of love with you, since she was with you for so long. Don't over-analyze and come to conclusions that will make you hurt more. Her loss will be another girls gain so keep looking for the right one who will fill your current lonliness with her love...
bunnzy Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 I agree with HotCaliGirl, the best way to get over a past bad relationship is to get busy, especially when you don't want to! Remember the things you used to do before she came along? What are your hobbies? get out there and meet people with the same interests as you. If you feel you still are not coping a good cry can do wonders, but you may need some counseling.
Author jomaxfury Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 Thanks Hotcali and Bunnzy, I understand...Maybe I am feeling this way because I don't want to accept that this is going to take some time to get over. I want to let this go and move on. It feel that is taking to long, and its been 2 1/2 months. I joined a coed law fraternity and made lots of friends. I would have never joined if I would have been with her. I am now very cautious on what I am looking for. BTW I can't send any pm to anyone how do you disable that? Thanks
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