Ami1uwant Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 8 hours ago, rudiger said: Would you advise me to end the relationship? I think she is the best apple you can get... as as far as marriage and kids.....at your age thus is something nobody thinks about. Most figure marriage won’t happrn till 30. Little later on in your life you should ask about if kids are something you want. This is important for a marriage to work...agreement on having children.
Wiseman2 Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 9 hours ago, rudiger said: She even made it clear to me 2 weeks into our relationship that she wanted to have babies with me. CONDOMS 1
Author rudiger Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, Ami1uwant said: Has she moved up from the tricycle to bike with training wheels yet? Loool. Edited August 16, 2020 by rudiger
Author rudiger Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 4 hours ago, Ami1uwant said: Where do you live? in the USA this is a deal breaker for me. Unless you live in a small town or workin a very high income area you need a two income household to own a house. I live in the UK, London. And the inflation rate on homes in London is very high. So her ambitions to settle down early, is very unrealistic. Especially at our age.
Author rudiger Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 4 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: CONDOMS Haha. I'll definitely make sure to always keep one on me! Thanks.
alphamale Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 16 hours ago, rudiger said: No, she doesn't comment on wanting to change our sex life. She works for her father's company. And is hard working. But she likes to go out a lot, and have fun. Not clubbing, bars or anything like that. But she is not educated. And does not have a high school degree. Which I am fine with, because she has aspirations to be a housewife. But sometimes, I find that she never really thinks before she speaks, and won't filter her thoughts and will just say whatever comes to mind, regardless if it offends the person. But one thing she made very clear to me from the beginning of our relationship. Is that she wants me to get married and her husband be the breadwinner. While she stays at home with the kids. run, don't walk 3
d0nnivain Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 This child is living a fantasy born of too much TV. When she mentioned being a housewife & having babies 2 weeks into knowing you was your cue to run screaming. At this point her comment that you are too serious for her is more indication that she's all about fun & has no sense of responsibility. She is probably open to being reckless & having unprotected sex so she can get knocked up. She romanticizes the idea of being a mom without having any understanding of what kind of work it takes. She wants somebody to pay the bills while she lives what she believes will be a life of leisure . . lunches & shopping. She's all about the fun & you being an over thinker don't fit her free spirited plans. 3
Author rudiger Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 39 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: This child is living a fantasy born of too much TV. When she mentioned being a housewife & having babies 2 weeks into knowing you was your cue to run screaming. At this point her comment that you are too serious for her is more indication that she's all about fun & has no sense of responsibility. She is probably open to being reckless & having unprotected sex so she can get knocked up. She romanticizes the idea of being a mom without having any understanding of what kind of work it takes. She wants somebody to pay the bills while she lives what she believes will be a life of leisure . . lunches & shopping. She's all about the fun & you being an over thinker don't fit her free spirited plans. I agree. I think the best decision would be for me to end the relationship. The more I contemplate. The more I realise it won't work. She disclosed to me that she wants us to live in separate bedrooms while raising 3 kids. Which I thought was ridiculous. I even told her that her expectations of our relationship is very unrealistic. She is just too frivolous about life. I should have ended it earlier. But was too stupid to see otherwise.
d0nnivain Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 You aren't stupid. She turned your head & you weren't thinking clearly.
Author rudiger Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 (edited) 31 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: You aren't stupid. She turned your head & you weren't thinking clearly. That's true, my mind was too clouded with wanting to be with her. Thank you for the advice. Edited August 16, 2020 by rudiger
zawadi16 Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 17 hours ago, rudiger said: Well that was the only time of me being with her that she has caused me to question her interest. It's usually always positive. She always picks up my calls and answers my texts within seconds of me sending them. And compliments me. She even made it clear to me 2 weeks into our relationship that she wanted to have babies with me. This is a HUGE red flag. OP she’s just looking for anyone to have a kid with who will take care of her. You’re a means to an end for her. Please break this off while it’s still only a month in and no serious attachment. pro tip: people who bring up wanting to get married to you, having kids with you, etc. early on is a serious no-no. They’re either obsessed or trying to love bomb you to get what they want. Both signs to break it off. Do not get this confused with just generally speaking about wanting kids and marriage with a partner in the future... 2
Author rudiger Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 6 minutes ago, zawadi16 said: This is a HUGE red flag. OP she’s just looking for anyone to have a kid with who will take care of her. You’re a means to an end for her. Please break this off while it’s still only a month in and no serious attachment. pro tip: people who bring up wanting to get married to you, having kids with you, etc. early on is a serious no-no. They’re either obsessed or trying to love bomb you to get what they want. Both signs to break it off. Do not get this confused with just generally speaking about wanting kids and marriage with a partner in the future... I am making plans to end it with her as soon as possible.
smackie9 Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 I dunno....them young ones seem to throw comments out there because they are fishing for a complement, Her: you are too mature for me, You: "Oh you are just right for me, I think you are fun, that's what I like about you...so spontaneous." that would have her fluttering. 1
alphamale Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 38 minutes ago, rudiger said: I am making plans to end it with her as soon as possible. not as soon as possible, right now! 2
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