Guy I'm talking to posts sexually provoactive pictures of himself on social media.

[MsJayne]

He posts raunchy selfies when he's bored? Maybe this guy needs to take up a hobby, something that doesn't involve being crazy in love with himself. I'd go through his social media and post laughing emojis on all his sexy pics, the sideways one that indicates you're in hysterics. Then ghost him. 

[Erik30]

I'm guessing this is one those guys who has a Tinder profile with shirtless pics. He probably looks good, and he knows it... so showing off is his way of getting women. (And it works on some) This is who he is, so it's up to you if you're okay with that.

Edited August 31, 2020 by Erik30

[CaliforniaGirl]

10 hours ago, Redguitar35 said:

I have some artistic nudes on my social media from some modeling work I’ve done and they show a lot. This girl I’ve been talking to who wants to meet me does not have a problem with it. That said, they are tasteful nudes. I’m not sure what this guy’s look like. Also people have different comfort levels when it comes to nudes. Some people make literal porn and their partners participate. You’re at the other end of the spectrum, where that’s not a side of him you’re comfortable with. So I’m not gonna say you’re overreacting. It’s alright not to be totally sex positive. But if you’re not comfortable with this side of him (this clearly bothers you), and you are not yet in a relationship with him, might be best to stop chatting. 

Well, she said one of them is of him naked with a beer bottle covering his dick.

[CaliforniaGirl]

34 minutes ago, Nuntius said:

And women.  Women thrive on the attention of posting sexually provocative pictures of themselves on social media, youtube, etc.  The ratio of women to men who do this is about a million to one.  Much of social media is comprised of attention seeking lowlifes anyways.

Pictures of themselves nude with a dorito over their their virginia?

Yes, there are women like this too. In the OP's case it is a man. Yes, he 's probably needing the attention. Insecurity.

[OnlyHonesty]

If you go to his place and he offers you a beer, think twice.

[Watercolors]

2 hours ago, Erik30 said:

I'm guessing this is one those guys who has a Tinder profile with shirtless pics. He probably looks good, and he knows it... so showing off is his way of getting women. (And it works on some) This is who he is, so it's up to you if you're okay with that.

There is this guy in my neighborhood who works out shirtless in front of his house every day. He stands on the sidewalk in front of his house and in very tight shorts with no shirt on, will lift weights for all to see. Yes,he has a nice body. Would I date that type of guy? Eeew, no. 

Edited September 1, 2020 by Watercolors

[Wiseman2]

I wanted to upload a pic of myself in my underwear but I couldn't figure out how to do it.

 

[Wiseman2]

16 minutes ago, OnlyHonesty said:

If you go to his place and he offers you a beer, think twice.

[bobjon]

My forecast, you will read the replies but date him anyway because "he is hot".....  You will then be back in 2-3mo because he cheated and you are not sure if you should give him another chance.....

People that feel the need to post pics like this have one or more different disorders, and none of them are a "hot" look.... Narcissism is the highest of possibles here, along with serious confidence issues.....  Trust me, I am an attractive guy that has been around ALL of these types....  I watch them reel in ignorant women, then those women leave and quickly.....  

I have watched history repeat itself so many times, I hardly mention it anymore...  Jump right in, but you have been warned.....

Let me clarify one point.  Being an athletic guy, I have known guys that try to work on their physical appearance....TOO hard!  Like EVERYTHING from measurements, to slick rick hair, clothes, they TRY HARD, and women pick up on it.  They soon realize they have no confidence so they are the ones that resport to HGH  and TST therapy and finally get some muscle tone.  They will immediately shave every inch they have, take their shirt off, and strut around like a stud....And women love it and the dudes love finally getting attention.  The reality is NOTHING in their personality ever changed, and in 15yrs their d*(k won't work anymore without the blue pill.  

Usually when I see guys like this, I try to find the before pics and usually find some 120# scrawny stick figure, with this odd transformation in short order.  These guys are usually a ticking time bomb.  They have behavior issues and I can only advise that unless you want to learn about domestic violence, stay well away......

Edited September 1, 2020 by bobjon

[smackie9]

My opinion? Gross...block/delete.

[SumGuy]

On 8/30/2020 at 8:23 PM, Ms.Jade said:

I was just curious to everyone's view on this. So I've been talking to this guy for awhile and everything is great. We're not officially dating yet so I really don't have much say in anything he does however there's something about him that's put me off a little bit. Recently we've shared each other's facebook and instagram pages. I notice on his page he posts a lot of sexually provocative pictures of himself basically with him being almost naked. He posts a lot of pictures of himself with nothing but his underwear on and a lot of sexually explicit content. I talked to him about it andhe  basically just says it's something that he posts when he's bored. Would this be a deal breaker for you in someone your dating? Just seems off putting for me!

Think you have your answer.  It's off putting to you, it can well fall into the deal breaker category...unless you can see yourself being good with it some day. 

His reasoning seems odd to me, as when I am bored deciding to go to the time effort to make or find sexually provocative material and post it just doesn't come to mind.  I find it very hard to believe that is the true reason and maybe even scarier if it is.

For me, it is a yellow flag to keep a very close eye on to make sure it is not indicative of something I'd consider a red flag.  I also suspect this is not the whole iceberg you are seeing here.

[spiderowl]

You were shocked when you first saw the pictures.  Trust that instinct!  It is telling you that something is amiss.  

I have chatted online, on separate occasions, to a couple of guys who told me they were naturists.  As I do not think there is anything wrong with being bare outdoors in a private space if that's what people want to do, I thought ok, we can chat.  I let them know it was fair enough but not my scene.  After a short while, it became clear that it was not that they liked to be out and about without clothing on, it was that they liked showing their body off in a risque fashion.  They each sent me an 'unsolicited' pic.  I didn't ask for a pic so why send it?  I told them I didn't need pics and was annoyed they sent it.  In the end, I realised they weren't normal guys who wanted to chat, but that it was all about them and that they were seeking women to show it off to.

I mention the above because I suspect your guy is going to turn out to be similar.  He says he's doing it because he's bored, but actually he likes showing his body off and in particular the bits others don't tend to show.  To me, that is close to what we in the UK call 'flashing' - men exposing themselves to unwilling victims.  Your guy is doing it in such a way that he can get away with it because he is not completely naked.  This 'showing it off' tendency is likely to cause problems in a relationship.  If he can't show you or you lose interest in admiring his pics, he'll want to show others.  He'll want to show others anyway.  You will be on edge about his 'hobby' because he will push the boundaries.  He is aiming to provoke.

In a society where people can go to designated beaches and be naked if they wish, there is no need to post such pics online.  I think you've correctly identified that he has a problem of some sort and if you are wise, you will opt out before you end up an emotional mess.

 

Edited September 5, 2020 by spiderowl

[OatsAndHall]

Behavior that I view as attention seeking via social media is a giant red-flag for me. I've cut off contact with women for less than what you're describing. I can live without seeing provocative selfies filled with sexual innuendo comments on someone's page.

[smackie9]

On 8/31/2020 at 6:55 PM, OnlyHonesty said:

If you go to his place and he offers you a beer, think twice.

This^^^ made me laugh

[mortensorchid]

THat's icky.  Pass on him.