RBLL Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 So this lady I've been seeing for 5 years has been pushing me for the last year to date others too. She says she loves me and I'm the one. I fell in love with her, but she said back off, she's too grown up for romance. After a year of her saying to get out there, I told her I have to let the love fire go out. I can't be in love alone. She said good, she just wants a weekend boyfriend. She says it's too bad I never had good sex before her and to experience other good lovers like she has. We still text every day and get together on weekends. I've never asked a girl out in person, but a few have asked me out online. Thinking this out, I envision having to swallow my fear and strike up a conversation. But how do you get from ordinary chitchat to "want to have sex with me" without getting slapped? Maybe I need a dating coach to go with me? Thanks for any input.
Wiseman2 Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 Have sex with your FWB. How old is she? If you want to date, you'll have to play it by ear to see when the time is right for sex. Try to just let it happen.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 5 hours ago, RBLL said: I've never asked a girl out in person, but a few have asked me out online. Thinking this out, I envision having to swallow my fear and strike up a conversation. But how do you get from ordinary chitchat to "want to have sex with me" without getting slapped? Maybe I need a dating coach to go with me? Thanks for any input. Well, you generally don't go from ordinary chit-chat to "want to have sex?" That's what dating is for, OP. You get to know each other, see if you are attracted to each other, have dates. The physical aspect follows quite naturally, if both parties are interested. Unless you're not looking for a date but a FWB? 1
schlumpy Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 Get away from her and cut her off. You two are living in different universes. She wants a casual, non-committed open relationship and you want something intense and closed. Except for the easy sex, why are you choosing her? Don't fumble around on the dating sites. Multiple hook-ups is not what you are looking for. Get off the computer and actually interact with people in meet-ups, public places, or sporting events. Let her wallow in the "I have to be me" pit. You move on to a relationship that has a future.
Author RBLL Posted August 14, 2020 Author Posted August 14, 2020 Thanks for the input. Wiseman2, she's 58. She used to want it a lot and said I'm the best. She's the first woman I ever satisfied. Not anymore. Now she says I'm nothing new or special, and menopause killed her desire. I was making love, she was just xucking. The magic is gone. I hope to find real love, but I don't want to feel like I'm being graded poorly like with my second wife. She taught me all about sex but left because she was used to better. It's time to do guy stuff and play the field. Just not sure how to do it.
smackie9 Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 (edited) You need to make it straight to the point on your profile that you are just looking for fun experiences. Try that. Then there is no guess work why a woman wants to meet up. Edited August 14, 2020 by smackie9 1
dangerous Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 get rid if this woman fast. Her criticism and disinterest is likely killing your confidence and self respect.
Fox Sake Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 2 hours ago, RBLL said: Thanks for the input. Wiseman2, she's 58. She used to want it a lot and said I'm the best. She's the first woman I ever satisfied. Not anymore. Now she says I'm nothing new or special, and menopause killed her desire. I was making love, she was just xucking. The magic is gone. I hope to find real love, but I don't want to feel like I'm being graded poorly like with my second wife. She taught me all about sex but left because she was used to better. It's time to do guy stuff and play the field. Just not sure how to do it. You don’t need a dating coach. Those guys turn women into prey. What you need is to approach women without thinking it will get you anywhere. Before you know it, you’ll click with someone and your confidence will grow from it too. Tell yourself your smart, you’re sexy, you’re attractive, you’re fun etc etc - never underestimate the power of a positive affirmation. Any one that shoots you down - shrug it off and try again, knowing that it’s their loss. Most importantly, be excited. This is a great opportunity for you to grow some more and learn about yourself 1
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