Kirsty-Nicole Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 I've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months and we spend 4 nights a week at each others places. With covid. It works perfect for us as we've created a "support bubble" Last night was the first night I was staying at his. I am a coeliac. I cooked for us because I promised him a nice meal as we've both been stressed with work. I must have missed a dish that had gluten. in it and I felt an attack coming on. I took some imodium, to slow the impending situation. I didn't tell my boyfriend as I knew he'd worry. We went to sleep and about 3am, I woke up and I was mid lets say attack evacuation (I'm too embarrassed to say what it actually is). My boyfriend wakes up. goes "Attack?" I'm crying and I say yes. He gets me out of my clothes and gets me to the toilet. to finish up. and he starts me a bath (even putting bubble bath in the water). I remember he kept reassuring me that its ok and not to worry. When I get in to the bath he tells me to stay in it until he gets back. He went to the supermarket bought me some new pjs (because mine were soiled), the milk I have to calm my symptoms down, some fruit and some juice as well as some more immodium. I felt really bad he had to see, deal with it and. He had stripped the bed, remade it and kept telling me not to worry and asking if I'm alright. I get in to bed and he goes downstairs and starts the washing machine. He brings me a glass of juice and tells me if I need anything to wake him. I get up this morning and hes left a duvet on the sofa and a note to say to work from home and to call if I need anything as he has had to go to see clients. I'm very embarrassed to raise the situation with him, I don't want him thinking its normal. (its rare it gets this bad) and I feel bad he had to clean up and is now looking after me. Do I just carry on like it didn't happen or do I talk to him about it? Would you get him something to say thank you?
Alpacalia Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 I think your boyfriend was very understanding and showed great kindness taking care of you. I'm sure it must have been embarrassing for you but he seems to care a lot about you. Perhaps you can make him a nice dinner when you're feeling better or get him a little gift to show your appreciation (and lots of hugs and kisses). Feel better! 9
Datingdisabled Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 15 minutes ago, Kirsty-Nicole said: I've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months and we spend 4 nights a week at each others places. With covid. It works perfect for us as we've created a "support bubble" Last night was the first night I was staying at his. I am a coeliac. I cooked for us because I promised him a nice meal as we've both been stressed with work. I must have missed a dish that had gluten. in it and I felt an attack coming on. I took some imodium, to slow the impending situation. I didn't tell my boyfriend as I knew he'd worry. We went to sleep and about 3am, I woke up and I was mid lets say attack evacuation (I'm too embarrassed to say what it actually is). My boyfriend wakes up. goes "Attack?" I'm crying and I say yes. He gets me out of my clothes and gets me to the toilet. to finish up. and he starts me a bath (even putting bubble bath in the water). I remember he kept reassuring me that its ok and not to worry. When I get in to the bath he tells me to stay in it until he gets back. He went to the supermarket bought me some new pjs (because mine were soiled), the milk I have to calm my symptoms down, some fruit and some juice as well as some more immodium. I felt really bad he had to see, deal with it and. He had stripped the bed, remade it and kept telling me not to worry and asking if I'm alright. I get in to bed and he goes downstairs and starts the washing machine. He brings me a glass of juice and tells me if I need anything to wake him. I get up this morning and hes left a duvet on the sofa and a note to say to work from home and to call if I need anything as he has had to go to see clients. I'm very embarrassed to raise the situation with him, I don't want him thinking its normal. (its rare it gets this bad) and I feel bad he had to clean up and is now looking after me. Do I just carry on like it didn't happen or do I talk to him about it? Would you get him something to say thank you? Your boyfriend just melts my heart and you should be grateful that you have such a supportive boyfriend. I don't think I would buy him a gift, that's making a big deal out of it. I don't know your boyfriend but I would do something to show him that you appreciate him. I would be very loving and affectionate to him at this point because you appreciate him. That's very sweet that your boyfriend did all that. 6
Wiseman2 Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 He's a keeper! You got sick it happens. 5
Classicfiction Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 That's really incredibly loving and understanding of him. Thank you for sharing even though its embarassing. It's actually really beautiful 3
Datingdisabled Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 26 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: He's a keeper! You got sick it happens. wiseman2, you are really growing on me 1
ajequals Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 He's just showing how much he cares. that's all. seems like a great catch to me 1
Alvi Posted September 11, 2020 Posted September 11, 2020 No need to feel embarrassed. Especially about anything health related. He sounds like a sweet caring guy.When you date, you need to see the good, the bad, the ugly, and some very very ugly. Since he didn't run away, he is a keeper. 3
basil67 Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 He's definitely a keeper. And I bet you'd do the same for him if he had a gastro attack. 1
BaileyB Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 I had an embarrassing moment when I first started dating my boyfriend. He was so kind, it was actually the moment that I realized I truly loved him. I agree - this guy is definitely a keeper! 2
Datingdisabled Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 7 minutes ago, BaileyB said: I had an embarrassing moment when I first started dating my boyfriend. He was so kind, it was actually the moment that I realized I truly loved him. I agree - this guy is definitely a keeper! Now these are sweet stories. There are still a lot of sweet and single men out there but I'm not feeling a connection yet and if it's not a connection that makes me feel like I want to be in it, I'm content single.
Lotsgoingon Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 (edited) You have a condition, but this can happen and does happen with the flu, with diarrhea from all kinds of causes. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. I know, I know: you revealed the human side of yourself. It is a transition point of sorts when we get sick for the first time with a lover. But there is always a first time. Here's the deal: we all know everyone poops. We can know that and push that aside at the same time. We don't let that ruin anything. You just pooped in a goofy way, but trust me: he'll have some stomach problems at some point. The way he reacted tells me this guy is a great guy, mature. He'll check on you when he gets back, and he'll be back to seeing you as the beautiful woman he likes. I know: it's vulnerable to have this happen, but this IS what happens. We're human. Edited September 12, 2020 by Lotsgoingon 1
DarrenB Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 Some things are inevitable and can't be prevented. However, he handled the situation perfectly and the way you portray yourself and him must be reflective of a great relationship. 1
healing light Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 Sounds like a wonderful man! Just tell him you felt embarrassed but you really appreciated the way he handled the situation with grace and that it makes you realize what a great partner he is. Then cook a gluten-free dinner.
La.Primavera Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 I have an adult answer about what you should do to thank him, but it may not be appropriate in this section. You'll figure it out! Don't make it awkward by saying anything, just show him that he is special and appreciated. Oh.. and marry him!
Author Kirsty-Nicole Posted September 12, 2020 Author Posted September 12, 2020 When he got back last night he made me something to eat. Made sure I was alright and checked all the food items in the pantry that are not in containers (Since we met and I've been staying at his, he has put anything in gluten in a tuppa wear container with a red lid so I know its containing gluten, which I think is really sweet). I was on the sofa under the duvet when he got in I said I'd sleep on the sofa in case it I have another attack. He said he won't have that and the duvet was there so I could have a duvet day whilst working from home and watching films. I then said "About last night" he just interrupted and said I didn't need to explain myself as there was nothing to explain. I did cuddle up to him and fell asleep. I do feel this is my moment of realisation that "he is the one", he makes me feel so content and he has proven this to me. I hope I have shown him I am the one for him. This morning, I wake up to breakfast in bed I feel it is very one sided at the minute. 1
Author Kirsty-Nicole Posted September 12, 2020 Author Posted September 12, 2020 8 hours ago, La.Primavera said: I have an adult answer about what you should do to thank him, but it may not be appropriate in this section. You'll figure it out! Don't make it awkward by saying anything, just show him that he is special and appreciated. Oh.. and marry him! You think he is marriage material?
smackie9 Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 (edited) It was a first time thing, and of course it had to be the worst kind, the worst time, at his place..... so embarrassing! but he step up massively which is a good sign. Like everyone said, he's a keeper. It's gonna take a while for this to wear off, but it's just life right? Just goes to show you, he will have np changing diapers on the kids or clean up their puke, etc. Edited September 12, 2020 by smackie9
HadMeOverABarrel Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 What a great guy! Hang onto him. He's a keeper! I think you should tell him you feel embarrassed but focus mostly on your appreciation for what he did for you. Tell him how much you appreciate everything he did for you and make him feel like 'the man'...because his response shows he deserves it. Do a nice gesture for him or whatever you feel will best communicate to him your appreciation of how he did such a great job stepping up to take care of you. Make it more about how awesome he was rather than how embarrassed you were. That will further grow your bond. Be well!
HadMeOverABarrel Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 11 hours ago, La.Primavera said: and marry him! I concur!
Ruby Slippers Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 It's refreshing to read about such a loving partner
Author Kirsty-Nicole Posted September 12, 2020 Author Posted September 12, 2020 26 minutes ago, smackie9 said: It was a first time thing, and of course it had to be the worst kind, the worst time, at his place..... so embarrassing! but he step up massively which is a good sign. Like everyone said, he's a keeper. It's gonna take a while for this to wear off, but it's just life right? Just goes to show you, he will have np changing diapers on the kids or clean up their puke, etc. He didn't finch or hesitate. When I started I was in shock and started crying in pain and could hardly move, he woke up and just sprung in to action. He was so reassuring, I said something like "I'm so sorry about the bedding" and he replied "It needed changing don't worry". When I woke up the next day and come down he had already set off, He had already ironed my pjs that he washed and the bedding. 10 minutes ago, HadMeOverABarrel said: What a great guy! Hang onto him. He's a keeper! I think you should tell him you feel embarrassed but focus mostly on your appreciation for what he did for you. Tell him how much you appreciate everything he did for you and make him feel like 'the man'...because his response shows he deserves it. Do a nice gesture for him or whatever you feel will best communicate to him your appreciation of how he did such a great job stepping up to take care of you. Make it more about how awesome he was rather than how embarrassed you were. That will further grow your bond. Be well! When I did try and talk to him last night he did say that I didn't need to explain myself he understood it was an attack and they happen. We went out for a drive today because I really wanted to get out. I said "lets get drive through and talk" so we are eating (If you can call me picking and eating little bits eating). I just explained how great he was and how thankful I am that he helped me. He said it was nothing and when I explained to him what I have he went and learnt about it, and he is kicking himself that he wasn't more prepared with things, because I'm the most important thing to him. I said about all the bedding and stuff. He replied he can easily get replacements from Amazon or Dunelm and last time he checked they don't stock replacements of me. If he was to ask to marry me I wouldn't say no to be honest.
Author Kirsty-Nicole Posted September 12, 2020 Author Posted September 12, 2020 4 minutes ago, smackie9 said: Ironed? who does that anymore? He does. It surprised me too
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted September 12, 2020 Posted September 12, 2020 We all have bodily functions. What an amazing man! 1
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