Deaana Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 Would you consider going to a strip club as cheating?
Realitysux Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 (edited) 39 minutes ago, Deaana said: Would you consider going to a strip club as cheating? Not at all. You shouldn't really be intimidated by strippers at all. It's just a different atmosphere so it's fun to go have a drink once in a blue moon. I haven't been to one since I was 23 or 24. I'd go for a drink with my boyfriend if he wanted to. I wouldn't get jealous if he looked at other women or if he went with his friends without me. I would have an issue if he went alone because that's a strange fetish. Edited July 23, 2020 by Realitysux 1
Ami1uwant Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 Depends...if it’s for a bachelor/ bachelorette party? 1
basil67 Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 If it's just looking, then no. If there's lapdancing, it's grey. If there's a blowjob out the back, then yes. 7
Wiseman2 Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 7 hours ago, Deaana said: Would you consider going to a strip club as cheating? Is your bf doing it regularly? Cheating, no but an expensive bad habit.
Mystery4u Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 No. Gone to strip clubs with more than one girlfriend too, they had no problem with it. There were more women handing out money to the girls in stage than there were men!
Fox Sake Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 8 hours ago, Deaana said: Would you consider going to a strip club as cheating? I think it depends on the context. Generally no , but if it’s a regular thing then I would say it’s cause for concern as is blatantly just objectifying women. Unless it’s the in the Philippines, as that’s how a lot of women make ends meet and support their children. It’s not as objective as other countries and me and an ex gf would regularly go for drinks in strip bars and tip the waitress’. (I lived in Malaysia for 5 years and would go and see my exes dad who was a U.K. expat in the Philippines , he would also take us to these bars , with his wife and it was just out of supporting those less fortunate, of which there are many. There’s a very defining line)
Author Deaana Posted July 23, 2020 Author Posted July 23, 2020 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: Is your bf doing it regularly? Cheating, no but an expensive bad habit. No, as far as I know my boyfriend has never done it since we were together. I just asked because me personally would get mad but I have heard many people who think it is fine and I was wondering if I'm that kind of girlfriend who makes it a big deal even if it might not be
Author Deaana Posted July 23, 2020 Author Posted July 23, 2020 7 hours ago, Ami1uwant said: Depends...if it’s for a bachelor/ bachelorette party? Why? It's the same even for bachelor/bachelorette party. You either consider it or not. Doesn't matter if you are celebrating or just going there for fun 1
Mystery4u Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 9 minutes ago, Deaana said: No, as far as I know my boyfriend has never done it since we were together. I just asked because me personally would get mad but I have heard many people who think it is fine and I was wondering if I'm that kind of girlfriend who makes it a big deal even if it might not be Instead of getting mad, why not just go with him?
elaine567 Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 9 minutes ago, Mystery4u said: Instead of getting mad, why not just go with him? Why would she want to do that? I guess she is not bi or lesbian so what is in it for her? Watch her bf get all turned on and horny over women with bodies that she can't compete with... Yeah great fun. 3
d0nnivain Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 No I don't consider it cheating. However if you do, that needs to be discussed with whoever you are dating. You need to be on the same page. If your SO likes this form of entertainment, then he's not the guy for you because the subject will always case strife & secrecy in your relationship. Understand if you try to make most guys chose between honoring a promise to you about not going & ditching his buddies for something like a bachelor party, the guy will most likely lie to you. That is worse then letting him just go to look. 1
Author Deaana Posted July 23, 2020 Author Posted July 23, 2020 57 minutes ago, Mystery4u said: Instead of getting mad, why not just go with him? Well, there is a club only with strip girls. Should I watch how they dance on my boyfriend's lap
d0nnivain Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 In some of those clubs, the dancers dance for the couple. She'll dance in your lap too. Not my cup of tea but some people like it.
Author Deaana Posted July 23, 2020 Author Posted July 23, 2020 (edited) 1 minute ago, d0nnivain said: In some of those clubs, the dancers dance for the couple. She'll dance in your lap too. Not my cup of tea but some people like it. I don't like a girl dancing on my lap. But I would get even more mad if I would watch him having fun with it while they dance on him or touch him Edited July 23, 2020 by Deaana
d0nnivain Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 That is why you shouldn't go. Do understand that the dancer is a LIE. Dancers do not dance for people because they like those people or are interested in having a relationship. They do it to get paid. The more into it they act, presumably the bigger tip. It's one big illusion. The "regulars" are gross guys who like wasting money. The waste of money is the bigger problem for me. Some guy who shows up for a bachelor party, hangs back or maybe gets a little self conscious from the entertainment especially when focused on him is harmless IMO. You think it's far more serious so just date a man who shares your view on the subject. Again to me, I'd rather my guy go occasionally for a bachelor party with my knowledge then have a guy who would lie to me about it. My reaction was always the same: look don't touch; don't spend too much & call me if you want a ride home. The girls who got all upset about it & made demands, ended up with the guys who lied to avoid the drama / fight because they didn't want their buddies to think they were whipped
amaysngrace Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 I wouldn’t like it if he went regularly but if it’s for a special occasion like because his buddies are getting married then of course not, I’d be okay with it.
Blind-Sided Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 No... but it's an incredible waste of money. But....... it turns into yes if there is ANY physical contact.
Mystery4u Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 1 hour ago, elaine567 said: Why would she want to do that? I guess she is not bi or lesbian so what is in it for her? Watch her bf get all turned on and horny over women with bodies that she can't compete with... Yeah great fun. Because some of us are in adult relationships where we trust each other and don't see every single person of the opposite sex as a 'competitor'? Last year I went to Miami with my ex and her best friend and her boyfriend. The girls had the idea to go to a strip club and all 4 of us went. It was a fun night out, women can appreciate another women's body and dancing too. As mentioned there were actually more females there throwing money on the stage than there were males. Years ago I was in Rio de Janeiro with my Brasileira ex and she took me to a strip club there to experience it. Another fun night out. Damn even my current girlfriend, when I was with her in Asia a few months ago, wanted to go with me to girly bars where there were girls dancing on stage in underwear. Her idea. Not everyone is as close minded and insecure as you and your relationship. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 Mystery4u If me not liking those kids of bars makes me close minded OK fine. I'm hardly insecure (most of the time) & certainly not about some tawdry dancer. If it works for you great. If it doesn't work for somebody else, that is their preference. It's not good or bad. IMO it's only wrong for 2 people who hold opposing views on the subject to try to date each other. That is where the greatest conflicts arise. 2
elaine567 Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 Girls flocking to strip clubs to see nude women dancing and to "girly bars" to see women dancing in their underwear, are I guess at least bi... 1
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