Author Hotmess118 Posted August 23, 2020 Author Posted August 23, 2020 9 hours ago, rjc149 said: If that was his honest reason, that you got a little drunk and talkative and weren’t 100% cognizant of conversation etiquette, and it was just too much for him to handle and required several days of the silent treatment, he sounds like a little bitch. I would choose a more forum-friendly term if could think of one, but really can’t think of another way to say it. Do you truly still feel like you missed an opportunity here? Or are you just stung that your ego got nipped? I saw potential, but I don’t feel like I missed an opportunity. I don’t want to be with someone who can’t communicate and who can’t be forgiving. If it had been the other way around I could have forgiven him. Everybody makes mistakes and this was something we could have easily turned around and laughed about, but he chose to act like a child and avoid the issue. Ultimately I just wrote him back and said “Thanks for writing me back. I’m sorry about how things turned out. I wish you the best”.
Wiseman2 Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 Excellent. Now block and delete him. There's more to the story, but that will only become clear with time. 1
Allupinnit Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 Yeah I kind of feel like he grabbed on to what you already suggested might be his problem and he just ran with it because he can't come up with his own reasons - he knew all of those things he said to you were BS. Unfortunately it's just another case of pump and dump. It SUCKS. But it happens a lot. Huge hugs to you moving forward. 4
poppyfields Posted August 23, 2020 Posted August 23, 2020 21 hours ago, rjc149 said: If that was his honest reason, that you got a little drunk and talkative and weren’t 100% cognizant of conversation etiquette, and it was just too much for him to handle and required several days of the silent treatment, he sounds like a little bitch. I would choose a more forum-friendly term if could think of one, but really can’t think of another way to say it. How about d*uchebag, that would work too. But yeah, I agree with you rjc and to hotmess, please don't respond thanking him for his "honesty" guy is a POS. I know this must be extremely disappointing. You think you know someone, even a little, and then they pull something like this. A book I recommend "The Sociopath Next Door" - truly enlightening. 1
rjc149 Posted August 24, 2020 Posted August 24, 2020 On 8/23/2020 at 12:22 AM, Hotmess118 said: I saw potential, but I don’t feel like I missed an opportunity. I don’t want to be with someone who can’t communicate and who can’t be forgiving. If it had been the other way around I could have forgiven him. Everybody makes mistakes and this was something we could have easily turned around and laughed about, but he chose to act like a child and avoid the issue. Ultimately I just wrote him back and said “Thanks for writing me back. I’m sorry about how things turned out. I wish you the best”. Well, then it seems like this was a good learning experience and a formation of your ideal traits in a partner. A man needs to be able to communicate like an adult, he needs to be able to confront issues and challenges and not run away, and he needs to be more laid-back, easy going, and forgiving. So, every mistake a lesson. Another lesson I think you should take away is to not get so invested into someone you hardly know. The major contributing factor in your anguish over this. Guard your heart. If you're someone who is anxious and dating spikes your anxiety, it's a good idea to be speaking to or dating other men before you get committed to anyone. One more note, don't thank someone for finally responding to you after ghosting you, and apologize unless you owe someone an apology. This guy was not entitled to your gratitude or contrition.
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