Matthew8213 Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 So last night my gf came out with her favorite mask (it had a nice design), and later on in our date, when we went to the back of my car to cuddle, I tossed all of our stuff off the back seats into the front passenger seats. Once I left, she messaged me telling me I had her mask, and that she wanted it back when we'd hang out next. I've been looking in my car ever since I got home, and I can't find it for the life of me. i didn't lose anything, and it's a small car, so my guess is that it fell out of the car when we opened a door or something, but it's not anywhere in my car. My gf is upset about the whole thing, calling me irresponsible and reckless for losing her mask. I'm still looking for the mask, and I feel bad it's lost and completely understand why she'd be a bit sad over it, but ultimately it's her mask, and I didn't treat it any differently from my things that were in my car. It might still be in my car, and I won't give up on looking for it, but I don't think that the labels she's giving me are fair at all, especially because I don't think it was 100% my responsibility to track all of her stuff. What do you guys think?
Wiseman2 Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 All you can do is look for it. She's responsible for her stuff. It will probably turn up sooner or later.
kendahke Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 (edited) 25 minutes ago, Matthew8213 said: My gf is upset about the whole thing, calling me irresponsible and reckless for losing her mask. Why didn't she put it in her purse when she took if off her face? Or in her pocket? Or in her bra? 25 minutes ago, Matthew8213 said: What do you guys think? I think she's being unreasonable--she got out of the car with her wallet, keys and purse, so why is it your fault she didn't put her mask in her purse? Edited August 14, 2020 by kendahke
ExpatInItaly Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 She’s over-reacting and being unfair. How have things been in your relationship otherwise? Sometimes these seemingly small arguments are symptoms of bigger problems. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 This is 100% not your fault, and I'd not take kindly at all to being called irresponsible and reckless over it. Her belongings are her responsibility to keep track of. Never in a million years would I give somebody a hard time like this. If I were you, I'd tell her I'd keep looking for it, but definitely don't take responsibility or offer to replace it, as that would set a bad precedent.
FudgeSwirl Posted August 15, 2020 Posted August 15, 2020 She's overreacting. Her mask is her own responsibility and since it is essential, nice design or not, she should have remembered to take it. If she's still upset about it in a couple of days something else is probably bothering her. As @ExpatInItaly mentioned, sometimes when people get upset over nonsense it means something else is bothering them that they are trying to contain for whatever reason (ex: they think it's trivial or don't want to upset someone).
ShyViolet Posted August 15, 2020 Posted August 15, 2020 She's being a little ridiculous. Sh** happens. It's fine for her to be upset to have lost a nice mask that she really likes, but at the end of the day it's a mask, how much can it really be worth, maybe $15 at the most? It's not like she lost her phone or something. It can be replaced. And it doesn't sound like it was your fault. 1
Blind-Sided Posted August 15, 2020 Posted August 15, 2020 WOW..... 1) She is an adult, and can be responsible for her own stuff. Why didn't she look for it HERSELF before she left? If it did fall out of the door, she would have found it. 2) IT'S JUST A MASK !! ok, maybe it was her favorite... but these are semi-disposable anyway. (Even the cloth ones) And finally...... 3) If she is this way with a mask... how will she be with something real?? (Car accident, health, money issues....) Anyway... you can handle it any way you want... but realistically... the response should have been...... "I'm sorry I don't see it in my car... but don't blame me. You are a big girl, and are responsible for your own stuff." Heck... for all you know... she did take it with her... and she lost it. (Or it's in her car, and she just hasn't looked for it.) Honestly... depending on how long you have been together... this would be making me see "Bigger Picture" kinds of things with her personality. 1
endlessabyss Posted August 15, 2020 Posted August 15, 2020 What do I think? I think, if I were in your shoes, I'd break up with her for sure. She sounds annoying. Also, stop being a wuss. Please. Develop a little back bone. 1
smackie9 Posted August 15, 2020 Posted August 15, 2020 (edited) Lol so she’s a little upset....she will get over it. My mom always told me if you lose something say a little prayer asking for it to show up. So far it has worked for me. And you are right, it will probably show up somewhere like tucked between the seat and console or in the seatbelt. If she still brings it up, just say that it will give her an excuse to shop for a prettier one or two. Just stay positive and smile. Spread some of that happy energy onto her. btw you may have to stick your hand down in the seats....sometimes feeling around is better than just looking. Edited August 15, 2020 by smackie9
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