I have no idea where I'm going to be in the next few months. Is it worth pursuing a long distance relationship when you're a nomad/don't have a stable lifestyle?

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

29 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Women also have a need to not find themselves supporting a guy who’s homeless by choice.  

Exactly! 

[basil67]

@Leojax your chemistry may be off the charts, but all the signs she's giving are that she views you as good for sex, but are not relationship material.   Not only do you avoid giving a straight answer to her 'what are we?' question, but you're 35yo living at home with apparently no assets and no job and no plans to change it up.

Now, there's nothing wrong with your path if that's what makes you happy.  But the only women you will appeal to are ones who are also happy to live out of a car. 

[kismetkismet]

Also, I wouldn't say this is a WOMEN thing, it sounds like it's a THIS WOMAN thing. 

I know women that would love to live in a van/large vehicle and travel the country, or that aren't interested in marriage/kids and wouldn't mind a vagabond-y lifestyle. The whole tiny home/van lifestyle movement is actually pretty trendy right now lol. But this woman has already told you she wants marriage and kids, plus has a permanent home and job - so it doesn't sound like she wants the same lifestyle as OP. 

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, Leojax said:

She’s 30, has a corporate job, an apartment. 

How long do you plan on staying in the area?

[Leojax]

4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

How long do you plan on staying in the area?

Idk maybe 2 or 3 more months. 

[Leojax]

10 minutes ago, basil67 said:

@Leojax your chemistry may be off the charts, but all the signs she's giving are that she views you as good for sex, but are not relationship material.   Not only do you avoid giving a straight answer to her 'what are we?' question, but you're 35yo living at home with apparently no assets and no job and no plans to change it up.

Now, there's nothing wrong with your path if that's what makes you happy.  But the only women you will appeal to are ones who are also happy to live out of a car. 

What signs?

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

7 minutes ago, kismetkismet said:

Also, I wouldn't say this is a WOMEN thing, it sounds like it's a THIS WOMAN thing. 

I know women that would love to live in a van/large vehicle and travel the country, or that aren't interested in marriage/kids and wouldn't mind a vagabond-y lifestyle. The whole tiny home/van lifestyle movement is actually pretty trendy right now lol. But this woman has already told you she wants marriage and kids, plus has a permanent home and job - so it doesn't sound like she wants the same lifestyle as OP. 

Agree! I don't personally know women like this, but they surely do exist.  OP just needs to fine one of them to connect with. A woman with a corporate job who wants marriage and kids isn't her.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

2 minutes ago, Leojax said:

What signs?

She literally told you she was just bored during quarantine.  And sometimes she doesn't respond at all to your texts.

[basil67]

12 minutes ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said:

She literally told you she was just bored during quarantine.  And sometimes she doesn't respond at all to your texts.

And you mostly initiate contact to her.

Edited August 25, 2020 by basil67

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

And she's an ex.  Exes are exes for a reason.

[Leojax]

16 minutes ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said:

She literally told you she was just bored during quarantine.  And sometimes she doesn't respond at all to your texts.

She said that as a joke. We tease each other a lot. 

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

2 minutes ago, Leojax said:

She said that as a joke. We tease each other a lot. 

OK then yes, she's totally interested in you and wants a relationship.  It's clearly the only thing you want to hear in this thread.

[kismetkismet]

Just to clarify - What are you hoping to get out of the relationship OP? Do you just mean that you want to keep dating her while you're in town? Or are you asking if we think she's likely to commit to a long term, long distance relationship with you? 

ETA: Also, do YOU want marriage, kids, and a permanent home in the next few years?

Edited August 25, 2020 by kismetkismet

[basil67]

Even if she is into you, why would she tie herself down to you while you go swanning around the country?   It would hardly be a rewarding relationship for her.

[Wiseman2]

11 hours ago, Leojax said:

Idk maybe 2 or 3 more months. 

So yeah this is just casual, right?

You're not hoping she rescues you from unemployment and poverty and homelessness, are you?

You have your folks to crash at for now. From there you can get some gigs/jobs until you have the money to drive around the country again.