emerald86 Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 I met a guy on a dating app a couple weeks ago and he caught my attention right away. We had long, in-depth conversations over text pretty much right off the bat, and then he proceeded to ask if we could talk on the phone. He is currently in a different city and will be back in a few weeks, which is why we haven't met in person yet. I absolutely loved our conversation. We both had so much to talk about (especially since we discovered that we have a lot of mutual friends), and I loved the sound of his voice! Toward the end of the call he told me "I had a great time talking to you. Let's keep in touch over the next few weeks and then plan something once I'm back in town..." and then he mentioned a couple of places we could go once he's back. During the call, he spoke very eagerly about meeting in person multiple times and would list off places we could meet up at. It's been about 3 days since that phone call and he hasn't texted me since. I'm now wondering if I should perhaps send him a text message to ask how he's doing? So far, he hasn't gone this long without texting but I'm wondering if I'm just overthinking.
Ami1uwant Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 You really want yo limit the talking until you meet. You need to have stuff to talk about. try to find out or more specific time he is back like the end of August for example. also talk to these mutual friends about him...
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 1 hour ago, emerald86 said: I met a guy on a dating app a couple weeks ago and he caught my attention right away.... I'm now wondering if I should perhaps send him a text message to ask how he's doing? For you, I am going to stand up and reach for the Spongebob Magic 8-ball: it said: "Wrong Bus Try Again"
Wiseman2 Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 No don't contact him. He knows your number. Is he married? Why is he initiating this while out of town?
d0nnivain Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 In his mind you have a date set when he gets back. He's not back. He doesn't see the need to keep in touch. That isn't great but it's not tragic yet. If you have something to say, it's OK to say it but just to reach out because you haven't heard from him is a tad desperate. When is he coming back? A few days before that you can reach out to firm up the plans. 2
smackie9 Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 (edited) He communicated with you to see if you were worth asking for a date....he has decided he likes you......he asked you out, you said yes, mission accomplished...there is no need to do anything else until a day or two before the date to make arrangements. He said he will contact you when he gets back....so that's when you are going to hear from him. He isn't going to invest anything more until he meets you in person and see how the date goes.....that seems to be pretty fair thing to do, instead of getting everyone's hopes up if the date doesn't produce anything. Basically it's best to not get overly invested in someone you haven't met yet. Edited August 16, 2020 by smackie9 2
FudgeSwirl Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 It's normal not to be in contact too much before meeting in person. Even if he breaks this norm since he is not in town whether for leisure or business I am sure he is busy. The phone call proves that he is very interested in meeting you and even though you couldn't plan a specific day yet because he is away right now, it's settled you have a date. Since he said "let's keep in touch" over the next few weeks you can ask him how his trip is going in a few days but if he doesn't initiate contact after responding to text days later don't stress it.
poppyfields Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 11 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: No don't contact him. He knows your number. Is he married? Why is he initiating this while out of town? This! Something's not jiving. Who made first contact, you? Him? Does he live in your city and traveling? I will reserve judgment until you answer, but if he initiated first contact while out of town, I wouldn't trust it. In any event, I would not advise texting him (chasing him), if he is legit and wants a date with you, he will reach out to you. 1
poppyfields Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 When I was single and dating, I had three rules when it came to meeting men on line: 1. Do not correspond with men who contacted me and live a long distance away. 2. Do not correspond with men who contacted me while traveling. 3. Do not correspond with men who live local but announced they will soon be traveling. Saved me a lot of anxiety and wasted energy, JUST like you're feeling right now! 2
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