Lookingforlasting Posted September 28, 2020 Posted September 28, 2020 Is your attraction to older women anything to do with you relationship with your mother in your opinion? For good or bad reasons?
5x5 Posted September 28, 2020 Posted September 28, 2020 (edited) My wife is older than me and I am attracted to her. Yet I don't think my attraction to my wife has anything to do with my mother. My wife just asked me out on a date over 24 years ago, and as a consequence of finding her attractive I said yes. It isn't more complicated than that. In addition my wife and mother are significantly different from one another. For starters my wife is an Italian woman, while my mother is an English woman. My wife is taller than me while my mother is shorter than me. My wife speaks Italian, Sicilian, English and can also get by in Spanish, while my mother can only speak English. My wife has multiple university and college qualifications including a STEM degree, while my mother didn't complete High School. My wife has a successful professional career and is currently in a government management role. While my mother has mostly been a stay at home mother and wife. My wife has had two children, while my mother has had more. I get on well with my wife, while I don't get on well with my mother. On and on etc. I have also had sexual relationships with other older women as well. That said I have mostly been with women the same age as me and younger (including my ex-wife), yet none of my sexual relationships have had anything to do with my mother. I am simply attracted to women who I find aesthetically pleasing and who I get on well with, regardless of their age. Edited September 28, 2020 by 5x5 2
Author Lookingforlasting Posted September 28, 2020 Author Posted September 28, 2020 Thanks for your response 5x5!
smackie9 Posted September 28, 2020 Posted September 28, 2020 I am 6 years older.....My husband dated me because he thought I was hot.
CaliforniaGirl Posted September 28, 2020 Posted September 28, 2020 Oh eew. I know that's not a very mature reaction but something about that is just visceral to me. I mean, from the point of view of being a mother (and a wife). I'm almost four years older than my husband. I don't know if that qualifies as older. I've literally heard men call their wives "older" if the age difference is just a couple of years. I know for a fact my husband is not sexually attracted to his mother, LOL. I feel like that's probably not the reason.
Author Lookingforlasting Posted September 28, 2020 Author Posted September 28, 2020 Oh I actually didnt mean anything along the lines of sexual attraction to mothers...I meant like "mommy issues" meaning maybe a guy didnt get enough affection from their mother or maybe they got a lot and want a partner that will also give that kind of attention.
CaliforniaGirl Posted September 28, 2020 Posted September 28, 2020 5 minutes ago, Lookingforlasting said: Oh I actually didnt mean anything along the lines of sexual attraction to mothers...I meant like "mommy issues" meaning maybe a guy didnt get enough affection from their mother or maybe they got a lot and want a partner that will also give that kind of attention. Oh, I understand now. I don't think so. That's not the feeling I get. 1
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