Uptown182 Posted August 1, 2020 Posted August 1, 2020 So had a first date last night with a guy I met on a dating app. I thought it went really well, great conversation, and the time flew. We met up a bit before 8pm and then before we knew it, it was 11pm and the place was closing. When we were leaving he looked at his watch and said “wow that was the quickest 3 hours I’ve ever experienced” and I felt the same way. He walked me to my car, hugged me goodbye and then kind of lingered around and said something about thinking he’ll probably be around another week (he’s in the process of moving to my city, but still has to go back across country to finalize selling his house) and then said “but we’ll keep in touch, right?” So I said yes of course, and then he said “sorry I just don’t know how this stuff works” (meaning the dating app thing, he’s new to it). When I got home I texted him thanking him for driving in to meet me and for the drinks, and told him I had a really nice time. He responded, saying thanks for joining me and you’re very welcome :). Then he followed up with a good night text. Hard to tell if I’ll hear from him again but hope I do since this is the first date in a while where I really liked someone. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 1, 2020 Posted August 1, 2020 I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Since you know the date he will be coming back if you don't hear from him before that I'd reach out a day or so later & offer to take him out for a welcome to the neighborhood drink.
poppyfields Posted August 1, 2020 Posted August 1, 2020 I hope you do too! He and your date sound lovely! Think positive, sounds like he feels same as you, but he needs to go back home for a bit, so he'll be busy. Respect that and you keep busy too. Keep expectations in check! Focus on the connection you made with him and instead of wondering (or stressing) about whether or not you will ever hear from him again, ask yourself "why would I NOT hear from him"? My attitude when dating, and even with my bf in early stages when we didn't talk for a few days , was always "of course I will hear from him" -- it wasn't even a question really, because I just knew I would. And of course I did. Power of positive thinking will serve you well here. Good luck and keep us posted! 2 1
poppyfields Posted August 1, 2020 Posted August 1, 2020 (edited) To add, if you've been hurt in the past (who hasn't?) or had some bad or negative experiences, try to distance yourself from those experiences. In your mind, start fresh. There is a saying I quite like "The past is history, the future a mystery, and the present is a gift, which is why it's called the "present." Live in the present. In your mind, start fresh. Regrowth. Don't be afraid of a little uncertainty, it goes with the territory of new beginnings. . Embrace it, and keep staying positive. Edited August 1, 2020 by poppyfields 1
Author Uptown182 Posted August 1, 2020 Author Posted August 1, 2020 26 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I hope you do too! He and your date sound lovely! Think positive, sounds like he feels same as you, but he needs to go back home for a bit, so he'll be busy. Respect that and you keep busy too. Keep expectations in check! Focus on the connection you made with him and instead of wondering (or stressing) about whether or not you will ever hear from him again, ask yourself "why would I NOT hear from him"? My attitude when dating, and even with my bf in early stages when we didn't talk for a few days , was always "of course I will hear from him" -- it wasn't even a question really, because I just knew I would. And of course I did. Power of positive thinking will serve you well here. Good luck and keep us posted! Yea I’m not too stressed about it. Usually after a first date like that I’d be all anxious waiting to hear from the guy, but this time I’m not. I went through a breakup during this pandemic In combination with being on lockdown for months and that was super tough on me (I’m sure it was for everyone), but one thing it taught me was not to sweat the small stuff. So I’m thankful for a great date and great company even if I don’t hear from him again. It’s just comforting to know there’s other people out there for you after going through a bad breakup. Even though people tell you that’s the case, sometimes you need to see it to believe it, so now I’m hopeful that I’ll find love again. 2
Velvet teddy Posted August 1, 2020 Posted August 1, 2020 9 minutes ago, Uptown182 said: Yea I’m not too stressed about it. Usually after a first date like that I’d be all anxious waiting to hear from the guy, but this time I’m not. I went through a breakup during this pandemic In combination with being on lockdown for months and that was super tough on me (I’m sure it was for everyone), but one thing it taught me was not to sweat the small stuff. So I’m thankful for a great date and great company even if I don’t hear from him again. It’s just comforting to know there’s other people out there for you after going through a bad breakup. Even though people tell you that’s the case, sometimes you need to see it to believe it, so now I’m hopeful that I’ll find love again. Touch wood he contacts you! 1
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