flowergirl Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Ok, so I have a guy friend who is seeking my advice on how to deal with his broken heart. (I'm a girl). He lived with a girl for three years and he was totally in love with her, as it was his first serious relationship. He broke up with her on Christmas Eve 2004 because that night they were supposed to hang out (I mean it's Christmas Eve for goodness sakes!) and she didn't show up, but went out with a friend, and he waited for her for hours. She called the next day and he told her to pack her stuff up and go. Smart, because from everything he's telling me, this girl sounds like a real piece of work, he bought a used sports car to make her happy, After the first year of them being together, she didn't work, and he didn't think it was fair that she wasn't contributing to household expenses. Anyway, with all that, she ended up moving to New York with a different guy, but he's still heartbroken 10 months later, and it doesn't help that she called him the other day under the guise of asking if his mother survived a natural disaster in his country. All nice and everything, but then she starts asking him if he has a girlfriend, and when he asks her if she has a boyfriend, she doesn't answer, then he asks her if she's happy, and she says she doesn't want to answer that. Weirdest response I've heard yet, so how do I politely but definitively tell him that she's just messing with him, and there isn't much hope for him, because he says he was really happy when he was talking to her, and she's wrecked him, from what I see. I've never met her, but I've met people who fit her description, and all of them have been bad news.
fatcat Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 10 months, and this dude is still pining over her? My question is, does he live in the Arctic Circle? And did he get the damn car back? If not, place a "Welcome" mat on his back and stick a dunce cap on his head. After 10 months, he should be well over this piece of work. Tell him to move on, not with baby steps either but with long strides. She sounds like an idiot anyway and he ought to kick his own ass for wasting almost a year carrying a torch for this skank.
Author flowergirl Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 Damn, FatCat, that seems kinda harsh. Lots of people fall for those who aren't good for them, it doesn't make them stupid, just human. A lot of really good people invest themselves in relationships with people they want to save, which I think is what happened in this case. I did the same thing, and the circumstances were far worse than my friend's. He also suffered the loss of his father in June, so I think that's making the pain worse. I think he may need counseling to deal with this stuff, what do you guys think?
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