Am I completely stupid?

[missbrit]

Okay, I've known this guy, Jeremy for about seven years and we dated for awhile, then didn't really see eachother for a few years. Then I see him again and I feel the same way I always did. I absolutely love him. He is engaged now. I see him every weekend and he's so sweet to me and always telling me he loves me and that he was talked into buying the ring for her, and never really intended to marry her. He says they aren't happy together and she knows he doesn't want to be with her anymore. They live together, and when I ask why he won't just move out, he says because both of their names are on the lease and he doesn't want to leave and trust that she'll take care of things, and can't legally make her leave. She will leave and stay with her mom for awhile and I'll think it's over, then she comes back. And he lets her. She treats him horribly. She has cheated on him several times, yet he won't tell her about us. He says he doesnt care if she knows, he just doesnt feel like he needs explain anything to her. I get conflicting opinions from my friends. My girl friends usually say it will work out and he will leave her because he loves me, etc. Guy friends tell me I'm stupid and he'll marry her. I don't know what to do. I love him. I do, but I don't want to wait for him if he's never really going to do anything.

[magda]

Who can say? I suggest you stop going out of your way for him and see what he does. Actions speak louder than words. Definitely DON'T wait around.

[westernxer]

Jeremy's either a pussy or a liar.

[LucreziaBorgia]

For whatever reason, he needs her in his life or he would cut her loose. I'm sure he loves you in his own way, but he does not love you in the same way he does his STBW. He loves you in a different way: one that will have no effect on his getting married to this other girl.

 

You may want to consider cutting yourself loose, so that you don't have to endure his wedding and worse yet continue on with him as the 'official MM'.