Letschill Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 I feel like I have an old flame who contacts me. Not sure, Any ladies on here?
Wiseman2 Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 Reset your privacy settings to get rid of scammers, catfishing and limit access to real people you actually know. Why do you want this old flame contacting you?
basil67 Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 Why do you "feel like" an old flame is contacting you?
d0nnivain Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 2 hours ago, Letschill said: I feel like I have an old flame who contacts me. Not sure, Any ladies on here? Some people do this -- men & woman. You can eliminate this problem by declining social media connections from people you don't know in real life
Wiseman2 Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 2 hours ago, Letschill said: I feel like I have an old flame who contacts me. Wishful thinking or at a seance? 4
Velvet teddy Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 3 hours ago, Letschill said: I feel like I have an old flame who contacts me. Not sure, Any ladies on here? They do. I know of women who have done this. 2
kismetkismet Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 I've heard of both men and women doing this, yes. 1
kendahke Posted August 24, 2020 Posted August 24, 2020 On 8/23/2020 at 5:26 AM, Letschill said: I feel like I have an old flame who contacts me. Not sure, Any ladies on here? some are capable of this behavior. 1
ssm617 Posted August 24, 2020 Posted August 24, 2020 I have heard stories about both some men and women doing this. You can either set your account to private or block the account that you think belongs to your ex. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 24, 2020 Posted August 24, 2020 I know of men and women who have created fake accounts to stalk. Actual contact? I haven't heard of that personally, but it doesn't mean it hasn't happened.
Physx Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 (edited) Yes, MANY do this. Contrary to the suggestions on this thread of only accepting requests from people you know, this doesn't always work either. The more skilled ones will simply create profiles with pictures of people you know, say their old profile was hacked and they're making a new one, etc. You simply need to accept that when it comes to online social media, you never know who may be looking at it, so only post what you are ok with literally anyone and everyone knowing about you. I have a crazy ex that ALWAYS has a "stalker profile" on my friends list. It got to the point where I just let her keep one of them on there, as I know if I block it, she'll just eventually make another and slip through the cracks. Personally, that's my suggestion, as in that instance, you at least know which profile is theirs. Either that, or spend hours and hours of your time trying to filter every single friend on your friend's list. Edited August 25, 2020 by Physx 1
NuevoYorko Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 I'm not sure that women are any more prone to stalking than men are. Anyone can do it, social media makes it pretty simple. 1
CLS63AMG Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 I have an ex from a few years ago that checks in on me once in awhile ( I know how to see whos searching for you on FB), not under a fake name though lol
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 1 minute ago, CLS63AMG said: ( I know how to see whos searching for you on FB) You can do that?? I better stop stalking people lol!
CLS63AMG Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 2 minutes ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: You can do that?? I better stop stalking people lol! I got rid of FB back in 2012. In 2016 I needed an account to run ads, so I made a new one under my name and location but left everything else blank, no friends etc. A couple weeks later my "people you may know" list was full of old dates and co-workers. Even to this day, the first person in that list is usually a girl I met on some dating site that looked me up. Its fun to check every now and then.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 46 minutes ago, CLS63AMG said: I got rid of FB back in 2012. In 2016 I needed an account to run ads, so I made a new one under my name and location but left everything else blank, no friends etc. A couple weeks later my "people you may know" list was full of old dates and co-workers. Even to this day, the first person in that list is usually a girl I met on some dating site that looked me up. Its fun to check every now and then. Oh ok. I don't think that means they are looking for you, though. I had a dummy account as well that I used for work and it doesn't even have my real name on it, but I frequently got friend suggestions for people I know (who don't know about that account). I think it's just algorithms and the interconnectednesss of FB, email, Google, apps, etc. 1
kendahke Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 (edited) 17 hours ago, Physx said: The more skilled ones will simply create profiles with pictures of people you know, say their old profile was hacked and they're making a new one, etc. If I get a second friend request from someone I've already was friends with, I always ask a question the answer to which only they would know. Edited August 25, 2020 by kendahke 1
CLS63AMG Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: Oh ok. I don't think that means they are looking for you, though. I had a dummy account as well that I used for work and it doesn't even have my real name on it, but I frequently got friend suggestions for people I know (who don't know about that account). I think it's just algorithms and the interconnectednesss of FB, email, Google, apps, etc. Nope, there was no connection to the account at all, new dummy email acct. I've been chatting to girls on bumble and next day they're in there, and told me they looked me up. Acct also has zero friends, so there's no connections that way either, its legit. Unfriend yourself from your dummy acct lol Edited August 25, 2020 by CLS63AMG
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 25, 2020 Posted August 25, 2020 23 minutes ago, CLS63AMG said: Nope, there was no connection to the account at all, new dummy email acct. I've been chatting to girls on bumble and next day they're in there, and told me they looked me up. Acct also has zero friends, so there's no connections that way either, its legit. Unfriend yourself from your dummy acct lol I am not friends with myself on my dummy account.
CaliforniaGirl Posted August 27, 2020 Posted August 27, 2020 (edited) On 8/24/2020 at 6:17 PM, Physx said: Yes, MANY do this. Contrary to the suggestions on this thread of only accepting requests from people you know, this doesn't always work either. The more skilled ones will simply create profiles with pictures of people you know, say their old profile was hacked and they're making a new one, etc. You simply need to accept that when it comes to online social media, you never know who may be looking at it, so only post what you are ok with literally anyone and everyone knowing about you. I have a crazy ex that ALWAYS has a "stalker profile" on my friends list. It got to the point where I just let her keep one of them on there, as I know if I block it, she'll just eventually make another and slip through the cracks. Personally, that's my suggestion, as in that instance, you at least know which profile is theirs. Either that, or spend hours and hours of your time trying to filter every single friend on your friend's list. This is just crazy. I'd worry. If you know it's her why on earth would you accept her friend requests? Unless you're an influencer who receives dozens of requests per day, surely you're able to note when you've blocked her account, then bam, someone you've literally never met or even spoken to tries to friend you. People this seriously into stalking and this persistent can be dangerous, especially the longer it goes on and the more frustrated they get. I'll never understand why people don't call one another out on this. "Sara, I know this is you again and honestly, it's getting creepy. One more time and I call the police." Done. Block. And actually doing it the next time in case she's trying to call your bluff. Have a record, an official record, that you're being stalked, by Person X, address such and such. Without a threat or sometimes, a literal harm attempt the cops won't do anything major but they WILL have to note your report and they may contact her just as a warning, and that alone might get rid of her. If you DON'T keep letting this go on and on until she's crazed to the point that there's no stopping her anymore. Edited August 27, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl
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