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I have a date tomorrow night with another younger man.  I'm 45 and he is 32.  Not a kid but certainly younger.  I will update as time goes on.  And he knows I am older and doesn't seem to mind this.  We met on Hinge.

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From what I know about you, I don't think you'd have trouble connecting with a younger man.  Good luck!

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36 minutes ago, mortensorchid said:

I have a date tomorrow night with another younger man.  I'm 45 and he is 32.  Not a kid but certainly younger.  I will update as time goes on.  And he knows I am older and doesn't seem to mind this.  We met on Hinge.

 

Did you ask mom?

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10 hours ago, mortensorchid said:

I have a date tomorrow night with another younger man.  I'm 45 and he is 32.  Not a kid but certainly younger.  I will update as time goes on.  And he knows I am older and doesn't seem to mind this.  We met on Hinge.

Go for it!

Dont worry about the age thing. Too many people these days judge on age but its just a number. 😁

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It just depends on the two people's mindsets.

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It's far far more than just a number. But weren't you saying awhile back it's why none of your stuff has worked out and your gonna be more realistic from now on anyway , because you want a real relationship. Ahhh, that didn't last long. Sorry but it's a bit of back to doing what you always did and getting what you've always got already but ahwell, it's only one date.

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15 minutes ago, chillii said:

It's far far more than just a number. But weren't you saying awhile back it's why none of your stuff has worked out and your gonna be more realistic from now on anyway , because you want a real relationship. Ahhh, that didn't last long. Sorry but it's a bit of back to doing what you always did and getting what you've always got already but ahwell, it's only one date.

If both people are mature it shouldn't  really matter.

32 is not a bad age though. 

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Have fun!

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12 hours ago, mortensorchid said:

I have a date tomorrow night with another younger man.  I'm 45 and he is 32.  Not a kid but certainly younger.  I will update as time goes on.  And he knows I am older and doesn't seem to mind this.  We met on Hinge.

Why tomorrow?  Why not tonight?  

Now you both have an entire day to overthink it, become overly anxious, and start looking for reasons to bail.

Isn't this what typically happens?  Not just with you but many people.  

Tomorrow comes and he didn't call/text early enough to confirm, he sounded meh, he's too young, I'm too old --> I decided to break it.

Or maybe he will for same or some other reason.  Anxiety.

I see and hear about this so often (not just you) it's like listening to a broken record. 

It also happened to me where I almost bailed on meeting my long term boyfriend due to anxiety! 

If I have any advice, try to relax.  You sound relaxed now, but things can change as the meet grows nearer. 

Most importantly, have fun!  

 

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12 hours ago, mortensorchid said:

I have a date tomorrow night with another younger man.  I'm 45 and he is 32.  Not a kid but certainly younger. 

🐆 Are you test driving the cougar route? 

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GL; HF

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Qell here's how it went (just got home from it):

We met at a restaurant which we decided on since he and I live a hike from each other so we decided on a place in between.  He didn't seem nervous or weak, he was quite aloof and standoffish but I can be like that myself so it didn't bother me.  We talked about things ranging from a lot of subjects which was kind of refreshing.  He was/is a teacher like me (he teaches adults for their GEDs) and is currently working as a security guard in the meantime.  He was an odd duck but I am as well, yet, like I said, I feel as well and I can be average too.

How'd it end?  Well he walked me to my car and I said this is me.  He said he parked around the corner.  He said we're not supposed to touch each other with the virus protocol but we touched elbows instead of shaking hands or hugging.  And he said "give me a ring if you want to get together again."

I have a feeling I won't hear from him again.  If he doesn't reach out in 48 hours then he's not that interested.  Ah well, life goes on.

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He invited you to call him. Not necessarily my style but at least it's equitable. Are you inclined to see him again? If so, are you inclined to call?

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I don't like his nonchalant attitude 

 

He seemed very unenthused

 

I would be too if I were you after the way he left things off 

 

Life is too short to be with someone who isn't excited about you 

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33 minutes ago, Disillusionment373 said:

I don't like his nonchalant attitude 

 

He seemed very unenthused

 

I would be too if I were you after the way he left things off 

 

Life is too short to be with someone who isn't excited about you 

I agree that life is too short to be with someone who is not excited about the situation.  Just wish I could find someone who had some enthusiasm. 

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Hey, it was an ok date. Hopefully next time it'll be a good date. Keep the faith. You have a determination about you. Your persistence is bound to pay off eventually. 

Also, if you want to meet enthusiastic people, cultivate your own enthusiasm. Like attracts like. 

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4 hours ago, mortensorchid said:

Qell here's how it went (just got home from it):

We met at a restaurant which we decided on since he and I live a hike from each other so we decided on a place in between.  He didn't seem nervous or weak, he was quite aloof and standoffish but I can be like that myself so it didn't bother me.  We talked about things ranging from a lot of subjects which was kind of refreshing.  He was/is a teacher like me (he teaches adults for their GEDs) and is currently working as a security guard in the meantime.  He was an odd duck but I am as well, yet, like I said, I feel as well and I can be average too.

How'd it end?  Well he walked me to my car and I said this is me.  He said he parked around the corner.  He said we're not supposed to touch each other with the virus protocol but we touched elbows instead of shaking hands or hugging.  And he said "give me a ring if you want to get together again."

I have a feeling I won't hear from him again.  If he doesn't reach out in 48 hours then he's not that interested.  Ah well, life goes on.

 

Generational differences :)

 

hes what...half your adult age? ..

he might not be sure how you felt on the date so he played it safe letting you take the lead.

 

 

 

 

 

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12 hours ago, mortensorchid said:

I have a feeling I won't hear from him again.  If he doesn't reach out in 48 hours then he's not that interested.  Ah well, life goes on.

Mo... I always read your posts... and I'm glad you got out on a Friday night. But, your negativity is showing through already.  That negativity will bleed out, and that will influence the date.  You were probably feeling it somewhere along the line during the date... and in turn... he picks up on it.    Also... you don't know his life story yet.  Maybe he really is concerned, and has older parents he is helping out.  OR... maybe he is still feeling a little uneasy about dating in general after a bad break-up (or Divorce) like I was. 

Go in positive, and you will have a better outcome. 

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11 hours ago, mortensorchid said:

I agree that life is too short to be with someone who is not excited about the situation.  Just wish I could find someone who had some enthusiasm. 

But you didn't either.  So you deserve to be given enthusiasm but he doesn't?

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16 hours ago, mortensorchid said:

  And he said "give me a ring if you want to get together again."

So give him a call in a day or so.  Not a text... a phone call.  I'm with GT on this one, not my style to put the follow-up on the woman to call, but the situation is what it is.

Dating during this pandemic is going to be a little different, but you tried, you went out, you both showed up and had a nice time. 

Do you think the distance/commute is going to be a problem (for future dates)??

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Most women are not interested in being the initiators in dating, and that's biological, as it doesn't get us what we want and need. Clearly this is how @mortensorchid feels as well. 

But don't let a mediocre date get you down. As I said, your persistence is admirable and will pay off eventually.

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If he didn't have any interest, he wouldn't have told you to call him.  Maybe he's just as jaded as you and has had a lot of no-go dates, just like you.  So - again, just like you - it may be hard for him to be enthusiastic, especially with someone who's not showing any enthusiasm herself.  

If you like him and have nothing else to do, give him a call.  Someone has to have a little courage.  

I agree with Ruby, the fact that you keep trying is great, so keep at it!  

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Call him, it's a date.  Dates are fun, fun, how would you get to know any person younger, older, same age, green, red or purple....except to go on dates.  It's not marriage MO, what fun do you want to get up to, what place would you like to see?  Call him up, ask him out and have FUN.

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So totally friend zoned....An interested man would ask you out again. Toss his number.

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18 hours ago, mortensorchid said:

And he said "give me a ring if you want to get together again."

Ring him. That's how you left it.

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