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1 minute ago, Ruby Slippers said:

How do you even know how much it costs?  Seems very weird. I agree it doesn't mean anything. Maybe he bought it used, maybe it was a gift. 

I asked that same question.  And to add to Ruby's list, maybe it was stolen!  

You know zero about this man, anything is possible. 

Has he reached back out yet?  Responded to your text?   If not, please don't chase this man, please. 

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He eventually replied, but no apologies or anything about the lack of reply and didn’t mention a second date.  Gonna write him off as not interested. That or he is trying to get back at me for ignoring him at the start either way I ain’t bothered playing games. 

also going to keep the jacket unless he actually asks for it back. I doubt he actually likes the jacket anyway especially if he lent it to me. 
 

I’ll give him a few more days before I delete his number and remove him from my Instagram but not waiting around. 

 

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Oh my lord why would you keep the jacket??? Mail it back to him, or donate it...

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If you really believed that you aren't playing games, why keep his jacket unless you still have hope that he asks you for his jacket back. Since he's already contacted you:
 

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He eventually replied, but no apologies or anything about the lack of reply and didn’t mention a second date.

He didn't ask you for his jacket back OR a second date. He has zero intentions of ever seeing you or his jacket again.

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I’ll give him a few more days before I delete his number and remove him from my Instagram but not waiting around. 

But you are waiting around. You are keeping his jacket, hoping that he'll contact you again since you two are connected now via social media.

The healthy move for you now is to delete him from your social media and donate his jacket. Are you going to delete him from your social media? He played you after just one date. Not sure why someone who claims she doesn't play games, is holding onto false hope that he will ask you out on a second date. He already contacted you but didn't ask you out again. There is literally nothing to do but move on.

Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

 

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34 minutes ago, Blondegirl89 said:

He eventually replied, but no apologies or anything about the lack of reply and didn’t mention a second date.  Gonna write him off as not interested. That or he is trying to get back at me for ignoring him at the start either way I ain’t bothered playing games. 

How very odd on his part, a weird way to get back at you leaving his jacket.  Does sound like he lost interest, I'm hoping he has because if this is how he show "interest" a red flag there :)

I suggest taking the high road on his jacket, if it is inexpensive and easy for you then could mail it to him, but know that is often rarely the case, then again if really want to take the high road one does it anyway.  Wouldn't give it away nor jump through hoops to get it to him but maybe ask how he'd like it back.   

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Is this guy even worth this thread?

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22 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Is this guy even worth this thread?

I don’t think so. Maybe his jacket is? 😂

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1 hour ago, Blondegirl89 said:

He eventually replied, but no apologies or anything about the lack of reply and didn’t mention a second date. 

also going to keep the jacket unless he actually asks for it back.

Maybe his last gf left it there? Or he plucked it our of a dumpster on the way over?  Or his dog has been sleeping on it? Did you check for lice, fleas or bed bugs?

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I'm still desperate to know how you discovered that it cost 800 dollars. 😂

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Well the jacket has been packed away. Well the back of the closet for the moment. 

and How I found out how much it cost. my roommate bought the exact same one for her boyfriend and told me how much it cost her.

She actually told me she thought it was his way of keeping the door open by letting me borrow it and having an excuse to get in touch. 

It is a real Burberry one. Proper labels and all. Not an Amazon one lol I actually really like it but obviously won’t wear it because it’s odd and I’d die if I bumped into him one day wearing it 😂 
 

Anyway I’ve written this guy off. 

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19 minutes ago, Blondegirl89 said:

Well the jacket has been packed away. Well the back of the closet for the moment. 

and How I found out how much it cost. my roommate bought the exact same one for her boyfriend and told me how much it cost her.

She actually told me she thought it was his way of keeping the door open by letting me borrow it and having an excuse to get in touch. 

It is a real Burberry one. Proper labels and all. Not an Amazon one lol I actually really like it but obviously won’t wear it because it’s odd and I’d die if I bumped into him one day wearing it 😂 
 

Anyway I’ve written this guy off. 

No, you haven't written him off. You and he are still connected via your social media accounts, and you've kept his jacket because you assume he'll just message you for date #2 even though he already messaged you after date #1 but never asked you out for date #2 or asked you to return his jacket.

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6 hours ago, Blondegirl89 said:

 That or he is trying to get back at me for ignoring him at the start either way I ain’t bothered playing games. 

What goes around comes around. 

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