Redguitar35 Posted August 28, 2020 Posted August 28, 2020 I’m not the smoothest when it comes to communicating my interest with women or even detecting their interest. I’ve been talking to a girl I met on social media for a couple of weeks. We just started chatting on there after “liking” each other’s pics and eventually she sent me her number. We’ve continued to chat, and at some point in the conversation it came up that we’re both single and we talked how our relationships ended before the pandemic. But that’s about all we’ve said about it dating stuff. I haven’t said that I’m interested in dating her because I worry that she’s not interested and would just cut me off. I’d at least like to be friends with her, so I’ve just kept my mouth shut about sexual/romantic interest. So our texting convos have stayed in this ambiguous gray area. I am not sure where this is going or if she’s just interested in being friends. It’s kinda depressing. Do I ask her if she’s interested in dating or just leave it alone? Would asking her sound desperate?
Wiseman2 Posted August 28, 2020 Posted August 28, 2020 16 minutes ago, Redguitar35 said: I’m not the smoothest when it comes to communicating my interest with women or even detecting their interest. I’ve been talking to a girl I met on social media for a couple of weeks. We just started chatting on there after “liking” each other’s pics and eventually she sent me her number. We’ve continued to chat, and at some point in the conversation it came up that we’re both single and we talked how our relationships ended before the pandemic. But that’s about all we’ve said about it dating stuff. I haven’t said that I’m interested in dating her because I worry that she’s not interested and would just cut me off. I’d at least like to be friends with her, so I’ve just kept my mouth shut about sexual/romantic interest. So our texting convos have stayed in this ambiguous gray area. I am not sure where this is going or if she’s just interested in being friends. It’s kinda depressing. Do I ask her if she’s interested in dating or just leave it alone? Would asking her sound desperate? Ask her to meet for coffee. See how things go. If she won't meet, she just wants a text buddy. 1
kismetkismet Posted August 28, 2020 Posted August 28, 2020 Just ask her casually whether she'd like to grab coffee or a drink. It's easier to tell in person whether you 'click' or if there's a spark of some kind. Don't overthink it - asking to meet up isn't really putting yourself on the line that much, that's usually where text/chatting leads eventually.
Watercolors Posted August 30, 2020 Posted August 30, 2020 (edited) On 8/28/2020 at 3:27 PM, Redguitar35 said: she sent me her number. Um, why haven't you even called her on the phone yet? I can't think of a more clear signal to you that she is interested, then, when she gave you her phone number. Do you want a text buddy? Just call her on the phone. Or, you're clearly missing out on a blatant opportunity given to you BY HER b/c she's interested. Set up a casual coffee date to meet in person. Otherwise, online dating is for people who want pen pals. Edited August 30, 2020 by Watercolors 1
smackie9 Posted August 30, 2020 Posted August 30, 2020 (edited) You are going about it all wrong...you get a number, then automatically you assume a date could be possible, so you ask them out. Stop being such a chicken, because the longer you take, the less likely she's gonna say yes. Confidence wins the girl....frittering around for weeks will always take you down that dark hole of disrepair. It's a turn off when a guy doesn't step up and be a man about it. What's the worse thing that will happen? she says no? so what. It's not going to kill you. You ditch her and move onto the next. That's how the game is played. Edited August 30, 2020 by smackie9 1
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