Honey19 Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Hi guys here's my story.. I'm 19 and I was with my bf who's 21 on/off for around 8 months. I broke up with him 2 months ago as I was unhappy in the relationship. I have been doing NC now for around 6 weeks. I started NC to try & get over him but it's only made me realise how much I love him. He has texted me throughout this period (even though I asked him not to) asking how I am or If we could meet up. It was sooo hard doing NC, but I stuck at it & didn't respond. I was really upset up until around a month ago & the whole time I've had hope that we could get back together. I finally feel ready to see him again as I don't think I can hold out any longer & I miss him sooo much. He's asked to see my this week, do you think I should accept & see what happens? Has anyone got any stories about what happened the first time they met up with an ex after NC & a break up? Also do you think there's a chance that it would work if we got back together after such a long time? Any advice would be great, thanks alot.
whichwayisup Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Why did you break up with him? And if you did get back together, what would make the relationship better? Obviously there were reasons why it didn't work the first time. Is it that you miss having someone in your life, or do you really miss him? These are things you need to think over before getting back with him. He obviously is interested and you need to be sure it's what you want to do. I need more info to help you, from what you said, I don't know anything about your dynamtic together and how things were in general.
Author Honey19 Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 Our relationship was pretty good, we loved each other, got on well etc. I guess the underlying reason was that I wasn't sure how strongly I felt about him. At the time that I broke up with him I thought that I didn't love him enough to be in the relationship & thought that I'd get over him easily. I was also under alot of stress at the time & wasn't thinking too clearly. It's only now that we're not together that I realise how much I did love him & what a great relationship we had. That's why I want to give it another chance. Other than that there were no other problems in the relationship. I don't mind being single, I've had the chance to date other guys but I chose not to. Not because I fear being single, but because I'm still in love with my ex.
whichwayisup Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Well, with that said, you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. See if he wants a second try at it. Good luck!
helena abadi Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 i think the chances of a successful reunion are slim unless... you need to resolve what made you break up in the first place. if you can do that, you can renew the relationship and it will be entirely different from the first round.
slubberdegullion Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 ...you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. IMO, that's not the best idea. You and he broke up for a reason. You already said you were unhappy, then he continued to message you in spite of the fact that you explicitly stated you didn't want him to. So stop seeing the past with him through some foggy romantic haze. Move on.
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