brittanyjean259 Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 I know ive been asking alot about rebound relationships, but i am very curious on people who have stories to tell... please do can be long short ...im just curious :-p
quankanne Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 rebound relationships are a necessary evil -- I dated the guy who became my husband R the summer after I graduated from college, then his work took him back out of state, and he pretty much dropped the ball when it came to communication. I moped for a couple of months until a friend made me realize that there was life outside this man, so I accepted another friend's offer to set me up on a blind date. went on it, had a decent time and silly me, I thought I was doing the right thing justifying making blind date a boyfriend when I really just wanted a steady f-buddy .... what did I learn? That a rebound relationship shouldn't be with someone who ends up driving you nuts, which is what happened with me and this guy, even though psychologically, I needed the boost I got from being someone's girlfriend after R shut me out. you need that rebound relationship to show you how to pick yourself up and get back on the horse that threw you, even when it doesn't seem like a good idea ...
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 12, 2005 Author Posted October 12, 2005 but isnt that bad karma? maybe not :-) i rather not hear any good stories considering my boyfreind jumped in to one of these" rebound thangs"... but you never know things could work out but id think itd be better to heal ... MORE STORIIIIIIES PLEASE:)
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 any one want to explain what there rebound made them feel like at first..and how long?
hoppy28 Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 what i do know is that often one of the two involved can end up with some very hurt feelings. i was the one walking away with hurt feelings. please if you decide you need to jump into another relationship for your own benefit atliest have consideration for the other. i fell for a woman who jumped out of a long relationship after meeting me. she had me in a daze. i hadnt had feelings like this before. it all abruptly ended. im not sure why........or should i say she never told me my. i was left with all these feelings for this girl. i had to walk away from her and i havent said a word. i cant explain to you how this can make one feel. i myself have been having a hard time figuring this one out. it wasnt a fun experience for me.
Cupcake Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Mine didn't last but his did!!! I don't know if this qualifies as a rebound. I've had several rebounds that don't last. Each time, I feel worse than I felt at the end of my last LT relationship. For me, rebounds don't last more than a month or two. I know you wanted bad stories. Unfortunately, rebounds aren't always bad. You are still in love with you XBF and want to hear that the rebound won't last. I hope it doesn't, for you sake. But even if it ends, that doesn't mean he will come back to you and be better than you were before. My most recent Lng Trm XBF has been with his rebound for over a year. I used to feel the same way you do right now. But after they were together six months, I gave up the hope that their rebound wouldn't last. At this point, I'm certain that even if it ends, my XBF has forgotten all about me now. He won't ever come back to me. But I wouldn't take him back even if he did. We've both changed our contact information. Literally, there is no way for us to ever contact each other again unless it's an act of fate.
hooghie Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 My rebounds have generally ended with me being repulsed by the person and running as far away as possible. When on the rebound, I only go after really hot guys. I usually have an initial personaility/mutual drunkeness connection with him other than his looks, but as I get to know him I find a million things wrong with him because- well, I'm on the rebound. The smallest thing poor rebound guy does that isn't perfect makes me drop him.
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 YEAH, good stories are fine to! thanks though! i wouldent take him back any ways and im sure he wont come back... and that really really hurts its kinda just like damn...but thanks for all your stories:) appreciate that alot!
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 how long was the break up b4 he went out with her? and did he try contactnig you at all... i guess some people are different..it would just hurt alot if he never tried to contact me again...he told me" im happyy now...so throw out those rings they dont meen nething now".... and she is living there...i meen if its intense at first it could sizzle out...and i hope bad karma comes to her...she was really mean about this ...trust me its been almost 2 months im not waiting around im just afraid like 5 months from now...im goin to flip out you know this was a big shock for me and sometimes it still is...he wasnt right for me though and ijust hope i can love some1 aggain eventually...
Cupcake Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 how long was the break up b4 he went out with her? and did he try contactnig you at all.... Before he met her, we had been arguing a lot about his cheating on me. During the time I was dealing with the pain of his betrayel, he was apologizing. It seemed that we were both willing to work through the situation. Things were getting better for us. I was starting to feel more trust in him. He got a new job. Next thing I know, he was acting strange again. They met at work. Two months after he started the job, I found out about her. I dumped him immediately. They made their relationship public and exclusive 3 days after I dumped him. He didn't contact me at all for about two months because they were planning to get married. Surprisingly, he contacted me after two months of NC telling me how he still loved me, ect. I still loved him. We kept ongoing communication for about 8 more months. We spent a weekend together during Christmast last year. He made a lot of promises that his GF was just a rebound and wasn't working out. He told me that he wanted he and I to get back together and work things out. I believed him. We started the new year together and kept contact at least once a month from January through May. All the while, he was still with his GF and assured me that he was trying to break things off with her. He asked me to be patient and WAIT for him. Without warning, he stopped contacting me. I haven't heard from him since May. And I haven't seen him since last December. In August, after it had been three months of unexpected NC, I called him just to see what was going on. But his number had been changed to a non-published number.
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 im really sorry to here that, boys can be jerks and it hurts.( dont get me wrong girls can be jerks to).. i would never jump in to another relationship for alot of reasons why would i? to make my ex jealous...i dont need to do that and hurt some one else...but i think i know more about rebound relationships...the feeling you get after a break up...some people are not aware, that after being dumped or going through a stressful time...many more people become appealing..i do have that effect sometimes..like oh hes nice to me AHHH i like him...than a week later im like wait what was i thinking?..... i think its normal...but atleast im aware of the effect im going through..some people arent and dont realize till 2 months or 3 months..or even a while later... thanks for all the stories guys, and plus i have a friend whos in love with some1..but has a boyfriend who is also on the rebound( but doesnt notice it..) i dont think i could be with ne1 else for along time...i will def no if i truly like some1 or am truly interested.. well what happend when they didnt work out...he with some1 else aggain too?
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