I was not interested in my Ex at first, she made me interested, I fell in love and then she left me for someone else 5 years later.

[jwspark85]

So, it all started roughly 6 years ago. I didn`t know my ex-GF beforehand, but found out through one of her friends she was really into me. Several attempts to hook us up and subtle advances from her followed.  I was hesitant of dating her because I was interested in someone else back then. Also, I couldn`t bring myself to hurt her by rejecting her.  Eventually I gave in, we started dating and I slowly fell in love. After a few years of living together we started making plans for the future, discussed our wedding, having kids etc.

I don`t want to make the post too long so I`ll just say she started to have problems in the relationship she didn`t communicate to me. Instead of trying to work things out she overlapped with a co-worker and left me last January.

It really messed me up, It has been over a year since she left and I`m still not over it, still feeling betrayed. I don`t follow her on social media, but I know from common friends she is living happily with the other guy. They bought a new place together and are planning to get married next year. I don`t wish her bad, I never did, ever since we started dating the only thing I wanted was for her to be happy.  On the other hand, I feel like I got the short end of the stick, being messed up and broken.
sorry if it sounds like I`m rambling pointlessly, not sure If I am looking for advice or just venting.

[schlumpy]

What have you done to isolate yourself from your old girlfriend and her new life?

Have you got rid of all the things that remind you of her? Are they boxed up or burned? Did she give any gifts that need to hit the trashcan?

Take another look at your life and eliminate anything that has her taint to it.

What have you been the last year? In a year you could have learned be conversational in another language. You could have had a pilot license by now. Did you have an leanings towards a degree? A year would have given you a good start or you could have extended what you already have. A year is a good start for piano lessons.

Did you do any memorable traveling? Join up with any groups that have you common interests with?

Those are the type of things you have to do, if you want to shake yourself out of the doldrums.

Take solace in the fact that you were not married with children. Read some of the threads from those poor souls and your life will look a lot better.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately your post makes it seem like you did her a favor by dating her. 

Just move forward but next time be in with both feet and get rid of the superior mindset and victim mentality.

If course she moved on. Your entire post reads like you settled.

Edited August 27, 2020 by Wiseman2

[salparadise]

2 hours ago, jwspark85 said:

Instead of trying to work things out she overlapped [monkey branched] with a co-worker and left me last January.

Sorry for what you're going through. It's hard. It took me something like two years to resolve the hurt after my last R ended. My advice would be to grieve intentionally for whatever amount of time is appropriate for you, and only then start viewing it as a previous chapter and turn the page. Everyone's timeline is different. You need to invest in yourself and be your own best friend (no self-loathing allowed).

I think I was naive for years and years, believing that love would conquer all. Us guys seem to want stability and reliability in relationships above all, and we tend to believe completely in our partners after a year or two of smooth sailing. But some women have a perpetual case of GIGS (grass is greener syndrome) and are always scanning for a better deal. We need to pick one who doesn't do that. How to know, I have no idea.

[elaine567]

3 hours ago, jwspark85 said:

It has been over a year since she left

From your posting history is seems like she left in early 2017, is that right?

[TeddyBundy1993]

You are still not over her, it has been more than a year. You need to let it go brother, these days overlapping is a common issue for splitting up. It's not necessary the person we date will be in our life forever, it's very rare for couples to end up together lifetime. 

She met someone else moved on without hesitating, its expected for you to feel broken sad. But you need to get over her ASAP. Sure she will get married someday, have kids whatsoever. Your life isnt over either,  you need to get over her ASAP bury her in the past. And feel your freedom again.