trypoprx Posted August 13, 2020 Posted August 13, 2020 So I had my first facetime/videochat with a guy I've been texting with for a week. It only lasted a mere 10 minutes. Is that normal? Granted, it wasn't a "planned" date or anything. Also, I was sitting in my car during the call. It was mostly for privacy (I live with parents), but maybe that gave him the vibe I wasn't invested?
ccas93 Posted August 13, 2020 Posted August 13, 2020 what did you guys talk about? how did the conversation go? did you guys say you'd talk again?
Author trypoprx Posted August 13, 2020 Author Posted August 13, 2020 10 minutes ago, ccas93 said: what did you guys talk about? how did the conversation go? did you guys say you'd talk again? It was mostly just introducing ourselves... where we live, what we do, our hobbies, backgrounds, plans for the future, etc. He said he'd text me after.
ccas93 Posted August 13, 2020 Posted August 13, 2020 Just now, trypoprx said: It was mostly just introducing ourselves... where we live, what we do, our hobbies, backgrounds, plans for the future, etc. He said he'd text me after. did he give you a reason for cutting the meeting short and has he texted you since?
Author trypoprx Posted August 13, 2020 Author Posted August 13, 2020 1 minute ago, ccas93 said: did he give you a reason for cutting the meeting short and has he texted you since? He hasn't texted yet (the chat was a few hours ago). And no, he just ended it with "I'll let you go now".
ccas93 Posted August 13, 2020 Posted August 13, 2020 (edited) That's really weird and no, if I am really interested in getting to know someone I will speak for them much longer than 10 min. I think that's prob the case with most people. If the meeting wasn't planned he might have thought you were busy on the go somewhere if you were in your car. If you told him why you were in your car, then if it were me, I'd just assume he's not going to text. If he texts, great, if he doesn't, next person. Or, maybe text him and ask him, and see what he says. Edited August 13, 2020 by ccas93 1
Wiseman2 Posted August 13, 2020 Posted August 13, 2020 10 minutes ago, trypoprx said: It was mostly just introducing ourselves... where we live, what we do, our hobbies, backgrounds, plans for the future, etc. He said he'd text me after. Ok, it's an introduction so that's fine. If he texts great if not don't worry, not everyone is a match
FudgeSwirl Posted August 13, 2020 Posted August 13, 2020 I wouldn't worry too much regarding how long it lasted because you are just getting to know one another. Some people's communication preference varies. Some people keep things like phone calls and FaceTime sessions short while they are loads better in person. Especially when you first get to know somebody, sometimes that first face-to-face communication even if by screen is nerve wracking. See if he texts you. If so, great but if not that means you dodged a bullet with someone who wasn't a good match for you.
ShyViolet Posted August 15, 2020 Posted August 15, 2020 There's nothing wrong with it being only 10 minutes, but that kinda tells me that maybe you two didn't have great chemistry. If you had great chemistry, you would have gotten into a long conversation and had lots of things to talk about. And the fact that he's the one that got off the phone, saying "I'll let you go now..." It sounds like maybe he wasn't that interested.
Fletch Lives Posted August 15, 2020 Posted August 15, 2020 Ten minutes is no problem, as long as you set a date at the end. In normal times, I would say, that if you get off the call without a date, it's over. But this virus thing puts a whole new spin on things, it depends on how you two feel about it - some people are not that interested in meeting others right now.
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