Someone I care a lot about cheated on her husband for his brother.

[Rico3]

She's been married for 20 years and has 3 teenagers with him. She recently told everyone she's been with his brother who she first met and says always loved. Her whole family was against it but now she's making her family and even her husband be ok with it and accept their relationship. (Husband ever left the house so the wife and new boyfriend could live together for some time.)

Any advice I can pass to my friend. I love her very deeply.

Edited August 5, 2020 by Rico3

[schlumpy]

Yes, tell her to prepare for emotional destruction.

I cannot comprehend how her in-laws, her husband and her friends are enabling her behavior. She obviously married the right Beta guy.

Good luck with this situation. She is going to need it.

[Wiseman2]

5 hours ago, Rico3 said:

 (Husband ever left the house so the wife and new boyfriend could live together for some time.

Could you clarify? Are they divorced, separated, or living as some sort of threesome?

[ExpatInItaly]

6 hours ago, Rico3 said:

Any advice I can pass to my friend. I love her very deeply.

Has she asked you for advice?

It sounds like she's got it all sorted out the way she wants it. 

[kendahke]

8 hours ago, Rico3 said:

She's been married for 20 years and has 3 teenagers with him. She recently told everyone she's been with his brother who she first met and says always loved. Her whole family was against it but now she's making her family and even her husband be ok with it and accept their relationship. (Husband ever left the house so the wife and new boyfriend could live together for some time.)

Any advice I can pass to my friend. I love her very deeply.

Stay out of business that doesn't concern you and definitely stay out of family business that isn't your family.

They're all grown. They know what they're doing.

[smackie9]

2 hours ago, kendahke said:

Stay out of business that doesn't concern you and definitely stay out of family business that isn't your family.

They're all grown. They know what they're doing.

I agree with this...this doesn't concern you. It might not sit right with you, but that's her business, not yours.

[Rico3]

1 hour ago, smackie9 said:

I agree with this...this doesn't concern you. It might not sit right with you, but that's her business, not yours.

She's my best friend since I was 15

[Rico3]

6 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Could you clarify? Are they divorced, separated, or living as some sort of threesome?

The husband was so broken hearted that he moved out of the house and she moved he's brother in for a few months with the kids.

 

The husband then came back to his sense and moved back into the house and the brother moved out. She's now making the brothers mend their brotherly relationship. I'm guessing she's confused because she's giving the husband another chance but still tells him she's in love with his brother. I guess she's trying to make him realize that she wants to be with the brother.

The wife's family where all mad at first but they all said they can't disown their sister so they just told her to divorce her husband first then she can be with the brother. Husband isn't wanting a divorce. He wants his wife and nobody else and can't let go.

Edited August 5, 2020 by Rico3

[Wiseman2]

30 minutes ago, Rico3 said:

The husband then came back to his sense and moved back into the house and the brother moved out. Husband isn't wanting a divorce.

So they are back together but she is still having an affair with the brother?

[ShyViolet]

I always find it weird when people post about someone else's problems.  Even though she is your best friend, it's her life and not yours.  You're a little too concerned about someone else's business.  Stay out of it.  She's going to do what she's going to do, regardless.

[kendahke]

9 hours ago, Rico3 said:

She's my best friend since I was 15

and...? She's a grown woman. She's already got a father and a mother.

She knows what she's doing. Everyone in that family is aware.

Don't make them circle the wagons.

Edited August 6, 2020 by kendahke

[Wiseman2]

Are you the husband?

[ExpatInItaly]

19 hours ago, Rico3 said:

She's my best friend since I was 15

That still does not make it your business. 

If she isn't explicitly asking for your advice, this isn't your problem and you would be wise to keep your nose out of it.