ashworth Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 (edited) 3 year RS and it's always been this way. Today I am seriously considering breaking up. I booked a flight to see her 3 days ago after 2 months apart but I bailed the night before because we were fighting, it gave me anxiety and my gut was screaming do not go. She has a habit of kicking me out whenever we fight so I needed us to be on good terms before flying. She ended up blocking me. Day later she unblocks and we talk, we plan for me to go a week later. So my family ask why I didn't fly out and I tell them we were fighting so I bailed. I then got a lot of stress from my family for deciding to go again, some of it made sense. So I suggested to my girlfriend to enjoy her holiday and she can meet me in UK. She asks am I bailing again and I say no I am just getting a lot of stress here. Later I apologize for being stressed and I ask her to confirm the date we planned next week as ticket prices were rising. She did not reply all day so I ended up buying the tickets as we agreed that date and surely she wants to see me. I tell her I booked and she comes online and it's another stressful fight like the nights before..., would appreciate opinions/advice. Thanks in advance Edited October 4, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed Imgur link Link to post Share on other sites
robaday Posted October 5, 2020 Share Posted October 5, 2020 I am struggling with the same thing, I broke up with someone for very similar behavior recently and am still picking up the pieces. She is begging me back and keeps apologising and I really wish I could forgive her and give it another go but I can't. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 6, 2020 Share Posted October 6, 2020 Why is it long distance? More importantly why are you wasting time and money on this? You need to end it. This has become pure drama. Why bother? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 6, 2020 Share Posted October 6, 2020 I don't see abuse but I do see a lot of dysfunction, poor communication & little consideration for each other. If you are having the same fight over & over, that is a sign of underlying problems. She seems to have immature knee jerk reactions -- kicking you out, blocking then unblocking. All in all it's unhealthy & this isn't working. A relationship should not be this stressful. You may need to re-evaluate everything Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted October 8, 2020 Share Posted October 8, 2020 On 10/4/2020 at 9:06 AM, ashworth said: it gave me anxiety and my gut was screaming do not go Sounds like you are done, or I would be at least if that's how I felt about seeing someone. They are your boundaries and only you can set them. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 What are you fighting about? What makes her so angry that she kicks you out? It sounds very toxic and unhealthy, which usually means it's time to go. Link to post Share on other sites
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