Uptown182 Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 So this actually didn’t happen to me, but one of my very close friends. She’s been seeing a guy for the past few weeks. The other night he was over her place and was showing her some funny meme he got in a text message. He then put his phone down on the coffee table and went to use the restroom. She said the phone was left on the text chats and she glanced and saw his ex gf’s name. Curiosity got the best of her (and I don’t condone this at all!) and she clicked on the chat and saw that he had texted her asking how she’s doing and how her family is the day before. The ex gf responded and asked him the same, and he responded and that was the whole convo. She also saw a text he sent her a few months ago to which she didn’t seem to have responded. That was all she saw. They’ve been broken up for almost half a year she said. I personally wouldn’t be happy about this but I also think she was wrong for snooping. She was asking if she should continue seeing him because obviously she can’t bring it up since she was snooping. I told her to maybe ask if he’s spoken to his ex and see what he response is, if he’s honest about then maybe there’s nothing to it but if he lies about it then maybe it’s time to move on. What do you guys think? obviously the snooping was totally wrong so I ask that you please don’t address that, I’ve already addressed it with her.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 Sounds like they are just still friendly/keep in touch occasionally. I don't think this is a reason for her to dump him. 1
Giovane Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 She should move on, so that guy is free to find a decent girl. 4
kendahke Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 27 minutes ago, Uptown182 said: What do you guys think? I think your friend is the rebound relationship, which generally don't last and that hardly 6 months have passed since he broke up with his ex and emotionally, he's not in a space to be in a new relationship because he's still texting his ex. She should prepare herself for a break up. He's not ready for a new relationship.
Author Uptown182 Posted August 25, 2020 Author Posted August 25, 2020 32 minutes ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: Sounds like they are just still friendly/keep in touch occasionally. I don't think this is a reason for her to dump him. She has a mutual friend with him who said they had a bad breakup so according to him they don’t keep in touch. That’s why she’s concerned. I also think if you’re going to be friends with an ex more than 6 months needs to pass since the relationship ended. Unless it was totally amicable, which from what she heard it wasn’t.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 3 minutes ago, Uptown182 said: She has a mutual friend with him who said they had a bad breakup so according to him they don’t keep in touch. That’s why she’s concerned. I also think if you’re going to be friends with an ex more than 6 months needs to pass since the relationship ended. Unless it was totally amicable, which from what she heard it wasn’t. "they said," "she heard...." Maybe she should just play this out and see what actually comes from his mouth. 1 1
Mrin Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 I talk to my ex with some degree of regularity. She's still a good friend. I also would have zero problem with a woman I am in a relationship with having access to my texts with my ex. Heck, she can look over my shoulder if she wants.
smackie9 Posted August 27, 2020 Posted August 27, 2020 (edited) TBH I don't see any threat, expect the person that chooses to invade others privacy. Edited August 27, 2020 by smackie9 1
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