kenmore Posted September 15, 2020 Posted September 15, 2020 18 hours ago, d0nnivain said: I think she likes you but is doing a bad job of attracting your attention & you are doing an equally bad job of picking up on her poor signals. She says all this stupid stuff to you in the hopes of getting a conversation going but she's so awkward you read it all as mixed signals because on some level it is. She likes you but don't want to get hurt nor does she want to make work weird. There is a LOT to be said for not dating somebody you work with. When you break up, things at work will be awful. The next time you see her invite to actually go for a ride in your car. Drive her around the block. Don't go too far, maybe 10 minutes max. Talk to her in the car to get a better feel if she really does like you as a I suspect or if there is something more sinister as smackie9 suggests. If there is mutual attraction, set up a date. If you get anything other than an enthusiastic yes, back off, Never ask again & keep all interactions at work to a head nod & essential work related conversation only while you ignore her. Well, I have known Donnivain for a long time and she knows what she's talking about. Take her advice! The lady likes you. Take action. Don't delay and be a fool. Otherwise, you're a troll.
Author Shane_88 Posted September 15, 2020 Author Posted September 15, 2020 thanks everyone for your advice and input! Its much appreciated. To be honest i still don't know what to do? (that's even if i have a choice) but i do think its more a lust thing cause shes a bit older than me, im 35 and she must be late 40s possibly even pushing 50. so its not like that much could come out of this. I have this little concern that she avoids me because shes creeped out by me, ever time she walks into my area her eyes are straight on me but if i look she quickly looks away, its made me wonder whether its cause shes looking at me to see if i noticed her cause shes trying to get past without me seeing? or am i being paranoid? lol i remember once i was walking to the toilet and when I walked around the corner she was walking towards me and she literally freaked looked to the floor. is that bad? And lastly... when she had a giggling with some co workers about me inviting her into my car, one of these guys said "you do understand there's no chance" but i don't know if that's his opinion or it came from her? or is she hiding her true feelings from them? cause her jealously speaks volumes to me and its happened 3-4 times now.
Author Shane_88 Posted September 15, 2020 Author Posted September 15, 2020 23 hours ago, Caauug said: Yes, you are correct. She's not blind, she knows you are going bald.... She sees your insecurities with loosing your hair and then because there is now competition, she wants to see if you are worth the competition for your attention... She was shyte testing you!!! (google that term using the correct spelling) Or, how do you handle when your insecurities are thrown in your face at short notice? A strong person would not be rattled... She likes you, and is measuring you up if you are worthy of her attention, that is why the test.... Women do this without even knowing they are doing it... It's all part of evolution on finding a strong (braun or brains) suitable mate. Good, she's making you chase it.... For the most part, another test on you personality.... She does like you, but are you worth the chase (to her)? It's a game, to test your frame.... How strong are you? ive heard of s*** testing but how can you tell the difference between that and not interested?
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