Ezreal Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 (edited) I know it's probably nothing and I'm reading too much into it, but I need to vent. I was texting with this other girl that I met in person. We texted for about a week and half. Last night we were texting for like three hours, then she ask me why I gave her my number, which I told her I like her. Then she got defensive and text me we could only be friends and that I was moving too fast. At first, I agreed to just be friends, but the next day before dawn I sent her another text saying it was better to part ways. I tried being friends with a girl I liked before and it didn't work, made things worst for both. That is why I decided to leave. In a previous text before the bomb friend text, she ask me if I was moving back to another state, which I replied no. I found the question odd in that none of my co-workers ask me that question when I got back from Cali. I written her off at this point. It hurts a little as I though we had a lot in common and she seem to enjoy my company. She said she kept texting me because she wanted to help me through my depression, but at this point I had no depression. People that are depress don't say they are happy. I made that clear from the beginning. Now instead of being happy, I'm a little depressed. I was happy before we started texting. I think she was just bs me about wanting to help me, but I didn't bother arguing. She kept texting me cause she was bored. At least now I know not to waste any more time with her. I deleted her text messages and phone number. It makes me a little mad that now instead of moving forward with my life I have to deal with this for a week or two. I know it's not a lot compared to others, but I been through a lot the last two months. It's a bit ironic that on the day I sent her that text the sky is red like the sky of mars due to all the fires. I suppose that is an omen that this was never going to workout. Edited September 10, 2020 by Ezreal 1
bobjon Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 She is not interested. She was being nice and helpful. You tried to push beyond friends and got checked. Let it be and move on. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 Texting is a waste of time. People on this board have story after story of texting for hours and hours for multiple days ... and then ... nothing. Texting requires no investment. It's a perfect way to distract yourself, a perfect way to waste time and procrastinate. Or just a good way to playfully flirt. You got to go hang out with the person. Texting is meaningless. And testing in the romantic realm is just addictive--so addictive people will do it when they have no real desire or intention to go meet the person, no real intention of spending time with the person. 1
DarrenB Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 (edited) Understandable to vent to deal with a problem, however you are definitely over-analyzing the situation in its entirety - it really isn't that deep. Count your blessings and use it as a learning curve moving forward. Edited September 10, 2020 by DarrenB 1
OnlyHonesty Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 When you text a woman for weeks treating her as a friend, that is how she will see you. 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 She sounds a teensy bit unhinged to me. That question just sounds like a setup. She asked why you were texting her. Who asks just a friend that? When your friends text you do you go "So anyway, why do you text me?" If she was asking just because she got a vibe you wanted more, why get angry about it? Still makes no sense. Sounds like she likes admirers, and games. Let her be someone else's headache.
CaliforniaGirl Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 P. s. We have red skies too. You must be in SoCal.
kendahke Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 (edited) 13 hours ago, Ezreal said: She kept texting me cause she was bored. did she say this or are you projecting because you're mad? Quote I suppose that is an omen that this was never going to workout. No... there are fires burning in the area and that's what the sky looks like when that's going on. Edited September 10, 2020 by kendahke
smackie9 Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 (edited) Where you went wrong: you gave your number If you are interested in a girl you ask for her number. You texted for a few weeks: You don't be their texting pal, you take the opportunity at ask her out on a date. Just because a girl is texting doesn't always mean she wants to date you. Girls like to socialize, whether it's a guy or girl. She didn't lead you on, you led yourself on by having these great expectations without any foundation for them. So for the next time, stop wasting time and get right to it...ask them out on a date. If you get rejected, don't be a sorry sap, it's part of the deal. Edited September 10, 2020 by smackie9 1 1
Shining One Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 3 hours ago, smackie9 said: If you are interested in a girl you ask for her number. This depends on age. According to my niece (mid 20's) and my nephews (late teens), it's "standard practice" for men to give women their numbers as young women are wary of giving their numbers out first. The last three women (all under 25) I took home didn't give me their numbers until the morning after.
smackie9 Posted September 10, 2020 Posted September 10, 2020 (edited) 26 minutes ago, Shining One said: This depends on age. According to my niece (mid 20's) and my nephews (late teens), it's "standard practice" for men to give women their numbers as young women are wary of giving their numbers out first. Quote The last three women (all under 25) I took home didn't give me their numbers until the morning after. Apples to oranges...... that's fine....then make your intentions clear that you want to take them out on a date. "Hey I would like to take you out sometime...here's my number." Edited September 10, 2020 by smackie9 1
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