Sassydiva Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 Wouldn’t say nothing...but there isn’t a lot anymore. When I first met my friend, he was working, he drank but not non stop partying etc. We do hang out but I sense a bit of a disconnect between us. He isn’t working (laid off) he parties every weekend and usually once during the week, he doesn’t have kids, I have a teen, he’s never been married and his values as far as staying single (before he spoke about relationship, etc) he is 46 and it seems he transformed into a 21 year old. He hangs out with his single friends or friends with no kid responsibility. I feel left out when I see pictures...it’s mixed crowd and he rarely invites me because it’s always spontaneous or he thinks my child is with me (he didn’t even ask) I told him this bothers me but it doesn’t help things at all. He rationalizes everything. I just feel totally out of place with him and his crowd..
basil67 Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 I completely understand you feeling out of place with him and his crowd. And he probably understands it too and this is why he doesn't invite you. Friendships do come and go in our lives...perhaps you've outgrown him? 1
Author Sassydiva Posted September 10, 2020 Author Posted September 10, 2020 4 minutes ago, basil67 said: I completely understand you feeling out of place with him and his crowd. And he probably understands it too and this is why he doesn't invite you. Friendships do come and go in our lives...perhaps you've outgrown him? Could be. Even though we’re really close in age, I’m a lot more mature and emotionally mature...he’s not really on the same page anymore.
basil67 Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 Yep, time to cut him loose. Don't make a big deal of it, just drift away. Do you have other friends?
Author Sassydiva Posted September 10, 2020 Author Posted September 10, 2020 13 minutes ago, basil67 said: Yep, time to cut him loose. Don't make a big deal of it, just drift away. Do you have other friends? A little..time to make more
Pumaza Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 You feel out of place with his crowd but worried about him not inviting you? loool You should be happy right?lol People without kids are often more free in their doing and dont wanna deal with the oh my kid is here i cant now. They often just wanna pack and go. Maybe you should make freinds with more single dads. And i dont know how long you know him, but sometimes freindships change. Maybe you guys can be freinds but on a other level now.Something brought you guys toghater.If you cant even connect on that,maybe its not deep kind of freindship.Just see him as a buddy that you can go have a drink with once a while. But if you see that you really dont wanna be freinds,cut it of.Dont force it.
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