Noproblem Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 Regardless of what you gonna do. I think you need to write a sincere apology for your girlfriend as she didn't do anything wrong and you did her very wrong. I feel such letter might ease her pain a little bit. She deserves an apology from you, a sincere one. 1 1
elaine567 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 5 hours ago, Uptown182 said: Who marries someone so there friends can be jealous of them??? I think you may be surprised at just how many? Men often want that trophy wife, the woman that makes other men sit up and take him seriously. His status amongst other men improves when a man has a "wonderful" or "hot " wife. 2
elaine567 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 7 hours ago, BaileyB said: So, let’s be honest here... a woman who weighs 80 pounds is not a healthy woman. 90-95 pounds is also not a healthy weight for most women. And, am I reading this correctly, that she is also a breast cancer survivor? The woman is a breast cancer survivor and if very underweight that would worry most that the cancer had returned, it is not something to brag about... 2
Blind-Sided Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 20 hours ago, d0nnivain said: You chose sex over companionship. Literally you made this bed so now you get to lie in it. You can dump the current GF if you like but it won't get your EX back. Between the cheating, the lying & your failure to be straight with her, humiliating her by making her find out that you dumped her without telling her, she has no reason to ever speak to you again. Even at 50 I hope you learned some compassion from this & will be upfront with the next women you break up with Yep.... This 100% !!!!!! OP... I know you like your old GF... but you sh#t on her.
Wiseman2 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 13 hours ago, avalon_guy said: I have been on this phone all day. Thank you everyone for responding Your posts seem all over the place. Hopefully it's a lot of story telling and you're not suffering from some sort of early onset cognitive impairment. 2
Redhead14 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 10 hours ago, Uptown182 said: Who marries someone so there friends can be jealous of them??? That is the definition of "trophy wife". 1
Redhead14 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 47 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Your posts seem all over the place. Hopefully it's a lot of story telling and you're not suffering from some sort of early onset cognitive impairment. Or he's just bored and entertaining himself at our expense.
kendahke Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 16 hours ago, avalon_guy said: I sound immature because I am young at heart...I have a Harley, go out dancing, and try to dress younger....I have a six figure job. No sane woman wants a perpetual Peter Pan... no matter how many zeros are in that sum. Money can't buy integrity, empathy or class. You're too old for this mess... 1
kendahke Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 13 hours ago, avalon_guy said: I know I crushed her & it was selfish.... I always thought I could win her back...not now...not after the Facebook pic breakup....why did I listen to this new woman Pride goes before destruction...
kendahke Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 2 hours ago, Redhead14 said: Or he's just bored and entertaining himself at our expense. could be the onset of dementia... my ex's sister has full blown dementia which began in her early 50's...
Redhead14 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 1 minute ago, kendahke said: could be the onset of dementia... my ex's sister has full blown dementia which began in her early 50's... There's another thread running now that's running in a circle pretty much the same way this one is. The OP on that thread claims to be 22 years old I hope she doesn't have dementia 1
Wiseman2 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, kendahke said: could be the onset of dementia... my ex's sister has full blown dementia which began in her early 50's... Agree the posts have an inappropriate lewd quality, no filter and lack a coherent story. There is a blur between the wife, gf, ex, etc. and very strange medical ideas for a supposed pharmacist. That's fine, anyone can post, it's just sifting through tangential, incoherent thoughts that make it difficult to help or discuss. Edited August 3, 2020 by Wiseman2 1
Snow_Queen Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Agree the posts have an inappropriate lewd quality, no filter and lack a coherent story. There is a blur between the wife, gf, ex, etc. and very strange medical ideas for a supposed pharmacist. That's fine, anyone can post, it's just sifting through tangential, incoherent thoughts that make it difficult to help or discuss. It sounds like he got with GF1 while still married and it was an on/off thing. Then again, it is hard to make sense of it all.
Uptown182 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 32 minutes ago, Snow_Queen said: It sounds like he got with GF1 while still married and it was an on/off thing. Then again, it is hard to make sense of it all. Yup, from what I surmised from his posts he was planning to get separated or was separated (couldn’t understand) got with GF1, then he got back with ex wife because his support payments were too high. He disappeared on GF1, ex wife dies a few years later and he gets back with GF1. 1
Uptown182 Posted August 3, 2020 Posted August 3, 2020 Am I the only one who finds it a bit disturbing that the OP is a pharmacist? I hope he’s retired 1
stillafool Posted August 4, 2020 Posted August 4, 2020 Well you'd better find a way to be happy with your sex goddess grandma or don't waste her time and find someone else. The door to your ex is closed and I hope she is now getting to know a man who will love and appreciate her. You'd be surprised how that raises a woman's sex drive. After what you put her through she at least deserves that. 3
Author avalon_guy Posted August 4, 2020 Author Posted August 4, 2020 Why would you refer to my new woman as a grandma? Is this forum not friendly to people of all ages? I am extremely happy and satisfied. No more interrogations and arguments...ex would have made an excellent trial attorney. I did not want to keep hearing about it, addressing of it,, being reminded of it....too much drama.....so much stress...I apologized, I was remorseful.
kendahke Posted August 4, 2020 Posted August 4, 2020 36 minutes ago, avalon_guy said: Why would you refer to my new woman as a grandma? I am extremely happy and satisfied. Because you said: Quote New woman is not as attractive as old GF, but new woman dresses sexy and is open sexually. Quote We are in our mid 50’s. Quote I loved how young ex looked... Quote now I have an 57 yr old dressing overtly sexual, which at first I was hot for and now I am not. Quote why did I listen to this new woman That doesn't sound like you're happy with her. 2
Author avalon_guy Posted August 4, 2020 Author Posted August 4, 2020 Does my age make me a grandfather? I hope not. I am happy with my gf...she will get on my Harley, no problem...ex would never....GF is happy going out..is able to go from the beach to a bar...no issues with her being uncomfortable if her hair is messy..we are at the beach.. I have blocked ex from my life...if I would have verbalized this ending to her, we would have had an eight hour phone conversation.... and she had made me promise I would never do this. She feels this type of thing needs to be handled face to face. Too much drama. I am tired of it all. I sent her everything of hers which was here, and I know she is probably upset that I did not keep one thing to remember her by. Sex is important. I have no idea the age range, and perhaps I should not have posted...however, I put up with no sex after the baby was born, then my wife was too tired from taking care of her teenager and our toddler. The house was not big enough, we were in the wrong school district.....it never stopped....she asked for the divorce, not me. I guess I used ex as a transition person...as you judge me, have you not done this? Too many years went by...we should not have dated...I had no time, it was not right, but why live in the past. I know she will never, ever speak to me.
Author avalon_guy Posted August 5, 2020 Author Posted August 5, 2020 I feel she loved me deeply, she had my back, I knew she would bail me out if I had a financial problem, and I exited the relationship cowardly.
Uptown182 Posted August 5, 2020 Posted August 5, 2020 1 hour ago, avalon_guy said: Does my age make me a grandfather? I hope not. I am happy with my gf...she will get on my Harley, no problem...ex would never....GF is happy going out..is able to go from the beach to a bar...no issues with her being uncomfortable if her hair is messy..we are at the beach.. I have blocked ex from my life...if I would have verbalized this ending to her, we would have had an eight hour phone conversation.... and she had made me promise I would never do this. She feels this type of thing needs to be handled face to face. Too much drama. I am tired of it all. I sent her everything of hers which was here, and I know she is probably upset that I did not keep one thing to remember her by. Sex is important. I have no idea the age range, and perhaps I should not have posted...however, I put up with no sex after the baby was born, then my wife was too tired from taking care of her teenager and our toddler. The house was not big enough, we were in the wrong school district.....it never stopped....she asked for the divorce, not me. I guess I used ex as a transition person...as you judge me, have you not done this? Too many years went by...we should not have dated...I had no time, it was not right, but why live in the past. I know she will never, ever speak to me. So why are we here? If you’re happy with current GF and don’t want ex GF back what is the point of this thread? The odd thing is, out of all that has been said about you in this thread the one thing you seemed to get angry about was a poster calling your GF “grandma” which speaks volumes! 2
Uptown182 Posted August 5, 2020 Posted August 5, 2020 1 minute ago, avalon_guy said: I feel she loved me deeply, she had my back, I knew she would bail me out if I had a financial problem, and I exited the relationship cowardly. So is your concern that current GF doesn’t love you as much as ex GF? 1
elaine567 Posted August 5, 2020 Posted August 5, 2020 46 minutes ago, avalon_guy said: No more interrogations and arguments...ex would have made an excellent trial attorney. I did not want to keep hearing about it, addressing of it,, being reminded of it....too much drama.....so much stress...I apologized, I was remorseful. That is what happens when a person cheats, the other person just can't get over it, it hurts too much. The problem here is he has chosen the flighty gold digger and is feeling exposed. He has to stand on his own feet. His ex was made of better stuff, she was stable and caring and real gf/partner material. She was loyal and "had his back" I guess he thought she would put up with the cheating and he was surprised she couldn't "let it go" as he wanted her to. He got angry and annoyed by her reaction and ran to his OW. Now he is left with this "fun" woman who has no real depth and she is spending his money too. He probably knows if she got a better offer she would be gone... 1
kendahke Posted August 5, 2020 Posted August 5, 2020 13 hours ago, avalon_guy said: I am happy with my gf...she will get on my Harley, no problem...ex would never....GF is happy going out..is able to go from the beach to a bar...no issues with her being uncomfortable if her hair is messy..we are at the beach.. and she is your rebound relationship... so there's that.
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