HopefullyLove Posted October 1, 2020 Posted October 1, 2020 I was talking to this guy six months ago...I made a thread here about his inconsistent behavior....we were supposed to hang out and I never heard from him again until last month. I have moved on since then, I have a friend who I really like, he is consistent, he calls and texts me every day, I genuinely enjoy his company. Now the other guy has started to call and say he wants to hang out and blah blah blah. I feel like taking him seriously would lead to heartache for me, but part of me is like well, he is very successful, no kids, most women would think he is this great catch. I don't like how inconsistent he is...I am thinking he must have broke up with a girlfriend or something, when I asked him what he has been up to for the last six months, he says work...lol... What do you all think about this?I really like my Mr. Consistent, he is a doting dad and I genuinely enjoy him, especially his consistency. Please help y'all I feel like this other guy is back to create confusion...
ExpatInItaly Posted October 1, 2020 Posted October 1, 2020 2 hours ago, HopefullyLove said: I don't like how inconsistent he is...I am thinking he must have broke up with a girlfriend or something, when I asked him what he has been up to for the last six months, he says work...lol... This is probably exactly right. He's hit a dry spell and is going back through his old matches to see who will take the bait. Tell him thanks, but no thanks. And then don't engage anymore. He's not reliable enough to bother with, and how will you feel if you give up the guy you're currently seeing only to have this one disappear again? 4 1
Wiseman2 Posted October 1, 2020 Posted October 1, 2020 A "great catch" is not someone who is indifferent, not into you and never wants to meet. Date men who are local and interested in dating you. Don't communicate with married or taken people. 3 1
Mrin Posted October 1, 2020 Posted October 1, 2020 Two things: 1) life is too short to spend with people who are wildly inconsistent. 2) he's just "re-mining" his contacts because his current roster of women is either low/empty or uninspiring. Seriously, I've watched both men and women do it. Don't fall for it. 5 1
Author HopefullyLove Posted October 2, 2020 Author Posted October 2, 2020 On 10/1/2020 at 1:57 AM, ExpatInItaly said: This is probably exactly right. He's hit a dry spell and is going back through his old matches to see who will take the bait. Tell him thanks, but no thanks. And then don't engage anymore. He's not reliable enough to bother with, and how will you feel if you give up the guy you're currently seeing only to have this one disappear again? You guys are right. Plus we are in a global pandemic and he didn’t check in once in six months. Shows how much he cares. 2
SumGuy Posted October 2, 2020 Posted October 2, 2020 On 10/1/2020 at 3:24 PM, Mrin said: Two things: 1) life is too short to spend with people who are wildly inconsistent. 2) he's just "re-mining" his contacts because his current roster of women is either low/empty or uninspiring. Seriously, I've watched both men and women do it. Don't fall for it. This Mr. Inconsistent is just looking to a have good time then will ghost you once he gets bored or something better comes along. I think "player" is the word you are looking for. 1 1
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