Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 5, 2020 Author Posted August 5, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, OnlyHonesty said: He was looking to get laid. The logistics thing stood out like a sore thumb...way too obvious to anyone that knows of the tricks! You are also continuing to entertain this because of the attraction. This is the point where many women continue, then later complain about men only wanting one thing. It would be easy for you to find a house via another person and in the process, keep it strictly professional. But instead, you are going to see the house with him...again, as you will discover, it's just a variation of the original logistics trick. This has little to do with selling a house. Well you might be right. Actually, what happened is on the date he mentioned he works in real estate and I mentioned I am looking to buy a house, but not with the intention of doing business with him. But he offered immediately to help me buy a house. Then I didn't go to his house as he wanted, and that day and the next I didn't hear anything from him. Then on Monday he sent me a message asking for my email and info on the type of house I am looking for. So, business moving forward. I believe that if he was interested in me, he would have asked me on another date instead. I've dated another real estate agent before the pandemic when I started looking for a house and he didn't mention for us to do business because he was romantically interested in me. He just said that if I need any tips or advice he can help, that's it. Anyway, the landlord of the current house I am renting told me today he is putting the house for sale. I have been saying for a long time I wish I could buy that house as I love it! So I am making an offer and buy this house, and am going to tell him and also of course stop the business situation between us. I think what is also putting me off (besides his pushing on the first date) is that he is not open and doesn't talk openly. I feel he is manipulating a situation and I don't know where he stands. I don't like that. Edited August 5, 2020 by MissPinkEyes 1
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 11 hours ago, S2B said: Did you meet him for coffee? I met him to see another house (together with another agent), and we didn't go for coffee afterwards. He mentioned for us to meet another day and have a coffee in late afternoon. I was left very confused, and because I don't like this type of situations I sent him a message asking if we're still dating or how looking for a house changes things in that regards between us. I don't like playing games and I prefer to be upfront and know where I stand. He hasn't responded yet and I want to see if he does and what he says.
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 2 minutes ago, S2B said: You asked the wrong question. hes not trying to date you - as he’s not made any effort - at all! He’s only trying to bed you. dont ask him again. Actually I didn't ask him like that. I said I liked to meet him at the beach bar the other day and am not sure now how meeting that way again stands with the house hunting.
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 (edited) 19 minutes ago, S2B said: Notice he didn’t even take you out for the coffee he promised? this guy is bad news... he doesn’t even keep his word. He just put you off again for a very indefinite meeting. i wouldn’t waste one more second on him. You are right. It was very weird indeed. He mentioned for us to go have a coffee after the last house visit, and when the visit ended, outside the house he asked what am I doing now, and I said well I would like to have a coffee. He then said he was really hungry and wanted to eat something too. Then we continued talking about the house we just visited, and after a while he started to say goodbye nice to meet you, and we'll meet another time for a coffee in a late afternoon... My guess is that mentioning the coffee after the house visit was just to see if I was still interested in him. When he saw that I was because I agreed with the coffee, he just went away and said we'll then meet another time IN A LATE AFTERNOON... This guy is playing games, is manipulative and I don't like it. If a guy just wants sex, fine, but no need to play these games. If he was smart we would have gone for the coffee after the house visit, but he is not concerned with me or getting to know me at all, he's only concerned with himself. That's why I sent that message asking where do we stand after all. But to be honest I don't really care anymore. I think this is way too much thinking and talking already for a guy like this. I have a date planned for tomorrow evening with a different guy (who planned it), and am focusing on that instead. Edited August 6, 2020 by MissPinkEyes 1
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 2 minutes ago, enigma32 said: Men request beach/pool dates to see you in a bathing suit. It's not about getting to know you, it's about checking out your bikini. He pushed for you to go back to his place right away because that approach generally works for him as a good looking salesperson and he likely doesn't want to spend a lot of time and energy by taking it slow and letting things happen naturally. He didn't bother with the coffee date because aside from making money from you on the house deal, from his perspective, you're a waste of time. Plenty of ladies will smash a good looking, charming guy on date 1 and those are the type he likes. That's my guess anyway. You're probably right. Well he's not the type I like as well. Nothing wrong with sex on the first date happening naturally, but not in a pushy and manipulative way like he did. So to me he is a waste of time too and we're not a match. Good luck to him with those ladies. 1
Wiseman2 Posted August 6, 2020 Posted August 6, 2020 (edited) Agree, he's just not that into you.( and never was) Block him and enjoy the other date. Don't bother with relationship talks after a couple of meetings. Edited August 6, 2020 by Wiseman2 2 1
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: Agree, he's just not that into you.( and never was) Block him and enjoy the other date. Don't bother with relationship talks after a couple of meetings. I didn't have a "relationship talk" as I was not in a relationship with him. But agree, he never was into me, hasn't responded to my message and I am moving on.
Ruby Slippers Posted August 6, 2020 Posted August 6, 2020 Why in the world would you text him asking for clarification if you're dating? Obviously you're not. He wanted sex within 2 minutes of meeting. After repeated creepy attempts, he didn't get that, so then he thought maybe he could make a commission off you. As I said from the beginning, this guy is pure sleaze. Find a different agent. 2 1
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Ruby Slippers said: Why in the world would you text him asking for clarification if you're dating? Obviously you're not. He wanted sex within 2 minutes of meeting. After repeated creepy attempts, he didn't get that, so then he thought maybe he could make a commission off you. As I said from the beginning, this guy is pure sleaze. Find a different agent. I just wanted to know what the heck are we doing, as it was all becoming too confusing to me, since on the first house visit he said now I am his client during this period (as in no dating), but then yesterday after the second house visit he said for us to meet for coffee in the evening... I have also decided to buy the house I am currently renting, so that is solved. Edited August 6, 2020 by MissPinkEyes
elaine567 Posted August 6, 2020 Posted August 6, 2020 Did you tell him you were thinking of buying your rental property?
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 2 hours ago, elaine567 said: Did you tell him you were thinking of buying your rental property? I sent him that message with that question and haven’t heard back from him since, so no I didn’t tell him I am buying the rental property. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 6, 2020 Posted August 6, 2020 Tell him you found a place to but without his help. It's unfair to allow him to waste his professional time searching for a house for you when you are in the process of buying something already. His response to that will tell you if he wanted a romance, sex or a real estate client. Armed with that critical info, you can decide what to do next.
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 (edited) 7 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Tell him you found a place to but without his help. It's unfair to allow him to waste his professional time searching for a house for you when you are in the process of buying something already. His response to that will tell you if he wanted a romance, sex or a real estate client. Armed with that critical info, you can decide what to do next. The reason why I haven’t told him that yet is because I have made an offer to the house owner below the asked price and am still waiting to know if the owner accepts it or not. If he does, I’ll buy it, if not I’ll continue my search. Edited August 6, 2020 by MissPinkEyes
d0nnivain Posted August 6, 2020 Posted August 6, 2020 Fair enough. When is the owner going to get back to you? the house sounds like a much better bet then the guy
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 9 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Fair enough. When is the owner going to get back to you? the house sounds like a much better bet then the guy The owner needs to speak with his wife who is away this week, so hopefully this weekend or next week I’ll know. But even if he doesn’t accept it and I continue my search, I don’t think I want this guy as my agent anymore. First of all he hasn’t said anything the whole day today after my question, and second I don’t feel comfortable with the situation, is very ackward. 1
kendahke Posted August 6, 2020 Posted August 6, 2020 (edited) 11 hours ago, S2B said: You asked the wrong question. hes not trying to date you - as he’s not made any effort - at all! He’s only trying to bed you. dont ask him again. 11 hours ago, MissPinkEyes said: Actually I didn't ask him like that. Quote I sent him a message asking if we're still dating ???? Edited August 6, 2020 by kendahke
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 2 minutes ago, kendahke said: ????? I didn’t use the word ‘dating’ in my message to him, only used it here.
kendahke Posted August 6, 2020 Posted August 6, 2020 3 minutes ago, MissPinkEyes said: I didn’t use the word ‘dating’ in my message to him, only used it here. What word did you use?
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 6, 2020 Author Posted August 6, 2020 17 minutes ago, kendahke said: What word did you use? I said I liked the time we had last weekend, would like to do it again but now I am confused if he still wants to do that and how that works with the house hunting. I didn’t use the word ‘dating’ at all, it was a normal question I guess, but haven’t heard from him since.
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 7, 2020 Author Posted August 7, 2020 (edited) So just wanna tell you guys my house offer was approved! So so happy! I have told him too that I am buying this house and said thank you to him for his help, very grateful. He read the message but responded nothing. So now there’s no more business between us, and if he doesn’t say anything it’s because he really wasn’t into me anymore after I rejected his invite to go to his house on the first time we met, so next. Edited August 7, 2020 by MissPinkEyes
Velvet teddy Posted August 7, 2020 Posted August 7, 2020 (edited) 8 minutes ago, MissPinkEyes said: So just wanna tell you guys my house offer was approved! So so happy! I have told him too that I am buying this house and said thank you to him for his help, very grateful. He read the message but responded nothing. So now there’s no more business between us, and if he doesn’t say anything it’s because he really wasn’t into me anymore after I rejected his invite to go to his house on the first time we met, so next. He's ignored you twice now. Not a good sign. Edited August 7, 2020 by Velvet teddy
Wiseman2 Posted August 7, 2020 Posted August 7, 2020 11 minutes ago, Velvet teddy said: He's ignored you twice now. Not a good sign. Agree. Lose his number because he's not into you and you don't need a realtor any longer. 1
Author MissPinkEyes Posted August 7, 2020 Author Posted August 7, 2020 12 minutes ago, Velvet teddy said: He's ignored you twice now. Not a good sign. Not a good sign at all, but hey his choice, and I am moving on. I think things didn’t go quite well from the very start anyway. 1
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