mmx Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 So I am a female from US in my mid 20's dating a Brazilian guy in his mid 20's. We met on a dating app, and have been dating for a couple of months now. Things seem to be going well, and I can tell that he really like me. In conversation he has said things that make it clear is family knows about me. I mentioned about a month ago that I don't sleep with someone until I am in a committed relationship and feel comfortable. He was fine with that. As we were texting today, I told him that I deleted my dating profile, and that I am not dating anyone else. He said he deleted his too and he enjoys when we are together. How do I respond? Does this mean we are in a relationship or does he still need to ask me that?
Ami1uwant Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 Why are you having this talk now? This is something you might bring up after the first month if you are dating multiple times a week. he is likely saying yes to have sex wth you. 1
Author mmx Posted August 8, 2020 Author Posted August 8, 2020 3 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: Why are you having this talk now? This is something you might bring up after the first month if you are dating multiple times a week. he is likely saying yes to have sex wth you. Does this mean we are in a committed relationship though? He never formally asked me? We just both deleted our profiles.
Ami1uwant Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 39 minutes ago, mmx said: Does this mean we are in a committed relationship though? He never formally asked me? We just both deleted our profiles. I asked why this wasn’t talked about yet?
Wiseman2 Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 Have the exclusive conversation. That's more important if you're having sex 1
ShyViolet Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 2 hours ago, mmx said: As we were texting today, I told him that I deleted my dating profile, and that I am not dating anyone else. He said he deleted his too and he enjoys when we are together. So you said you are not dating anyone else.... then he just said that he "enjoys when you are together"? Did he say that he's not dating anyone else? 1
jspice Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 Nobody here knows. You should ask him what his thoughts are. 1
Mystery4u Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 No it does not mean you are exclusive. Yes he should ask you to be his girlfriend if he wants you to be exclusive. Talk to him and ask him when is he going to ask you to be his girl.
Fox Sake Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 4 hours ago, jspice said: Nobody here knows. You should ask him what his thoughts are. Exactly. Communication is the key to just about everything. If you can’t communicate then you can’t relationship
d0nnivain Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 When is whenever you feel comfortable. The how is going to be your problem. Do NOT do this over text or with any device between you. This type of emotionally laden conversation must occur in person. Any other manner guarantees that it will get screwed up. Since you have been dating for months, agreed that you have deleted your profiles & aren't dating others because you are sexually active, I'd say something like "Hey, I'm one of those people that prefers clarity & I like everything nailed down. Since we confirmed we're not dating others & we deleted our profiles I just wanted to make sure this is an exclusive BF/GF relationship. Is that your understanding?"
Ami1uwant Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 9 hours ago, schlumpy said: Have a nice romantic dinner and seal the deal. Hell play paradise by the dashboard light... 1
smackie9 Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 If you have trouble reading him that's because he ain't that serious. From my experience, any guy that wanted to be serious with me, DID let me know, without me asking. You are dating exclusively......not a serious relationship. You two just agreed that you are not dating other people. 1
poppyfields Posted August 8, 2020 Posted August 8, 2020 (edited) 20 hours ago, mmx said: So I am a female from US in my mid 20's dating a Brazilian guy in his mid 20's. We met on a dating app, and have been dating for a couple of months now. You talked about texting each other, have you met in person or is this a long distance cyber RL? No judgment from me if it is, but it would helpful to know before responding. Edited August 8, 2020 by poppyfields
snowboy91 Posted August 9, 2020 Posted August 9, 2020 Best way to know for sure is to ask. There are no hard and fast rules about this. If you want him to be exclusive and "official", then say so. I know it seems a little contrived, but better that than for one of you to mess things up on a misunderstanding.
Ruby Slippers Posted August 9, 2020 Posted August 9, 2020 15 hours ago, smackie9 said: If you have trouble reading him that's because he ain't that serious. From my experience, any guy that wanted to be serious with me, DID let me know, without me asking. You are dating exclusively......not a serious relationship. You two just agreed that you are not dating other people. This. If he wants to be your boyfriend, he'll let you know. If a guy hadn't asked me after 2 months, I'd lose interest and move on. 1
poppyfields Posted August 9, 2020 Posted August 9, 2020 4 hours ago, alphamale said: have you two met in real life yet? I asked that question too; I'm now inclined to think they have not since she stopped responding after the question was asked. I could be wrong. 1
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