Author rudiger Posted August 21, 2020 Author Posted August 21, 2020 2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: At this stage, you two are still essentially strangers. You have met her just three times. As such, it's not that odd that she didn't follow up with an explanation of what she was doing when she was busy. She doesn't owe you that and may not have thought that much of it. She's still engaging so I don't think you have cause for concern yet. If she does it again, then yes, you might be able to assume she's not interested. I don't think you're there yet, though. This is true, we are essentially still strangers. She doesn't owe me an explanation. Although I know she does have a busy schedule.
Ami1uwant Posted August 21, 2020 Posted August 21, 2020 10 hours ago, schlumpy said: When I get my car keys, mask and head for the door. My wife will ask, "Where are you going?" I don't say, "I'm going out" and then leave. I give her an explanation as to where I'm going and about how long I'll be gone. She is telling you she wants to be exclusive by stating you are only one (which means there are others) she wants to date. Ask yourself if you would want to leave doubts in the mind of someone you wanted a relationship with by giving no explanation for being "busy" on certain nights. Don't move forward with her until you find out what she is doing on those nights. If you do it will be like having a blind spot when driving. Does she ask that ehen when you go to work? there is a way to ask properly. If you ask the question with phrasing bias can change the dynamic. There is a difference in asking out of curiosity vs being controlling.
schlumpy Posted August 21, 2020 Posted August 21, 2020 31 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: Does she ask that ehen when you go to work? there is a way to ask properly. If you ask the question with phrasing bias can change the dynamic. There is a difference in asking out of curiosity vs being controlling. I'm retired and so is she. My wife used to go everywhere with me but she is disable with MS and has underlying conditions that COVID could use against her. It's better that she stays isolated for the time being. She would probably deny it but I think there is some anxiety as to what would happen if I suffered some mishap. She is quite dependent upon me so it has to weigh on her thoughts. No, no control is involved. That has never been an issue for us. But thank you for your concern.
Velvet teddy Posted August 21, 2020 Posted August 21, 2020 On 8/20/2020 at 11:32 PM, rudiger said: I have been seeing my girl for two weeks. And recently she has been telling me that she's "too busy" without offering an explanation, when I try to schedule for us to meet up. But she does visit me at least once a week. Is she uninterested or genuinely really just busy? I don't get it. So she still does meet u once a week? But you want more visits? She could genuinely be busy or else wouldn't see you at all 1
Author rudiger Posted August 22, 2020 Author Posted August 22, 2020 37 minutes ago, Velvet teddy said: I don't get it. So she still does meet u once a week? But you want more visits? She could genuinely be busy or else wouldn't see you at all That's true.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 22, 2020 Posted August 22, 2020 Have you tired to plan a date since then, OP?
Author rudiger Posted August 22, 2020 Author Posted August 22, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Have you tired to plan a date since then, OP? Yes, we agreed to a picnic tomorrow afternoon. And I am genuinely pleased. Because I guess it shows she's interested. Thanks for asking. Edited August 22, 2020 by rudiger
smackie9 Posted August 22, 2020 Posted August 22, 2020 This is why we date....to get to know them and see if they fulfill our expectations. This girl has a pretty full plate, with studies, school and work. You should be glad she is trying her best to fit you in. Now you better put your best foot forward and impress this girl. Look good, smell good for this picnic, and good luck! 1
Author rudiger Posted August 22, 2020 Author Posted August 22, 2020 3 hours ago, smackie9 said: This is why we date....to get to know them and see if they fulfill our expectations. This girl has a pretty full plate, with studies, school and work. You should be glad she is trying her best to fit you in. Now you better put your best foot forward and impress this girl. Look good, smell good for this picnic, and good luck! Thank you.
kismetkismet Posted August 22, 2020 Posted August 22, 2020 When I'm making plans with anyone, I don't necessarily tell them why I'm busy each day, I just say which days work for me. And I definitely don't give a guy I just started dating a full breakdown of my schedule. 1
Wiseman2 Posted August 24, 2020 Posted August 24, 2020 On 8/20/2020 at 6:32 PM, rudiger said: I have been seeing my girl for two weeks. And recently she has been telling me that she's "too busy" without offering an explanation, when I try to schedule for us to meet up. But she does visit me at least once a week. Is she uninterested or genuinely really just busy? 2 weeks is just a start. Slow down and see how it goes. In the meantime do not ask sexual questions at work to women employees you're attracted to. Overall you need boundaries. Both at work and in dating.
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