Should I date a younger woman?

[Ami1uwant]

23 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

There's a bit of leeway in that example.

20 year old woman marrying a 35 year old man?

Strange to me. But doable. Miracles do happen. Although I'd feel mighty weird meeting up with a father in law who is younger than my father and only what, 10 or 15 years older than me??

But are we talking about conservative women from conservative cultures or are we talking about women from back home, Santa Monica Beach? Because I don't remember seeing a woman like that with a dude whose ride was a 1990 Fiat uno.

But a 27 year old woman with a 50 year old? We ain't talking about a 10 or 15 age difference here, the guy's literally of an age where he got to see massive world events take place, unlike 27 year old woman who has been alive for a much shorter span of time. How can they relate to each other?

Ah, so you're saying that the women you know who are young and married older men are women who married rich older men? Because the women wanted a better life for themselves and their families by trading sexual attraction and sexual desire for financial security and the house he can provide her with?

I never needed to use money to get a younger woman. I just exist. The women will either be into me or not. I don't cheat the system.  How can I win at the competition men fight amongst each other for the attention of attractive young women if I was to just pull a Boris Johnson and buy a wife?

Plus, I've never really been into the whole Saudi Arabian Prince buying a wife thing.

 

The men were in their early 40s she was late 20s.i knew the older men.  In dating I knew the younger woman who was my age st the time of early 20s dating someone around 40.

my aunt married someone 20 yrs older. She married in her late 30s.

 

 

 

im American and referring to American culture.  In other countries a man can marry a much younger woman for other reasons like financial and women need a man to take care of them.

Ask yourself does she really matter ?

 

 

 

 

 

[central]

Why not go on a few dates and see if there's compatibility and potential.  You're not committing to marry her, after all!  As for your workmate, that doesn't matter unless she's your manager and might use that position to do something unprofessional if she doesn't like what happens with you and her sister.  Relationships with such an age difference do have some challenges (especially 20 years down the road), but they can be just as good, normal, and healthy as any other good relationship.  In the short term, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[snowcones]

22 hours ago, Myasylum said:

I'll be 50 shortly.  Been divorced for 3 years and children are grown. 

    I haven't dated anyone seriously since,  but I have to admit,  things are getting lonely. 

There is a new woman at work that I'm quite fond of,  and of course she's married,  but she told me she had a younger sister that was single.  I said,  "really??"

    Well that younger sister is 28 years old. That kind of through me for a loop... However I thought it doesn't hurt to meet her, so I did meet her with my co-worker.  I wouldn't say there was a love connection of any kind, she is obviously younger looking, but i just kind of let it go. It just felt odd.

    A week went by and my coworker ask if I have talked to her sister. I just said no... I'm just taking my time. So she ask if i wanted to go out again. After a brief thought.. I said sure? Why not? So now my coworker and her sister and I are going to be meeting up again next week.

    Now, my ex wife is 10 years younger than me, so I'm kind of use to it. I've always been told I look way younger than I am (both blessing and curse)... but? This girl is 22 years younger than me! I'm not so sure she realizes this either?!  My Co-worker did say that age didn't matter to her sister, but? 22 years doesnt matter?

    I'm being super patient with this, and I even think just being friends or having a girl to hang out with would be cool... yet. I'm hesitant... and finding myself pulling back. Maybe that's a good thing? Idk?

Any opinions or suggestions on the matter?

Thanks!

This is exactly how I feel when I have to think about dating someone younger.  It's tempting but also feels weird.  I still don't know how to rectify it.   I'm hoping I figure out out soon because I'm missing out on a lot of fun while I'm pondering it and waiting for something to come over me and give me clarity.

It's also a relief to hear you say this as a man.  When dealing with my own confusion about dating someone younger, I often say to myself "Well, men do it all the time and they don't feel confused or weird about it, why can't I be like them and just not trip on it?"  and admittedly I wondered how come there aren't men who feel weird about it too?  Now I read your post and feel better.

 

[snowcones]

5 hours ago, Ami1uwant said:

I’m a guy near your age...

 

no no problem trying it but I highly doubt this goes anywhere.

do you want to  have kids again?  Do you want yo inherit young kids if she has them?

 

if you guys have common interests and values it can work given the age differences

The issue of KIDS is the ONLY issue I have with dating someone much younger.  Kevin Costner is married a much younger woman.  There came a time when they were dating where she was about to leave him if he didn't agree to have kids.  This was a 60 year old man who had already been married, divorced and had grown kids.  He said he thought about it and decided he wanted to keep her and they had kids together.  Now he's 65 with 3 little kids under the age of 7 yo. He has a total of 7 kids now.   He decided that this woman was too important to him to let her go.   I mean, if you decide that it's not in the card for you to find someone closer to your age to be with, then you might have to make some concessions, or if you're the heartless type (which some are) find a younger woman who will make concessions for you and bend to your rules.

[Ami1uwant]

7 minutes ago, snowcones said:

The issue of KIDS is the ONLY issue I have with dating someone much younger.  Kevin Costner is married a much younger woman.  There came a time when they were dating where she was about to leave him if he didn't agree to have kids.  This was a 60 year old man who had already been married, divorced and had grown kids.  He said he thought about it and decided he wanted to keep her and they had kids together.  Now he's 65 with 3 little kids under the age of 7 yo. He has a total of 7 kids now.   He decided that this woman was too important to him to let her go.   I mean, if you decide that it's not in the card for you to find someone closer to your age to be with, then you might have to make some concessions, or if you're the heartless type (which some are) find a younger woman who will make concessions for you and bend to your rules.

This is something I would want to know early on if I happened to date a woman say 32-37 who  hadn’t been married and didn’t have kids.  I am not saying anything about my answer. But this is something that is critical so you don’t end up wasting your time.

 

[snowcones]

24 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said:

This is something I would want to know early on if I happened to date a woman say 32-37 who  hadn’t been married and didn’t have kids.  I am not saying anything about my answer. But this is something that is critical so you don’t end up wasting your time.

 

True.  I'm a woman thinking about dating much younger men so it's completely different for me because it's not even an option for a me to have kids with a younger man, so that automatically removes any ambiguity that may surround the topic.  And he will know that going in.  The same is true for men who have gotten the snip snip who want to date younger. It takes the topic off the table.

Edited September 15, 2020 by snowcones

[Watercolors]

On 9/13/2020 at 8:33 PM, Myasylum said:

Well... I'm a dude,  not a woman.  I also have no interest in controlling anybody.  Not my thing. 

   Thanks for the input though. 

Well you have adult children with your ex-wife.

How would they feel if their new stepmom is the same age as they are? 

[Interstellar]

Go out with her, show her you’re a gentleman, make her laugh, and simply have fun.

 

[W84Me]

I was born and raised in Europe before migrating to USA, so my take will be quite different from others being that European culture is more progressive, relatively speaking.

OP is 50-year-old and the dating partner is 28. Age itself is NOT an issue. Issue is compatibility. If OP can relate to someone who is younger by a generation -- socially and sexually. One factor that comes into play is her expectation relating to having her own kids and a raising a family which may not be what OP seeks. Also, her interests could be more contemporary compared to "old school" preferences.

I am 52-year-old and have been living together with a lovely lady who is 22 years younger. We have been together for over four years and there is a lot of fun between us. She never wanted to have kids so that never posed a sore spot. I am very particular about maintaining my physique and many times have been complimented for someone in his thirties. So there is visibly not too much of a gap between me and my girlfriend. My avatar is my current picture (about a month old).

So the essence is if the OP feels self-conscious about it then the relationship is doomed. Society is simply a periphery. What matters is inner dynamics between two individuals. If he likes her and their mutual overlaps are fantastic then age hardly becomes a factor. You could be with someone of your age and find her boring yet someone way younger brings out vibrant life in you and vice versa.

Enough said!

[Azincourt]

7 hours ago, snowcones said:

The issue of KIDS is the ONLY issue I have with dating someone much younger.  Kevin Costner is married a much younger woman.  There came a time when they were dating where she was about to leave him if he didn't agree to have kids.  This was a 60 year old man who had already been married, divorced and had grown kids.  He said he thought about it and decided he wanted to keep her and they had kids together.  Now he's 65 with 3 little kids under the age of 7 yo. He has a total of 7 kids now.   He decided that this woman was too important to him to let her go.   I mean, if you decide that it's not in the card for you to find someone closer to your age to be with, then you might have to make some concessions, or if you're the heartless type (which some are) find a younger woman who will make concessions for you and bend to your rules.

Clint Eastwood is almost 100 and if I'm not mistaken his youngest daughter is 23 or 26.  Reason why a much younger woman would want to have a child with a guy as old as her father, sometimes older than her own father is because of that sweet child-support she'd be getting if the marriage doesn't work out. Possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars per month until the kid reaches the age of 18, at the least.

Yes, love is great, and Kevin Coster and Clint Eastwood are still handsome men in their own right, but there's no really comparison to how they looked back In 'Dancing With Wolves,'  and in The Good, the Bad and the Ugly'

Michael Douglas was also demanded to put down his signature on a marriage contract that would guarantee a windfall of hundreds of millions of dollars to be received by his 25 or 30 years younger Catherine Zeta Jones wife, if the guy was to cheat on her.  I reckong the next woman to marry Jeff Bezos will also become a billionaire post-divorce.

Most relationships with the guy being much older than the woman(10+years) usually happen only because he has money and she either needs the money, or wants the momeny to support her lifestyle.

There's plenty of attractive 50+ year old women for a guy that age to meet, but if he feels that there aren't women his own age who are hot, then it might be that the guy thinks of himself as being attractive and fit and still handsome, but women in his age group don't really share the same belief.

No, a woman shouldn't make concessions and bend to a guy's rules. These women will date, marry, and have children with much older men because life's expensive, and what would you do if you were a hot 30 year old woman with a super rich actor with hundreds of millions of dollars at his disposal?

Would you work like a dog for the next 30 years to pay off the mortggage on a house that is meh, nothing special, or would you marry a guy who can buy you a thousand castles with his spare cash?

Hell, I'm a dude and I'd marry Madonna or Jennifer Lopez, or even a 90 year old billionaire fashion designer for the chance of getting some of those millions to find their way into my bank account.  Gold-digging is a natural strategy in our struggle to not end up homeless.  I can't really judge a 27 year old woman for dating or eventually marrying a guy she is probably not going to be attracted to because it's not like we're all filthy rich down here in the working class, are we.

[Azincourt]

2 hours ago, W84Me said:

I was born and raised in Europe before migrating to USA, so my take will be quite different from others being that European culture is more progressive, relatively speaking.

 

I live in Europe. Before the world came to a halt because of the covid-19 crisis, I would spend hours and hours walking around outside during the day hours and the vast majority of the tens of thousands of couples I'd see on a daily basis happened to be comprised of women and men who were the same age.

A few years difference between them at the most.  It was mostly at night, at the nightclubs and other nightlife places I work at or hang out that I would see a much older man with a much younger wife. I'd see these out of shape, physically impaired men, who looked older than my father despite being younger, with a 20 year old wife. Usually these women are from economically underdeveloped nations like Brazil and India, where despite the nation's massive natural wealth there are still enormous numbers of people who live in poverty, and marrying a rich, old European is the only way they can assure their families back home ain't gonna starve.

European culture is more progressive, certainly, but European women with a father and a mother aren't that desperate to be dating or to be marrying men who are old enough to be their own fathers, if they they have options. And most women have options in men, with the women who are 18-30 having the most options, and with the way these 18-30 year old local women be looking, I can't see the decision to marry a guy who is 10-30 years older to be nothing more than a business transaction.

 

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OP is 50-year-old and the dating partner is 28. Age itself is NOT an issue. Issue is compatibility. If OP can relate to someone who is younger by a generation -- socially and sexually. One factor that comes into play is her expectation relating to having her own kids and a raising a family which may not be what OP seeks. Also, her interests could be more contemporary compared to "old school" preferences.

The age itself is an issue. Is this guy looking for a hook-up or for a relationship? Why would an attractive(and I'm assuming the woman in question is hot or he wouldn't waste his time writing down a post about her)woman want to do with a man who is older than the Spanish democracy when there's a whole bunch of men her own age or slightly older who are just as physically attractive as she is? Casual sex is about purely physical attraction. Very few 50 year olds look like Brad Pitt when he was 50.

What if they develop a long-term relationship? What father wants his daughter to date a man his own age?  What are they gonna talk about when the daughter's in the living room with them? How they both had life-sized posters of Madonna on their walls when they were teenagers?

What about physical attraction long-term?

I know this is a touchy subject amongst men, but guys virility and performance at 50 isn't the same as it was at 20. And as a bisexual man, it always weirds me out when I have men in their 50s and 60's hitting on me acting like they can give me a better time than the time a 20-30 year old man can give me.

A 27 year old woman is going to expect a romantic partner to be as responsive and as full of vitality as a man her own age. Not to mention that he won't be 50 forever. He'll be 60 years only ten years from now. She'll be 37 and there'll still be lots of hot guys her own age who'll want her.  Is she going to remain as the girlfriend or wife of a guy who is getting increasingly closer to looking like her grandfather, or is she going to leave the guy for a man who can give her everything she needs and wants for in a man?

Yes, her interests might be more modern. 

Like, she wants to go the beach, wants to go out to eat restaurants every night, wants to go to the movies 3 times a week, wants to go to the nightclub 4 times a week, wants to go to music festivals that last an entire weekend, she wants to meet-up with her girlfriends for hours at an end, she wants to travel the world and meet new cultures, she wants to go on shopping sprees and she wants to spend hours and hours inside a mall going through every store like a married wife goes through the pockets of her husband who often travels for work.

She wants to have sex outside, she wants what a 27 year old wants, and OP at his age, and as he keeps on getting older and she keeps on getting younger in comparison, what he wants is to go home after work, pull out a cold one, have his dinner, and go to bed for tomorrow's another hard day at work and he can't pull an all-nighter after spending the past night drinking across the Mexican border with Mexican strippers. Well, you know what I'm saying.

 

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I am 52-year-old and have been living together with a lovely lady who is 22 years younger. We have been together for over four years and there is a lot of fun between us. She never wanted to have kids so that never posed a sore spot. I am very particular about maintaining my physique and many times have been complimented for someone in his thirties. So there is visibly not too much of a gap between me and my girlfriend. My avatar is my current picture (about a month old).

Sure, but there's a bit of a difference between the body of a 52 year old who is ever so close to being 60, and the body of a 30 year old man who treats his body like a temple, no? I haven't been to the gym since december, I spend most of the time inside the house, and I'm still at 10% body fat at a weight-in of 180lbs, without taking care of my body, which makes my body look decent enough, I guess,  but when i put work into it?

210lbs at 6% body fat.  Dunno why, but the women who walk past me with their boyfriends and husbands stare at my body. Maybe they're calculating how much we're emotionally compatible?

Then there's the hairline, the face, the smile, yeah. It's complicated.

 

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So the essence is if the OP feels self-conscious about it then the relationship is doomed. Society is simply a periphery. What matters is inner dynamics between two individuals. If he likes her and their mutual overlaps are fantastic then age hardly becomes a factor. You could be with someone of your age and find her boring yet someone way younger brings out vibrant life in you and vice versa.

Enough said!

 

And a 27 year old is not going to find a 50 year old man to be boring?  Or the guy keeps in touch with all the cool kids and knows what young people are listening to these days? Does he  listen to Drake when he's driving to bingo, or does he watch MTV while filling in his tax report?

Yes, that's called, ''dating a woman young enough to be my daughter because I feel old and I'm having a mid-life crisis and I don't want to lose my hair, and I don't want to end up looking like my dad so I'm gonna go ahead and date someone who wouldn't give me the time of the day if I was still renting a house at the age of 50, had no car, and worked as burger flipper at the local food joint.''

That's just my 2 cents, bro!

Edited September 15, 2020 by Azincourt

[Erik30]

11 hours ago, snowcones said:

True.  I'm a woman thinking about dating much younger men so it's completely different for me because it's not even an option for a me to have kids with a younger man, so that automatically removes any ambiguity that may surround the topic.  And he will know that going in. 

To be fair, way younger men probably aren't thinking about the future. 

It is interesting seeing this discussion, like you can just decide to date much younger. I think you're only able to do that if you're rich or very attractive... though there probably are a lot of young men willing to just have sex with older women. There are exceptions of course, like the OP just meeting someone in real life.

Older women aren't an option for me, especially not if they're old enough to be my mom. It would just feel like I'm dating someone's mom, and not in a good way. Also yeah kids are a big issue 

[elaine567]

Sounds like the coworker is pushing her sister onto the OP.
Her sister may not be too keen in reality.
I certainly would not  be pushing my sister or anyone else for that matter, onto a bloke 22 years older, why is she doing that?

[Azincourt]

48 minutes ago, Erik30 said:

To be fair, way younger men probably aren't thinking about the future. 

Because most don't have a future, with the economy and the higher education realm, and the housing industry, and with everything really having been ruined by the baby boomers - what incentive there is in being a 'husband and a father'' when you need to be a millionaire to give a kid a comfortable life, and as many opportunities as possible? There's a private school in Swizterland that teaches kids from kindergarden up to the 12th grade, and it's 100 000 dollars a year per kid. I can't afford that. So, I have a kid so the kid can grow up and see men making 30 millions a year for shooting a ball, and seeing kids going to med school because their parents can afford it?

That's how many young men think.

 

48 minutes ago, Erik30 said:

It is interesting seeing this discussion, like you can just decide to date much younger. I think you're only able to do that if you're rich or very attractive... though there probably are a lot of young men willing to just have sex with older women. There are exceptions of course, like the OP just meeting someone in real life.

Older women aren't an option for me, especially not if they're old enough to be my mom. It would just feel like I'm dating someone's mom, and not in a good way. Also yeah kids are a big issue 

Nah. A much older man can date a much younger woman without being very attractive or very rich.  Not every 20 year old woman is a 6 feet tall Claudia Schiffer, most are just plain-looking with bodies that would never attract a rich movie star. But when a much older man wishes to date a much younger women, it's far more often than not a physicaly attractive woman that every guy her own age was trying to get at but couldn't. Mostly because these women who date older men are gold-diggers and most 25 years old men can't afford them. They can't even afford that woman's shoes.

[snowcones]

5 hours ago, Azincourt said:

Clint Eastwood is almost 100 and if I'm not mistaken his youngest daughter is 23 or 26.  Reason why a much younger woman would want to have a child with a guy as old as her father, sometimes older than her own father is because of that sweet child-support she'd be getting if the marriage doesn't work out. Possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars per month until the kid reaches the age of 18, at the least.

Yes, love is great, and Kevin Coster and Clint Eastwood are still handsome men in their own right, but there's no really comparison to how they looked back In 'Dancing With Wolves,'  and in The Good, the Bad and the Ugly'

Michael Douglas was also demanded to put down his signature on a marriage contract that would guarantee a windfall of hundreds of millions of dollars to be received by his 25 or 30 years younger Catherine Zeta Jones wife, if the guy was to cheat on her.  I reckong the next woman to marry Jeff Bezos will also become a billionaire post-divorce.

Most relationships with the guy being much older than the woman(10+years) usually happen only because he has money and she either needs the money, or wants the momeny to support her lifestyle.

There's plenty of attractive 50+ year old women for a guy that age to meet, but if he feels that there aren't women his own age who are hot, then it might be that the guy thinks of himself as being attractive and fit and still handsome, but women in his age group don't really share the same belief.

No, a woman shouldn't make concessions and bend to a guy's rules. These women will date, marry, and have children with much older men because life's expensive, and what would you do if you were a hot 30 year old woman with a super rich actor with hundreds of millions of dollars at his disposal?

Would you work like a dog for the next 30 years to pay off the mortggage on a house that is meh, nothing special, or would you marry a guy who can buy you a thousand castles with his spare cash?

Hell, I'm a dude and I'd marry Madonna or Jennifer Lopez, or even a 90 year old billionaire fashion designer for the chance of getting some of those millions to find their way into my bank account.  Gold-digging is a natural strategy in our struggle to not end up homeless.  I can't really judge a 27 year old woman for dating or eventually marrying a guy she is probably not going to be attracted to because it's not like we're all filthy rich down here in the working class, are we.

Uh no.  You're suggesting that these younger women are always thinking about child-support or some such when they marry the older person.  No, that's not the only reason why these younger women marry and older man.  Sometimes they truly are dumb or in love and kind of out of their right mind (see Celine Dion and her old man who's now passed away).  Which is DUE TO THEM BEING YOUNG.  They don't have a whole lot of of maturity, life experience, knowledge or wisdom to draw on to think clearly, but our laws and customs say that once a person becomes a legal adult, they are allowed to marry and sleep with whomever they want, so we have to let them and can't really question it.  Maybe some have daddy issues or mommy issues and that's why they gravitate towards an older mate, but whatever it is, it isn't our place to judge or tell them what to do.

Edit to add: Oh and Kevin Coster is hot still but Clint Eastwood looks like the walking dead.

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[snowcones]

1 hour ago, Erik30 said:

To be fair, way younger men probably aren't thinking about the future. 

It is interesting seeing this discussion, like you can just decide to date much younger. I think you're only able to do that if you're rich or very attractive... though there probably are a lot of young men willing to just have sex with older women. There are exceptions of course, like the OP just meeting someone in real life.

Older women aren't an option for me, especially not if they're old enough to be my mom. It would just feel like I'm dating someone's mom, and not in a good way. Also yeah kids are a big issue 

I don't know, It's always some man who comes along to tell older woman that it won't happen and how they'll get nothing but the crappiest of treatment.  Well, times are changing and I don't know what to tell you, you'll just have to get used to something different/new happening.  And just because someone else is doing it doesn't mean you have to do it.

[snowcones]

8 minutes ago, snowcones said:

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[Azincourt]

18 minutes ago, snowcones said:

I don't know, It's always some man who comes along to tell older woman that it won't happen and how they'll get nothing but the crappiest of treatment.  Well, times are changing and I don't know what to tell you, you'll just have to get used to something different/new happening.  And just because someone else is doing it doesn't mean you have to do it.

When I was 19, I was dating a 30 year old woman. When I was 21, I was dating a 44 year old woman. At 25 I dated a 50 year old. I'm in my 30s and I wanna sleep with this 60 year old who flirts with me all the time, but  always goes back to, ''what am I saying, I have daughters your age,'' to which we stop talking to each other for about a week, and then we start all over again.

When a guy says he wouldn't sleep with a woman his mother's age he means 2 things.

One, he's like 40 years old and he's not attracted to the women in their 60s and 70s he's around, because the women that age he's met are unattractive and look their age.

Two, he's 20, but why woul an attractive 30-40 year old woman who knows what she's doing want a guy who is wet behind the ears, which is what most men aged 18-30 are in any case.

Ain't no one in the world, doesn't matter if he's 20 or 50 who is going to reject Jennifer Lopez or  Monica Belluci if they wanted him.

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Uh no.  You're suggesting that these younger women are always thinking about child-support or some such when they marry the older person. 

 

 

 

Young women aren't marrying older men because they need a partner to play bingo with.

Young women have a vast selection of men to pick from. Rich old men aren't throwing money to date women who are young enough to be their daughters unless these women are hot. Hot women can easily get themselves an equally as hot 25-30 year old man.  Or, if they're smart they know where to hang out to meet rich dudes who make hundeds of millions of  dollars a year and know to stick to that guy(leo messi's wife).

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No, that's not the only reason why these younger women marry and older man.  Sometimes they truly are dumb or in love and kind of out of their right mind (see Celine Dion and her old man who's now passed away).  Which is DUE TO THEM BEING YOUNG.  They don't have a whole lot of of maturity, life experience, knowledge or wisdom to draw on to think clearly, but our laws and customs say that once a person becomes a legal adult, they are allowed to marry and sleep with whomever they want, so we have to let them and can't really question it.  Maybe some have daddy issues or mommy issues and that's why they gravitate towards an older mate, but whatever it is, it isn't our place to judge or tell them what to do.

Celine Dion married one of the richest and most influential music recorders living in North America. Funny how she didn't fall in love with a 60 year old baker with the only gift to give to a 18 year old woman a pretzel or a donut. Baked to her satisfaction!

No, she went and married a rich guy who vastly helped her career and who made her rich and famous far sooner than she would if she had gone through the normal channels.

Shania Twain married a guy much older than her, when she was like 21. 

The guy's job was... painting houses.

Nope. Dude owned a label. He got her a contract. Got her contacts in the buiz. Got her concerts. Got her everything that her talent and beauty deserved, yes, but much faster than otherwise would have been possible.

Beautiful young women marry older men out of necessity, that is all there is to it. Are there 20 year old women who love their 50 year old husbands. Sure there are. Is there life in this Universe?

Yes. Now show me another planet in the Universe with life in it other than Planet Earth.

Hahahaha. You can only start drinking at the age of 21.

Which means a 27 year old has only been an adult for 6 years, which again means I ain't trusting any young woman who is married to daddy, to actually be attracted to him. Physically. Emotionally. Romantically. Sexually.

Let me go grab 35 year old Cristiano Ronaldo and let's have her choose between him and 50 year old daddy.

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[snowcones]

2 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

When I was 19, I was dating a 30 year old woman. When I was 21, I was dating a 44 year old woman. At 25 I dated a 50 year old. I'm in my 30s and I wanna sleep with this 60 year old who flirts with me all the time, but  always goes back to, ''what am I saying, I have daughters your age,'' to which we stop talking to each other for about a week, and then we start all over again.

When a guy says he wouldn't sleep with a woman his mother age he means 2 things.

One, he's like 40 years old and he's not attracted to the women in their 60s and 70s he's around, because the women that age he's met are unattractive and look their age.

Two, he's 20, but why woul an attractive 30-40 year old woman who knows what she's doing want a guy who is wet behind the ears, which is what most men aged 18-30 are in any case.

Ain't no one in the world, doesn't matter if he's 20 or 50 who is going to reject Jennifer Lopez or  Monica Belluci if they wanted him.

Exactly.  I know this.

[Erik30]

19 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

When I was 19, I was dating a 30 year old woman. When I was 21, I was dating a 44 year old woman. At 25 I dated a 50 year old. I'm in my 30s and I wanna sleep with this 60 year old who flirts with me all the time, but  always goes back to, ''what am I saying, I have daughters your age,'' to which we stop talking to each other for about a week, and then we start all over again.

Well you obviously have a thing for older women... and there's nothing wrong with that.

[Erik30]

30 minutes ago, snowcones said:

I don't know, It's always some man who comes along to tell older woman that it won't happen and how they'll get nothing but the crappiest of treatment.  Well, times are changing and I don't know what to tell you, you'll just have to get used to something different/new happening.  And just because someone else is doing it doesn't mean you have to do it.

Who said it wouldn't happen? I don't care who you date, I'm just being realistic. Most men aren't attracted to much older women. I'm talking about like 20 years older and up. But good for you if you find that young guy 

[Azincourt]

11 minutes ago, Erik30 said:

Who said it wouldn't happen? I don't care who you date, I'm just being realistic. Most men aren't attracted to much older women. I'm talking about like 20 years older and up. But good for you if you find that young guy 

Most men aren't attracted to much older women who are physically unattractive. Most men are attracted to much older women who were very physically attractive when young, and who are still very much physically attractive, now that they're past their 30s, and they're in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. Plus with the fact that they're comfortable with their bodies and with sex, unlike many hot 21 year olds who keep comparing themselves to Kendall Jenner like I'm ever going to have the opportunity to have sex with her, and they have decades and decades of experience in the bedroom.

Plus they got the money to treat you good. Most 21 year old women are broke and can barely afford rent on their own. They can't even afford to buy shoes when there are no shoe sales.

[Fletch Lives]

I normally say to seek out people near your age range, and if you want younger, date somebody who looks younger.

However, when it falls in your lap like this, why not go for it? Making your dating pool larger is a good thing.

[snowcones]

57 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said:

I normally say to seek out people near your age range, and if you want younger, date somebody who looks younger.

However, when it falls in your lap like this, why not go for it? Making your dating pool larger is a good thing.

Agreed!  That's sounds advice and probably best.

[snowcones]

3 hours ago, Azincourt said:

Celine Dion married one of the richest and most influential music recorders living in North America. Funny how she didn't fall in love with a 60 year old baker with the only gift to give to a 18 year old woman a pretzel or a donut. Baked to her satisfaction!

No, she went and married a rich guy who vastly helped her career and who made her rich and famous far sooner than she would if she had gone through the normal channels.

Young women aren't marrying older men because they need a partner to play bingo with.

Young women have a vast selection of men to pick from. Rich old men aren't throwing money to date women who are young enough to be their daughters unless these women are hot. Hot women can easily get themselves an equally as hot 25-30 year old man.  Or, if they're smart they know where to hang out to meet rich dudes who make hundeds of millions of  dollars a year and know to stick to that guy(leo messi's wife).

Which means a 27 year old has only been an adult for 6 years, which again means I ain't trusting any young woman who is married to daddy, to actually be attracted to him. Physically. Emotionally. Romantically. Sexually.

Let me go grab 35 year old Cristiano Ronaldo and let's have her choose between him and 50 year old daddy.

I don't know how to do that complicated quoting thing like you know how to do so...

Re: Celine Dion - wrong.  The guy had to mortgage his house to get her started in her career and he was going through a divorce, he was far from rich.  His career was in the garbage. SHE made him rich.

I will concede with you that for the most part, if he's an older man that has a lot of money, he has a better chance at getting a young hot chick, but more to the point, if you're an older man who is broke, it's unlikely that you are going to get a hot younger chick.  You may still get a younger chick, but she won't be hot.  There is always some sacrifice to be made when you are older going for much younger.  That's how the game works.

Edited September 15, 2020 by snowcones