Rictor33 Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 I have been dating this girl for 3 months now and I really like her. We have had a rocky relationship, but we still had some great times together and genuinely liked each other. She broke up with me because she wanted to get back together the with other guy she was seeing. He dated her for 2 months more than I had, but she dated me at the same time she was dating him until he dumped her a month ago. I pushed her away by asking her questions and pressuring her about our relationship and where it was going when she obviously did not want to talk about it. I made myself too available to her and killed her attraction to me as well. I let her have too much of me, telling her how I felt about her and really putting too much pressure on the girl to make a decision about me until she finally decided to cut me off. Sometimes when I'd spend time with her she would get upset about him and the fact that they were over with, however she dated me at the same time as she dated him and it wasn't to make me jealous because we really had some genuinely great times together and she even seemed like she was leaning towards dumping him and picking me. We had a rough situation about 2 weeks ago and I took her into NYC for a big date and it couldn't have been more successful, she told me as we held each other in bed that she would never stop seeing me and a few days later told me she wanted to make the relationship work. I hung out with her two times that week (big ****ing mistake) but it seemed that all the progress I thought I had made just really was not there. Then on friday I took her out to dinner and she got really upset at me for talking to her friend and had me take her home, I pissed her off pretty seriously. After that she didnt speak to me, until her friend told me that she wanted to make up with the other guy and jettison me. Then she said "lets be friends" to me and I agreed, but have now decided to play no contact for a while, just to see if she misses me, IMO there is no way she won't because there was really something there for a while and we really enjoyed each others company most of the time. I am supposed to see her out with her best friend (also my friend who she got pissed at for talking to me) and a group of people on friday, I am not sure if this is a good idea, but I plan to play it totally cool and act happy and be the guy she once was attracted to and couldn't stop calling. I need to show her that she doesn't have me anymore and that I am able to be happy and fun with or without her. I don't know if it's possible to get her back, but for some reason I really think I can do it, if I just play my cards right. What do you guys think? She just texted me telling me "we cant be friends" and "do you agree?" and I don't plan on responding to her, I think that only time can fix things and I can just hope things work out..
crazy_grl Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Hmm... where to start... So it seems that she was dating this other guy for two months when you two first got together, right? Did you know about him from the beginning? Did he know about you? If the answer to either of those questions is "no", get her out of your life and don't look back, because she's a cheater. I don't understand why she'd get upset with you for talking to her friend. My boyfriends can talk to my friends all they want, unless they're flirting with them. What was it that made her mad?? So why do you want her back? She sounds like she's all over the place. Have you considered that maybe you'd be happier with someone more stable who didn't make you jump through hoops?
fatcat Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 This one isn't a keeper. If you keep thinking of her, you'll go out of your mind. I suggest moving on and wiping her out of your brain's harddrive. She sounds fickle and has the decision qualities of George Bush.
Author Rictor33 Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 Yeah... I spoke to her last night and today and she said some really mean **** to me. She was mad that I ignored her and she thought that was rude, right now I am fine with what happened. Last night I told her we shouldnt talk anymore and that she needs time to decide what she wants, she even told me today that I spent too much time with her and that didn't help my cause, I knew that I did that.. In the beginning when everything was good I didnt talk to her very often and did not hang out with her much at all, but as we got closer I put myself out there too much and it scared her off and made her lose her attraction to me.. Welp, lesson learned.. I am not about to allow myself to get hung up on this, I knew I was messing up when I made myself easy to get. I might call her in a month or two, I might not.. If I see her I will probably say "hi" and ignore her. I am not going to cling to getting this one back, because I already ****ed it up..
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