poppyfields Posted September 14, 2020 Posted September 14, 2020 (edited) 34 minutes ago, Azincourt said: I don't understand what made you feel like OP's boyfriend is trying to exhibit her around as a Trophy wife? I'm not, I was responding to Watercolors who wrote the below in an earlier post: >>I'd say "no" unless you can bring some girlfriends along. You are not some piece of meat on display.<< Does that explain? How would her bf know it would make her anxious and uncomfortable unless she tells him? I am a huge introvert and socially anxious, yet meeting my boyfriends' friends in that type of mixed setting was always fun! HE was there to support me. As I said, I highly doubt her bf would take issue with her bringing along a couple of friends but he is not a mind reader, she needs to communicate that to him. Covid-19 is a separate issue, and not what the OP was concerned about. Edited September 14, 2020 by poppyfields
Wiseman2 Posted September 14, 2020 Posted September 14, 2020 On 9/13/2020 at 10:30 AM, Glx said: He wrote me today: "I've already announced you as a special guest for our dinner. they are looking forward to getting to know you!" to me "special guest" doesn't sound exactly like "my girlfriend".. If you want to ruin things sure, don't go. Why be upset that he used a respectful rather than trendy term? Don't you think the Action of inviting you means more than lables? 3
Azincourt Posted September 14, 2020 Posted September 14, 2020 They've been dating for 2 months. That's 60 days. Why the rush to call him boyfriend or girlfriend. You guys barely know each other, don't need to announce to the world you're dating or something, yet. My best friend with whom I gew up, it always took me a year or two to meet his new girlfriends. Because, I don't see the point of meeting girlfriends. It's a girlfriend, not a wife. I wouldn't meet you if you was my best friend's girlfriend even during a non-pandemic night, let alone now that everyone's avoiding each other like we're back to the black plague. It's not that I don't respect you, I do. It's that a girlfriend of 2 months is only a step above 'friends with benefits' to me. I'd rather wait a year or two, to make sure my friends are in a real relationship, and they're going the distance, instead of changing my plans and having to bother to shave, shower, and put my best suit to impress someone's girlfriend that I don't even know will be still a part of my friend's life one year from now.
Watercolors Posted September 14, 2020 Posted September 14, 2020 1 hour ago, poppyfields said: Watercolors, I agree, I think she should be able to as well, if it makes it more comfortable for her. I cannot imagine her boyfriend having an issue with that, he may even welcome it! Her friends can bring their boyfriends, it would be a fun little (or not so little) dinner party. So perhaps we should give him the benefit of the doubt and not assume he considers her "some piece of meat on display"? Just a suggestion. LOLZ ok so I wrote that post while watching an episode of Sex and the City and was quasi-quoting something the character Miranda made to the other character Samantha. This is what menopause does to the female brain! 1
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